Everyone Suffers in Their Way, So Stop Judging Others

We must all face the devastating consequences of the fragility of human life. We all lose, we all suffer. We all have stories we don't tell.

No two people would experience the same pain. And there is no right way to do that.

Seeing that someone is losing you sometimes starts empathizing with him because you know how it feels to be in such a situation. Sometimes, when a person's pain reminds you of your suffering, you try to offer help. But sometimes you get angry and think, "I knew what a loss was, but you can't be so devastated."

You're right, you behaved differently.

But this does not mean that no one else has the right to react as they see fit.

Some suffer unnoticed by others. They burst into tears, into their cars, after work. It only took them a few minutes after they smiled at their colleagues and wished them a fun evening.

Some people suffer openly. They write letters, share photos with loved ones on the internet. They communicate with siblings, friends, a support group.

Some people cry out loud. He expresses his pain and expresses his emotions. They release all the accumulated tension, all the anger, all the feeling of emptiness from the fact that they will never see the person they love more than life.

Some people are productively saddened. They make plans, organize events, donate to charities. They are trying to prevent their loss from ending their lives.

When these people intersect, one of two things happens: they either sympathize with the person who is experiencing a similar loss of life, acknowledging their suffering, or they look at him with condemnation. They criticize him, saying that you have to let go of your emotions, cry quietly, suffer a lot, keep remembering your loved one… and this is wrong.

There is nothing wrong with the way you suffer.

It's just not everyone's way.

Remember this when you claim to have full control over your situation and that you have an extra source of energy to help you withstand the rest of your day. All other people who are in a similar situation do not necessarily have to behave in this way.

Remember this when it seems to you that a person who does not tell everyone about his loss is not worried at all about it. Remember this when it seems to you that a person who raises funds in the memory of one of the close people simply "can't let go."

Each person gets used to the feeling of loss in his way.

Everyone decides what helps him and what doesn't, and how best to heal and live his life to the fullest.

For some, this process takes longer than others.

Some people may need extra external support.

Others need peace or time.

There is no right way to mourn the loss of someone or something that has mattered to you more than life itself. But it is wrong to blame someone else for the way they are confronted, to make them feel even worse than they are now.

Please remember - you have to find a way to move on after the loss. You have to deal with the devastating consequences of the fragility of human life.

We all lose, we are all in pain.

We all have stories we don't tell.

Remember this and know that suffering means reading, remembering, freeing yourself, and moving on. No matter how long it lasts and no matter how it happens.

Each of us has our own experience and does not have the right to decide how other people behave in difficult life situations.

The only thing you have to do is listen, keep your personal space, don't cross borders, allow them to find their way. And when your day of suffering comes, find the strength in yourself to find your way.