5 Telling Signs Your Girlfriend Is Talking to Another Guy in Secret

Most guys who’ve been cheated on in the past by a girlfriend or spouse learn to recognize the signs. For a while, things are going great. You’re getting along. She seems into you and invested in the relationship the two of you share. And then it starts happening.

She starts to seem distant and doesn’t have the time she used to for you. And she’s on her phone pretty much all the time, even at times she usually wouldn’t have been before. After a while, anyone would wonder if the person they love is carrying on another relationship in secret.

The internet and mobile technology have made it easy these days, not only to meet other people but to fall into secondary relationships that really aren’t appropriate. Here are some signs that this could be happening with your girlfriend.

1. She’s become secretive about her phone.

If your girlfriend used to be casual and open about how she uses her phone around you but now acts differently, there’s likely a reason. People who are having conversations or interactions they don’t want their partner to know about tend to be hyper-aware of where their phones are at all times.

They’re also careful not to hold the phone so their partner can see what they’re looking at. They keep their phones far away from their partners altogether or place them lying face down when they’re not holding them. Of course, some people are just private. But if this is new behavior, you’re right to be paying attention to it.

2. She leaves the room to use her phone.

If your partner used to be fine with taking a quick phone call or shooting off a few texts to friends with you in the room but now isn’t, something’s up. Everyone has the occasional important call or correspondence they want total privacy for, but this shouldn’t be the norm.

So, does your girlfriend leave the room to use her phone? Or maybe she’s fine at least texting people in front of you, but the energy in the room completely changes whenever that happens. It’s worth at least considering why that might be.

3. Things just feel different between the two of you.

It’s natural and normal for someone to behave a little differently if they’ve been fighting with their partner or otherwise not getting along. But when people start emotionally checking out of their relationships because of another person who’s caught their eye, similar changes can occur for what feels like no reason.

Maybe she used to be very physically affectionate, and now she’s not. Perhaps she’s different in the bedroom than she used to be or doesn’t make time for you the way she once did. All you know is it feels like your girlfriend is pulling away from you, preoccupied all the time, or both.

4. She’s been upgrading her appearance.

If something just feels off between the two of you and you suspect it’s another guy, there might be other signs you can spot. For instance, when a person is all wrapped up in at least the idea of someone new, they’ve got a lot of pep in their step for reasons you can’t put your finger on. They also suddenly start pouring more effort into their appearance.

So, has your girlfriend been doing anything like that lately? Is she suddenly hitting the gym religiously when she wasn’t even interested in working out before? Is she dressing up a lot more or more focused on looking sexy than she was before? If she is and there’s nothing you can think of that might have triggered the change, there’s a chance that she’s trying to look good for someone else.

5. She doesn’t plan a future with you anymore.

When people are invested in a relationship, their partner factors into pretty much every decision they make. And it shows, too. Yes, part of that is about those little talks you have about what your kids will look like or where you might want to live one day. But it’s also little things, like buying tickets to an event a couple of months in the future or planning trips you’ll take together next summer or for the holidays.

If you don’t factor into your girlfriend’s future anymore, even on a smaller scale, something’s wrong. And yes, it’s possible that when she thinks of the future, she no longer really sees you as part of the picture.

At the end of the day, you deserve better than that – a sweet, beautiful woman who knows what she has in you, sees you as her sweet sugar daddy, and feels personally invested in your relationship. Keep that in mind if it does turn out that your girlfriend really does have eyes for another man.