8 Relationship Questions That Will Make Your Love Life Better

When it comes to connecting with the partner we love, we all try to communicate well in our relationship. We know that good communication is essential to maintaining a happy and strong relationship or marriage. We also understand that keeping things low will reduce the number of couples experiencing conflict. But wanting to communicate well and actually doing it are two different things.

So how much time should a "normal" happy couple spend talking and interacting each day? A study from the UK found that over time, couples don't spend nearly enough time communicating in beneficial ways.

1. Can I help you in any way?

You can see that your spouse is busy, in a hurry, or frustrated to get everything done. Ask this question and be prepared to take action on any request for help. If you live with someone who tends to do everything on their own, touch her, look them in the eye and say, “I really want to help you, what can I do?”

2. What is important to you?

When you know your partner is trying to make an important decision, ask them this question. Another way of asking is, "What do you really want?" In order to understand your spouse's thoughts and needs, it is necessary to know his or her heartfelt answer to this question. When you ask about it, he will ask them to think and talk about what they value most.

3. What do you want to do?

This is the question to ask yourself in your spare time, when planning a date, when going out to eat, or when discussing deeper goals and directions in life. Another way of asking is, "If you could do anything you wanted, what would it be?" You know your spouse's most important goals and dreams, so work with them to see how you can achieve their wants, desires, and aspirations.

4. How do I encourage you?

This question is especially important when you know your spouse is going through a difficult or frustrating time. Perhaps this is a challenge that your spouse faces alone, or it may be an obstacle in life that you both face. Figure out what your husband needs to feel cared for and supported at this point, and then do it as best you can for him.

5. Are you satisfied with our relationship?

This is an important question that every couple should discuss at least once a year. Review how things have gone between the two of you over the past few months and decide if you need to make corrections during your cycle to keep your relationship healthy and fulfilling.

6. What is your biggest fear?

This is not a question you want to ask often, but it is important to know the answer. Know the concerns that bother your partner and be open to discussing those concerns (even if you're not worried about the same things). Whether it's a project at work, a conversation with a family member, or the state of the world, you'll know what's scaring them so you can help them calm their fears.

7. What makes you happiest?

Life isn't always fun. We spend a lot of time doing our work, whether it is at work or at home, so it is important that you reward yourself for your hard work and effort. Share the things that bring happiness to each of you. The activities that bring the most happiness can change depending on the stage of life. So don't be surprised if something new is at the top of the list.

8. What do you want from our life together?

This question can include short- and long-term goals, objectives, and desires. Take the time to find out what this is for your partner and give their goals the attention they deserve. Your efforts to achieve their ideal life will motivate you to prioritize your goals, objectives, and desires as well.