Are you Addicted to Love?

I am an avid fan of the 90 Day Fiance series on TLC. When I started watching one of the shows, I swore I would never watch another episode, but 5 seasons later, I am still watching! LOL

One of the women on the show is such a gem but boy oh boy does she get herself into these awful situations with men, that she is left heartbroken all the time. She will go above and beyond for these men, but still will not get that commitment she longs for. But does she walk away and reflect and take some time away from relationships for a while? No she doesn't! Before you know it, she is preparing herself for the next guy, by chatting to guys online, whom she hopes will treat her better.

This can cause even more heartbreak as the patterns continue to repeat themselves over and over again.

There are many of us ladies, like her, who shy away from being on our own for too long. Unfortunately, many women feel that unless they are in a relationship, they are not complete. They feel 'less of a woman'.

Ladies serial relationships to find 'the one' is not the healthiest way forward. You need to give yourself some space to be complete in yourself first and enjoy your own company, before another enters your life. Especially if the last relationship ended in heartbreak, with your heart broken into pieces.

Coming out of a heavy relationship can be so weakening for the soul and unless you give yourself the space to breathe and pull you back together, the pattern will just keep continuing into all your relationships.

It's also unfair to the new guy you meet,as what tends to happen, is you will start to still talk about your ex with them. Your ex becomes the topic of conversation too many times, why? Because you are still carrying that energy from the previous relationship and holding onto that resentment.

That doesn't do you any favours in your new romance. And the new guy? Well eventually he will get fed up with hearing about the problems you had with your ex and decide to break things off...another relationship ended.

It becomes an addiction, an addiction to love from another. An unhealthy addiction which takes away your strength and weakens you.

Now I am not saying that love weakens you. On the contrary, it actually is a great addition to life and the fun and connection can do wonders for you. But relationships need to be built on two whole people wanting to be together and sharing. Not two broken people or one broken and one whole person. Once you rely on your partner to 'fill in the gaps' of your life and be the one to make you feel complete, you are not coming from a place of being whole.

Relationships require a lot of compromise and you have to be strong to do this. You have to know yourself fully so as to know how you work best at compromising. Knowing your own strengths and weaknesses instead of another pointing it out to you, is a great asset to have.

So if you have just come out of a very bad break up, which has left you feeling broken, please take the time to mend your broken heart. Don't give another the power to do that for you. It's not their responsibility, it's yours.

Relationships are about sharing, fun, giving and receiving from two whole individuals who are willing to be who they are and share that with the other person, without feeling powerless.

This can only happen when you eliminate the energy from the past relationship completely and start afresh, confident and ooze love for yourself.

Nothing is more attractive than confidence and that energy of a fresh start. No amount of make up hides baggage from past bad relationships, so clear all of that up and give yourself that space to build yourself up again before stepping out and meeting the right partner and having the relationship of your dreams.