What Do Men Want in Bed?

In a rude spirit, you will answer me: "Sex!" Really? In a serious relationship, they want love parties to have certain ingredients, not just to happen. I remember an episode of the Ally McBeal series in which the men in the law firm were outraged by the feminists there.

They claimed they were not just "testosterone-driven brutes" as they were accused. In the hope that the series was not pure fiction (to be a little naughty too) I have prepared a list of what a guy in bed wants from his girlfriend …

Be physically prepared

You may know from personal experience that you have a lot of sexual dysfunction that we women have to deal with.

These include libido dysfunction, dyspareunia (pain during sexual intercourse), anorgasmia (inability to reach the climax), and arousal dysfunction (lack of lubrication, dilation, erogenous zones are not sensitive enough).

So a guy will breathe a sigh of relief if you don't face any of the above issues.

He tends to take your "technical" difficulties personally.

More precisely, he feels that he is not a "man" and that he is not able to satisfy you, if he sees you unlubricated after a prelude made like a book, for example.

On the other hand, he may conclude that these sexual problems indicate that the woman is "cold." This word is used by some men to explain (in a primitive way, which is true) why their girlfriend does not have an orgasm.

So if you have any sexual difficulties, talk as much as possible with your partner. Don't let him catalog you. Your problem may be from a hormonal disorder for example. It is necessary to do the right analysis to find the source.

At the same time, if you know that there is a physical cause, do not let your boyfriend live with the feeling that he is not able to satisfy you. Explain in detail what sexual dysfunction you have (not all men are informed about "women's" problems), what its causes are (in no case is he to blame), and follow the right treatment!

A delicate situation is one in which your problem has a psychological cause: misunderstandings in the couple, depression, complexes, even hasty foreplay.

You need to talk openly with your boyfriend. Don't shy away from it and look for the right solution together: from a weekend for two away from the eyes of the world … to the help of a psychologist.

… but also mentally

If you do not have physical problems, so the action in the bedroom can happen, then it's time to relax. A man appreciates a casual woman in bed. In other words, it will thank you if you put your inhibitions aside. Talk openly with him, tell him what makes you happy in bed. Externalize any feeling.

A man loves a woman who shows through gestures, words, and spontaneous reactions that she feels good. More precisely, that he makes you feel that way! What if you woke up the neighbors with your screams, scratched him on the back of the fire, and left bites on his neck?

He won't feel bad afterward, he'll just remember how exciting it was while…

To be full of fantasy, but also with a touch of romance

A man appreciates a woman with imagination and who wants to implement everything that comes to his mind … him! In other words, if you fulfill his fantasies, you are the woman of his dreams.

At the same time, he wants you to have bed preferences and scenarios to look forward to. He will fulfill them with all his heart … unless he involves another man. So put it on fire with spontaneous, unique moments that will satisfy you both.

On the other hand, you don't have to come to bed every night dressed in leather and with a whip in your hand. And love parties don't have to be a series of twisted positions.

Sometimes your boyfriend will want … to make you feel against the prejudices, to make love to you. Even if he is "testosterone-driven", this does not mean that he does not need intimacy and affection. He will appreciate from time to time a tub full of foam and rose petals.

She will enjoy the candles and massage oils with exotic scents … as long as you are the one she caresses.

Have an orgasm

You know the joke: "Why do women mimic orgasm? Because they think we care …"? Maybe they're men who don't care. But there are many who, when they love, get involved.

Believe me, your boyfriend loves to see you at the height of ecstasy and to know that he is the "culprit". So a love match in which you fail to finish will not fully satisfy him it will leave him with a bitter taste.

The fact that only about 30% of women can reach orgasm by penetration is a sad statistic. So your boyfriend is in trouble if you are one of the 70%.

If you do not reach the climax through love, do not be alarmed. Many couples make the mistake of making their partner's orgasm a goal. And forget to live the moment.

Enjoy the foreplay, any touch, and the attraction between you. Let the pleasure come naturally! The harder you look for her, the farther you go from her. Like any good thing, orgasm comes when you least expect it!

Tell him how good it was

Male pride needs compliments! Likewise, a guy in love is happy to see his girlfriend satisfied. So, in the end, tell her how good you felt and give her some small examples. Praise makes her sleep sweeter after …