Should Vocal Friends Be Facebook Friends?

One of my problems is I am a sixty four years old man so I cannot ever request to be friends with a woman without seeming creepy or predatory. This is the world we live in .

I speak with people on Vocal mostly female with ages from twenty upwards and am friends with a lot of women and men , but if you wonder why I don't ask that is essentially why. If someone asks me, then that is a different question. They will probably ask me because they like the advice I have given , or may even like the words I write. I have never considered age to be a problem , my mind is still fifteen , but then maybe a lot of older people say that. I was going to write a piece called “Has The Age Dynamic Changed?” , because when I was 8 , 16 was old , when I was 15, 21 was old , etc etc.. I once knew a sixteen year old who acted like he was sixty five. And was shocked when walking with this old guy I met on my walk who I put at fifteen years older than me , and he is ten years younger.

While on holiday in Thirsk I met a guy riding a bike who I put at 55-60 , and he was 88 , so if you look after yourself you can go on for a very long time. So what I am saying is I think I can be friends with anyone but they have to ask me so I am not acing like a predatory creep.

So what are the benefits of being Vocal and Facebook friends. I know I probably have 100 Facebook/ Vocal friends although only a handful interact with me directly, but my messenger door is open to everyone.

As Facebook friends you can invite each other to join other Facebook Vocal Groups as well as other groups. You may not be able to do this if you are not Facebook friends. I do recommend people to join the Vocal Social Society if I comment or aid them and then sometimes these people send me friend requests once they get to know me.

Then we hit the second benefit , you get to see what people post on their own timeline and maybe see photographs and other things they post. This then brings you a little closer to them and just enables you to both be real friends.

By becoming real friends we can make these Vocal Groups extremely harmonious and beneficial to all members. We may not always like the same things but if we did we would never ever discover anything new. The thing is we should always be supportive , loving and look to smooth over any wrinkles in relationships . We can do that , and being Facebook friends makes that a lot easier.

Some non Facebook Friends do find me intimidating , because they see that I am a little successful on Vocal but I get more things wrong that most people and often have been taken to task quite rightly and a lot of those that have done that I regard as true friends. We talked it through and everything was resolved amicably. I don't stress and I don’t hold grudges. Fighting and anger is destructive , working together in harmony gets things built that last.

I have been extremely surprised how many great friends Vocal has brought me , so my verdict is a resounding YES for me, my Vocal Facebook friends , help me , make me feel appreciated , wanted and loved.

So if you want to be my friend and send me a request I will check that you are a Vocal member or a friend of someone I know (having an open profile means I get more spam than Monty Python) but that is usually enough for me.

Led in with "Hold Me Close" by David Essex, we should all hold each other close even if it's virtual.