Can we truly make peace with losing a loved one?

I know that you're grieving and that it's difficult to get through each day. But it's time for you to make peace with losing your loved one.

Making peace doesn't mean forgetting

"Making peace" is a phrase that's often used in reference to accepting loss, but it can be misleading.

The idea of "making peace" implies we've come to terms with the fact that someone we cared about is gone forever, and have moved on as if nothing happened. This could not be further from the truth.

There are two things you need to remember: First, it's important not to forget your loved one—their memory has brought joy and happiness into your life, so why would you want to forget them? Second, you shouldn't dwell on the negative aspects of their passing either; instead focus on all the good times you had together (and there were probably many).

It's okay to feel angry

It's okay to feel angry. It's okay to be angry at the person who died. It's okay to be angry at the world, or yourself. You can even be angry at God if you want—but it won't help in any way.

The trick is accepting that there are things you cannot control and being able to let go of your anger when nothing changes as a result of it.

You can't control the grieving process

You can't control the grieving process. You might feel angry or sad, happy or nothing at all. It is okay to feel any of these things and it is also okay if you don’t feel them at all. No one grieves in the same way as anyone else; everyone experiences loss differently so don’t let other people make you feel like your feelings aren’t normal or valid.

Losing a loved one causes trauma

Losing a loved one is traumatic. The death of a significant other, parent, child or friend can cause you to experience depression and anxiety. It may also lead to substance abuse (if you're using substances as an escape). If you have PTSD or another mental health disorder, it can make your condition worse. Additionally, if your loved one who has died was someone with whom you were in conflict prior to their passing (like an ex-spouse), that grief may be compounded by the stress that this relationship caused for you before their death occurred.

The toll trauma takes on our bodies cannot be overstated: stress has been shown to affect every major organ system in our bodies at some level—from the heart and lungs all the way down to our DNA itself! For example:

• Stress causes high blood pressure; which leads not only to increased risk for heart attack but also stroke (which is often caused by high blood pressure).

• Stress can lead directly into diabetes through weight gain—either from overeating or decreased exercise due to anxiety/depression symptoms like fatigue or lack of motivation -- which then causes inflammation throughout the body and results in insulin resistance leading eventually towards type 2 diabetes mellitus type I where there isn't enough insulin secreted by beta cells within pancreatic tissue causing glucose levels rise instead of being converted into energy needed by cells instead causing damage from excessive glucose levels building up inside these cells until they burst open releasing watery contents across body tissues including brain tissue causing coma & death if untreated long enough without medical intervention such as insulin injections & drugs designed specifically for Type II Diabetes Mellitus."

You have to do what feels right for you.

It's up to you. You have to find your own way. Your journey will be different from anyone else's, and there is no "right" or "wrong" way to go through it. You may need help along the way (and if you do, don't be afraid to ask for it). But ultimately, this is something that you'll have to deal with on your own terms—and only then will it truly feel like yours. It won't feel like anything at all unless you come out of the other side with a sense of peace and acceptance within yourself—and maybe even some gratitude for having had such an important person in your life. That might sound like a heavy burden right now, but I promise that once it feels real—once you've really had time to process what happened—it will become easier than ever before.

If nothing else, remember this: Don't give up! Even though things seem impossible right now (or maybe especially because they seem impossible), there's always hope for tomorrow; just keep moving forward one day at a time until finally everything falls into place again...

Don't let anyone tell you how long it should take to move on.

Be forewarned: I'm not going to tell you how long it should take for you to move on. The way we grieve, and the time it takes us to heal, is different for everyone.

If you are an emotional wreck and don't know if or when your heart will heal, be patient with yourself. If you're feeling angry and bitter about what happened and feel like nothing will ever make sense again—treat yourself with kindness; allow yourself time to heal physically, emotionally and spiritually. You may have trouble forgiving yourself or others at first; remember that forgiveness is a process too! And if it seems as though letting go of someone who's passed away would be impossible...well then I guess we can't let go just yet!

Conclusion

“Grief is not a linear process,” said Dr. Joan Borysenko, who studies the healing power of mindfulness and yoga. “You feel, then you don’t feel. You feel, then you don’t feel. It doesn’t matter if it takes months or years before you have any sense of peace; what matters is that when it comes, it feels right for you. There are no right or wrong ways to grieve; there are only the ways that work best for each person involved."