3 Things to Maintain Attraction in a Long-Term Relationship

When the chase ends and you have finally caught one another, how do you keep the attraction alive?

1. Take some things said with a pinch of salt.

When your lover asserts that you do not need to go to the gym — “I love you anyway.” Take it with a pinch of salt. That might be how they feel in that moment, but it is not sustainable — for you both.

A level of self-confidence and self-assurance is sexy! When you are feeling confident and sexy in yourself — your lover will be attracted to that. Especially, if you come home from the gym, feeling sexy, fit, and wanting to take them to bed. They are going to think they have struck gold.

However, when you rely on your lover to make you feel sexy with their genuine compliments — you are depending on them. After time, it gets boring and unattractive. There is no long-term sustainability.

“Invest in your own physical health. When you feel sexy, you are sexy.”

2. Never ever stop flirting!

When we stop flirting, we stop anticipating — what was once an unpredictable joy-ride is now a predictable bus route. No one ever said that you need to stop flirting once you are in the relationship. Yet, for some reason we do.

It is just too easy to let the flirty, fun side of things pass by when you get to know someone. When we feel that certain ‘security’ with someone we forget how to be endearing and playful.

Flirting with your partner reminds you of what you love about one-another — the things that attracted you in the first place. When we are having a good little flirt, we build up anticipation. No matter now innocent, the mind starts thinking and things start happening… the fire starts roaring!

Flirting is a reminder that you are both sexy, wanted, and adored. A great confidence booster.

In a long-term relationship we can become like best friends — a great quality, but not enough on its own to be sustainable long-term. Flirting will keep the spark alive.

“Keep pinching each others butts at 85.”

3. Change is inevitable.

Who you both were when you first met could be different from who you are now. We grow — either together or apart.

In most cases — at the beginning of a relationship you put each other at the top of your priority list when it comes to sharing your time. As you become secure with one another in your relationship other things have more time given to them — important things too, like friends, family, career, and hobbies.

It is not only important, but imperative to remember that your partner is growing just like you are. Whether it be in finding new hobbies and interests, careers, and goals — you need to be just as interested as you were when you first met.

You might find yourself wishing your partner would take more of an interest in you and join you in the things you enjoy and not so caught up in their own interests.

So, my question to you: how do you expect your partner to take an interest in what you enjoy when you don’t make an effort to join them in their interests?

Be the first to endeavour — your partner is more likely to reciprocate when they feel interested in.

Keep chasing and flirting with your beloved because as you both grow together, you’ll be chasing new and exciting attributes about each other.

In Conclusion

Continually invest in yourself physically and emotionally.

Self-love will boost your confidence. You want to independently feel sexy.

Keep flirting and pinch each other's butts at 85.

You are both always growing. Be just as interested in your partner as you were when you first met.