Sexual Pleasure Need Not Always Focus on Orgasm

Alfred Kinsey came to the conclusion that any study focused on the psychological elements of sex would be too subjective and susceptible to individual interpretation. He decided to quantify sexual activity objectively by using response. A very natural male perspective on sexual function is one that involves measuring physical phenomena. Kinsey admitted that his research's quantitative methodology left out a more qualitative analysis of sexuality.

The implication when we say a couple spends some sexual time together is that they partake in genitally directed activities. We frequently define sex and sexy in terms of sensuality, which is how males typically interpret these phrases. However, some ladies find it quite seductive to spend time with a boyfriend while curled up on the couch and watching a touching movie. They might think it's attractive to spend time enjoying a romantic meal. Women do not experience the same emotional satisfaction from sex that males do. However, it does not follow that a woman cannot partake in sex. Since a woman does not share the urgent desire for climax that men have, she can appreciate many facets of sexual gratification.

Sexual activity is any behaviour that is directed towards achieving orgasm. But if we consider the person giving oral sex and the person receiving (vaginal or anal) intercourse, even though they are not aiming to orgasm themselves, their behaviour is still sexual. So the role of facilitating another person's orgasm is just as sexual as being the person who has an orgasm.

Orgasm has a special definition for one part of sexual pleasure. It is the pleasure of experiencing a sexual release, as well as the muscle cramps and calming aftereffects that follow a satisfying orgasm. The fact that men experience orgasm more frequently than women gives them a natural advantage. However, guys suffer in other ways that only women can understand.

Men instinctively believe that the purpose of sexual engagement is to concentrate on the genital stimulation that results in orgasm because of their sex desire. They presume that women behave like they do and that genital stimulation is what they are most interested in. However, genital stimulation can only be pleasurable if you are aroused, and women are not sufficiently aroused by a boyfriend to orgasm.

Men think they're sexual because they have an arousal cycle that ends with grunts and ejaculation of semen. But they miss the enjoyment of sensuality, the emotional pleasure, the needing and the loving, touching and feeling. It's all over in a flash; until the next time. Women's sexuality involves a desire to spend time with a lover enjoying affectionate companionship.

A lady is often inspired to show her love for another person by kissing and caressing a lover's body. She is not as motivated to stimulate a lover's genitalia as a man is since she is not aroused by it. She might, however, offer genital stimulation if she is aware that it makes a partner happy.

Sexual activity (alone or with a partner) can include psychological (emotional and erotic) and physical (sensual and genital) stimuli that may be delightful but that do not necessarily result in orgasm. This issue is vital in appreciating the confusion over female orgasm. Men's responsiveness means that male sexual release is a priority but women don't need orgasm.

Men are already sensitised while engaging in sexual activity, whether alone or with a partner, and stimulation causes an orgasm. Because women do not naturally become aroused, stimulation does not always result in orgasm. As a result, women frequently have intercourse without ever experiencing an orgasm. As a result of accepting the fact that she does not orgasm, a woman wants to have more broad sensual pleasure with her spouse.

Two things need to happen. First a man has to work out what keeps a woman happy outside the bedroom. This involves non-sexual intimacy and caring behaviours, including sympathetic listening, taking an interest in her concerns, demonstrating affection giving support, admiration and respect.

Second, a couple must devote time and energy to their sexual gratification. They ought to schedule a "sex session" once every month. A man ought to spend money on extras like sex toys and pornographic media. A woman must give advice on what she believes might be effective. For women to find movies fascinating, there must be some sort of narrative. A man must be persistent and open to trying new things because such things make women feel uncomfortable. Couples can also make last-minute plans to mix things up by moving their sexual encounters, for instance, to the shower or outside.

Women, more often than men, report that they find sex to be pleasurable even if they do not orgasm... many women enjoy the intimacy that sex provides, the kissing, touching, closeness, etc. (Debby Herbenick 2015)