5 Tips for Keeping Your Sugar Relationship Perfectly Sweet

It’s not uncommon for new sugar daters to wish they’d taken the big plunge into the sugar bowl a whole lot sooner in life. After a lifetime of unsatisfying dating experiences characterized by dishonesty, mind games, drama, and unspoken expectations, sugaring can feel just like a breath of fresh air. Of course, things get even better when you find an extraordinary sugar partner to commit to, but it’s important not to become complacent once that happens.

All relationships take work and maintenance if they’re going to stay as wonderful throughout as they are in the beginning. Sugar relationships are no different, and the sooner you start working on yours, the more incredible you can expect it to stay over the years. Here are some tips to get started with.

1. Continue keeping it real.

The best sugar relationships are built on a foundation of honesty and integrity, and this is likely the case for yours, too. But even confident people have moments of insecurity, and even terrific relationships go through challenges. That said, one of the best things you can do to take care of your sugar relationship and keep things sweet between the two of you is to stay as genuine as you are right now.

When and if problems or sticking points arise, resist the urge to default to old habits. Don’t play games with your partner or make assumptions about anything they might be thinking or feeling. Continue to be authentic and vulnerable. And if you’re uncertain about something, bring it up for discussion and talk it out together like the mature, dignified individuals you are.

2. Maintain a regular schedule.

Although sugar dating tends to be blissfully free of the unvoiced assumptions and expectations that occur in other relationships, there’s one area where even sugar daters can be prone to such things. Scheduling can be a significant sticking point for many sugar daters, as both parties tend to be reasonably ambitious, accomplished people in their own right.

The key to success here is to agree on a running meeting schedule as early on in the relationship as possible. How you set things up is entirely up to you, so long as each of you is equally happy with things. If something doesn’t work for you, speak up and let your partner know. Encourage them to do the same. A streamlined schedule really is the key to avoiding quite a bit of hurt, disappointment, and frustration, especially in the future.

3. Keep your relationship private.

Whether you actually decide to abide by this suggestion is ultimately up to you and your partner, but it’s worth mentioning what a positive choice it is for a lot of sugar daters. Although many people are a lot more open-minded about non-traditional dating choices than in years past, there are still a fair number of folks out there who don’t understand sugaring. If your friends and family are this way, it could potentially be tough on your relationship.

Ultimately, your love life is no one’s business but your own and your partner’s, so it may be worth keeping your sugar life separate from everything else in the interests of keeping it sweet. Of course, if you and your partner both decide you’re ready to take the next step together, you can always reopen the issue for discussion then.

4. Maintain your sense of discretion.

Although all relationships need boundaries, they’re essential in sugar relationships – especially if you’re with a high-profile partner who needs you to exercise discretion. Although sugar daters definitely value honesty and vulnerability, they may not necessarily be open books in every aspect of their lives or every situation, and that’s OK.

So always err on the side of caution when it comes to discussing your partner or their life with other people outside of your relationship, as well as with asking questions of your own. And make sure they’re respecting your privacy, as well. But, again, this is an area the two of you may wish to hash out in conversation toward the beginning of the relationship. It’s fine if the two of you want to share more with one another, but neither person should feel pressured to spill details they’re not comfortable with.

5. Be the whole package.

Everyone knows what it’s like to enter into a relationship with a total catch, only to have the person completely stop bothering later on down the line. They let their appearance go, stop setting personal goals, and just plain lower the bar over the years, assuming that it no longer matters because they’re already in a relationship.

Don’t be that person in your relationship. Yes, people change over the years, but that shouldn’t mean letting everything fantastic about yourself fall by the wayside. Stay in shape, and take care of your appearance. Keep learning, growing, evolving, and setting incredible goals for yourself. Both you and your partner deserve nothing less.