5 Main Reasons Why He Keeps Coming Back

This is a question that's asked a lot, ''Why do men always come back?''. We all, at one point, kept dealing with a man that we know shouldn't be a part of our lives.

''Sometimes giving someone a second chance is like giving them an extra bullet for their gun because they missed you the first time.''- Dave Vescio on Twitter

The fact that he still comes back doesn't mean he loves you. In most cases, it's infatuation, attachment, or convenience. The lies us women often tell ourselves in such situations are; he keeps coming back because he loves me, he must love me because he fights so hard to come back, every time I let him go he finds his way back to me, this must be real feelings. No, not at all. I believe that this relationship advice will give you the clarity you need.

Because he can.

This is one of the main reasons why he always comes back, it's because he knows the door will always be open for him. He knows that you will take him back as long as he says the right things and as long as he does the right things for a week or two. He knows that whatever he does will make you "weak"(not an insult) enough to let your guard down and allow him back. With this being said, you got to be mindful of not falling for the tricks. Because, regardless of why he keeps coming back, the question you should be asking yourself is why do you always give this man access to get to you.

He wants the benefits back.

You provided certain benefits and he wants the benefits back, because, he is not getting the benefits anywhere else. Out there, no one else is willing to put up with his s***t. It is normal for people to come back to that thing that they were comfortable with. Things that were reliable in their lives. When the other person doesn't want him, he comes back to the person that always wants him and will never leave him. THAT'S YOU.

He is selfish.

If a man keeps leaving and coming back understand that it's not even about you. He comes back because he doesn't want to see someone else having the good thing that he had. A man like this is very selfish; he just doesn't want to see you happy, he just doesn't want to see you with another man, he just wants to be with you to keep you as his property and possession. If he loved you that much, he would never have abandoned you no matter what.

He is lonely.

Being lonely is a man's biggest fear. He becomes scared to end up with nothing. In this situation, the man left, then, he went looking for whatever he thought was out there for him and he didn't find it. Remember, he doesn't want to be alone and no other woman wants to deal with him. Do you know where his next stop is? The answer, TO YOU!!!!

Karma got to him.

When this man moves on, he ends up getting treated the way he treated you. He feels defeated, temporarily comes back to you and once he feels better, he leaves, AGAIN! He just comes back to you to get a quick fix and the more you take him back, the less respect he has for you. He will keep coming back because he assumes that you are emotionally weak. Girl, close that door, keep it shut and move forward! Show him how strong you are and you will see how far he is going to stay away from you.

All in all, if you know he's not for you then; it's up to you to shut that door, it's up to you to say no, it's up to you to start recognizing his tactics and not allowing yourself to fall to them. Remember, "Hurt me once shame on you, hurt me twice shame on me". If he has to leave to realize your value, he didn't appreciate you in the first place. Love yourself and know your worth.

I'm not saying that a man will never come back because he loves a woman, it happens sometimes. Some men do struggle to let go because there are some real feelings involved. But, as a woman just sit back and ask yourself; if he's really the best man for you if he's really what you want. And, if it's certain that you want him back in your life, GIRL, go get your man.

Thanks for reading 😄.