When I was growing up sexual health was discussed in three ways; puberty, avoidance of pregnancy and STDs, and the consequences of pregnancy and STDs. In the small British town I grew up in, even in the 90s, there was a puritan streak that has only recently started to fade.
Naturally women always seem to know just how to turn a person on, but are you ready to turn the tables on her? Whether you're new to experimenting or you just want to add some spice to your current routine, I have a list of things that might just get your girl revved up and ready to go.
Girls, my boos, I think most of think that sex can be many different things. It can be slow, romantic, and totally mind blowing. It can be hard, fast, and dangerous. It can be somewhere totally inappropriate, or it can be in your own bed. Either way, we have many different fantasies about how its going to play out.
Society places a lot of emphasis on orgasms. We’re meant to orgasm easily, every time we have sex, and, preferably, at the same time as our sex partner. As a sex therapist, I’ve seen first-hand how sexual ideals like these not only make sex more complicated – they also create sexual issues, like female difficulty achieving orgasm.
Sex education is a well-discussed topic these days, and the opinions and perspectives regarding this topic are divided. For so long in the educational system, sex was a taboo topic, and we educate our children not to discuss this topic in public. And yet, sexual content is all over the place.
The beginnings of relationships are often thought of as the best. There’s lots of sex, talking, bonding, sharing, and staring into each other’s eyes. It’s a highly intoxicating period of time that is nothing short of magical when we’re in the thick of it – and its addictive nature seems to explain why sexual desire is strong at the beginning of relationships.
Morning sex can bring you and your partner closer together. How so? Sex produces oxytocin, also known as the “cuddle hormone.” Oxytocin is the chemical in the brain that controls love and bonding. When it’s released during sex, you’ll feel more connected to your partner.
Have you ever heard the term safeword? It’s a common term in kinky and BDSM circles. It’s a way to communicate consent in ways other than using terms like, “no” or “stop”. The safeword system is a word or set of words that are agreed upon before engaging in sexual activity or entering the kink play scene. These words are used to signal that the scene is getting too intense or unwanted harm is likely to happen. It can be a great way to quickly check-in with your partner and make sure everything is still going well for them.
When DOES sex end? Have you ever wondered about that? It may seem like a strange question but how we answer it makes quite a difference to the sexual satisfaction of some people. Our perceptions about what is the climax and completion of sexuality activity play a big role in what feels right to us. It also sets our expectations. Those expectations play a huge role in the interest people have in sex as well as how satisfied they are with sexual activities they participate in.
Exploring sexuality tends to be a unique experience for everyone. Not only because each person has their own unique attractions and tastes but also because each person experiences sexuality differently. How to have an orgasm comes naturally to some people but it’s common for others to struggle. It is especially common for vulva people to have a harder time achieving orgasm. This can lead some people to think that there’s something wrong with them but that’s not true.
Does penis size make a difference? This is one of the most asked questions about sex. Cis-gendered men, in particular, tend to worry about this particular problem. Our society gives many examples of the idea of great size as the key to masculinity and sexual prowess. It’s in much of the marketing we see, stories that are told, and the butt of jokes. This subject causes a lot of anxiety for a lot of people. The question is… should it?
Do you put any thought into what you grab to clean up after sex or masturbating? Or do you just grab the first thing that comes to hand? Selecting the right material to clean up afterward does actually make a difference. Certain types of material are better for absorbing moisture as well as reducing the risks of any bacterial infections. You shouldn’t just be rubbing any old thing onto your genitals. The skin in this area is particularly sensitive. Vulvas can be particularly sensitive to bacteria and could end up developing an infection.