Naked Attraction

Introduction

A few years ago, a friend of mine appeared on the dating program "Naked Attraction", the concept of which is you see the naked body, no faces and choose your date. There are men and women on both sides of the equation.

My friend's date turned out to be an absolute creep so it went no further.

You can find out about and watch (if you have access to Channel 4) the program via the links below.

The music is "Naked" by Ella Mai

These Double Standards

The "Naked Attraction" banner says it all: the man is ok to be topless, but the woman has to cover herself up. Even today, women and girls are continually sexualised by men, and this 1973 action by Lily Tomlin shows that things still have not really changed:

I used to work somewhere, and at lunchtime we would go out for walks, and one guy would either make insulting comments about women he did not consider attractive, or say "She's Asking For It" about the ones he did fancy.

I said, "Who has she asked for IT?" Then I asked him if he would to able to walk back to the office. It took a few times, but eventually he got the message, though I don't know what he was like when I was not there. It was like being back in the sixties and seventies with TV series like On The Buses and Carry On films.

Look at Facebook, you can share racist, misogynistic, and violent posts, but a female nipple will get you banned.

Women who breastfeed are told to cover up my men, who will then go on and grope women and say it's a bit of a laugh or banter. It is not.

I appreciate the female form, but I love a smile or a laugh more than anything, and I know women like the male form as well, but the problem is the continual sexualisation of women in plain sight.

So many adverts have scantily clad women to sell the product, usually to men.

They sexualise and abuse women who do not fall into line. They use the word slut if a women dresses how she wants and does her own thing. I heard the definition of a slut being:

"A woman who acts like a man"

If a woman is attacked, she is always the one to blame according to patriarchal #NotAllMen, it's her clothes, the fact she was out, the fact she was alone, and you know "boys will be boys".

This is still the situation today, and it should not be.

Only the first two sentences are by William Golding; the completion is by Erick Gray, but the whole quote is very true.

I feel the second part is a bit of putting the woman in as a housekeeper, but it is true, women can often improve on anything a man does.

I know this piece has gone a bit further than the Naked Attraction start, but we do need to start calling out those who do not treat women with respect. It is 2025, not 1925 or 1825.

Things have improved in some areas, but a lot still needs to be done.

Conclusion

I feel that this piece has to go in the Vocal Filthy Community because I dare to mention the word nipple, and that is another example of how the media uses its own double standard to keep women in place.

This is fine on social media

But show any female flesh and you get smacked down, even if it is yours.

Thank you for reading, love to hear your views.