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Are Your Emotions Hurting Your Modern Dating Experience?

"We need to stop taking dating personally and remember that most people are just dating until they meet the right person."

By Courtanae HeslopPublished 2 years ago 8 min read
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Emotion is the key to understanding human behaviour.

We all want to be happy, we all want to feel good about ourselves. Live every day as if it were your last, because one day you will be right.

Dating Advice: What To Do When Someone Says "No" In Dating - But You Don't Want To Lose Them

When someone says 'no' in dating, it can leave a bad taste in your mouth and make you feel like they don't really want anything serious with you. And yes, maybe that's true…but maybe not. Sometimes when someone says 'no' in dating, they're just waiting for a better opportunity arise so that he or she can get back on the list for another date; and that's what I'm going to talk about today. The first thing I'm going to say is don't panic! If someone doesn't say yes after a few dates then there's no need to get hysterical because of this or start sending them unwanted text messages asking why they're ignoring you! It could just mean they're busy with other things they have to do and just haven't had time to get back with you yet…so don't panic at all! All of us are busy people these days but it doesn't mean we should completely give up on an opportunity just because someone hasn't responded yet…if the person was trying hard enough getting back in touch then he or she would have already done so by now! But if he or she still hasn't replied after 4–5 days then it may be time for a test drive and give dating again a go again! If you really like them then go for it!!

The dating world has changed.

The dating world has changed. From the way we meet to how we communicate with each other, our modern relationships are now shaped by technology and the way it's changed our lives. This can be both a blessing and a curse when it comes to romantic pursuits.

It's been reported that there are now more people than ever before who are actively dating - and not just dating, but meeting up with new prospects on a regular basis too. In fact, some experts claim that nearly 50% of Americans have dated multiple partners in one year alone! That's quite a change from what was once considered normal behavior for couples just starting out together or even those who've been together for years; however as access to an endless stream of potential suitors becomes easier than ever before through apps like Tinder or Bumble that allow users anywhere near them based on location alone (not even mentioning Facebook), it seems only natural that people would want try out different options until they find one they like best - whether or not this involves actual physical contact between two parties remains unclear at best."

Technology has opened up many new ways for people to interact with each other.

As a result, it's easier than ever before to connect with people. The internet has made it possible for people from all over the world to connect, and dating apps like Tinder have taken that idea to a whole new level. Now you can find matches in your area who share your interests and values, but might not be physically attractive enough or have enough money for you (or vice versa).

It's also easier to meet someone new because these sites make it easy for you to filter out people who don't meet your preferences right away. You can set parameters by age range or even more specific criteria like height and eye color - and those filters will automatically remove profiles that don't match up with yours. This allows you to narrow down potential matches based on criteria that aren't necessarily important in real life but may help make the task of finding a date less overwhelming .

Dating sites and apps have made looking for a date so much easier.

You don't have to look very hard to find someone you're interested in on most dating sites. You can do it from the comfort of your own home, at any time of day or night, and you can easily set up dates with people who live nearby (if that's important to you). It's easier than going out and mingling at a bar or club - all you have to do is post some photos and fill out some basic information about yourself. You may not even have to talk on the phone unless you want to!

If meeting people offline isn't working for you, try online dating instead. The convenience alone might make it worth a shot!

The problem with endless options is that we now have trouble deciding what we want, and when we get it, we're often disappointed.

The problem with endless options is that we now have trouble deciding what we want, and when we get it, we're often disappointed. This can cause us to look for something better or different.

Are you always switching up your dating app profile pictures? Do you spend more time swiping than actually talking to someone? Are you constantly changing the type of person that you're looking for? If so, this probably means that there's something wrong with your current situation.

When someone doesn't ask for what they want in a relationship, they're often disappointed because their expectations aren't met - and then they blame the other person for not being able to read their mind! However, if both parties communicate their needs and desires openly then there won't be any misunderstandings about what each person expects from their relationship together

We can also be afraid of how someone will judge us, or what they'll think of us if they reject us.

In addition to the above, we can also be afraid of how someone will judge us, or what they'll think of us if they reject us. We can be afraid that they won't like our personality, our looks or something about who we are.

We must learn to stop these fears from controlling our lives and preventing us from leading an enjoyable dating experience. The only way you can do this is by thinking positively and realizing that everyone has their own personal preferences and standards when it comes to dating and relationships.

If you don't go on a lot of dates and make it to the second or third date, you may start to feel like something is wrong with you.

If you don't go on a lot of dates and make it to the second or third date, you may start to feel like something is wrong with you.

You may feel like there's something about your personality that isn't resonating with others. Or maybe there's something about the way you look, or where you live, or how much money you make. Maybe if we could just change whatever it is that makes us so undesirable as a partner, then things would improve!

When we're in this kind of mindset it becomes easy for us to blame ourselves for our dating failures (or lack thereof). And while part of this can be attributed to low self-esteem, another part of it comes from the fact that we've been raised in such a way that we see dating success as an indication that someone thinks highly enough of us as individuals and/or attractive enough as potential mates - and therefore any rejection means they must not think so highly after all! But even though many people see dating as some kind of measure by which self-worth should be judged (and many want nothing more than validation), this doesn't mean everyone feels this way…

All this means that online dating can be a wonderful thing, but it can also cause a lot of hurt feelings.

When you're dealing with so many other people's emotions, it's important to keep your own in check. All this means that online dating can be a wonderful thing, but it can also cause a lot of hurt feelings.

Online dating is an excellent way to meet people who may not have been accessible before. It gives you access to more potential partners than ever before - and, conversely, there are now more potential partners than ever before (and they might not even live nearby). That's great news! But if your heart gets broken by someone who lives across the country and subsequently finds love in another part of the world with someone else? Well…it hurts just as much as if they'd been right next door all along.

When we're hurt by someone else, our anger is really about ourselves being disappointed.

The most common emotion we feel when dealing with a broken heart is anger. When we're hurt by someone else, our anger is really about ourselves being disappointed. We were expecting to be loved, accepted and respected…and instead we felt rejected and disrespected.

Similarly if you end up arguing with someone you're dating because they said or did something that upset you…it's often because of your expectations coming into the situation that weren't met by what actually occurred in reality.

You're not putting yourself out there enough because you're afraid of being judged or rejected.

If you're afraid of being judged or rejected, then it's time to get over yourself.

You need to be more open-minded when it comes to dating in 2019. You might be surprised by how many people are looking for romance online and offline - and if there's one thing we've learned from our own experience as daters, it's that rejection isn't always a bad thing! In fact, sometimes being turned down can be just what someone needs in order to grow as a person (just ask any woman who has been on multiple dates with me). So why not give yourself permission to try out new things? After all, if everyone else is doing them too…

If you're worried about what other people think about your choices in life or love life then why don't we talk about this next week? I'll see you then!

We need to stop taking dating personally and remember that most people are just dating until they meet the right person.

At the end of the day, dating is a numbers game. You're not going to meet your significant other if you don't put yourself out there and approach as many people as possible.

It's better to be rejected by someone than it is to never get rejected at all - that's a lesson we'd do well to learn from our fellow daters on Tinder, who are often more than happy to let us know that they're not interested in us. If you're afraid of being judged or looked down upon by someone you've matched with on Tinder or Bumble, then take comfort in knowing that most people are just trying their best at dating until they meet The One (or at least someone who will treat them right).

Just remember: don't take it personally!

Conclusion

We need to stop taking dating personally and remember that most people are just dating until they meet the right person. When we can learn to let go of our expectations, we'll find that love will come along when it's supposed to.

PS: Hi! I am a freelance writer with a passion for writing. I am open to most genres, but my primary expertise is in content and blog writing. If you would like to discuss any upcoming projects please feel free to contact me by email at [email protected]

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About the Creator

Courtanae Heslop

Courtanae Heslop is a multi-genre writer and business owner.

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