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Can you talk a woman to orgasm ?

by Omara 7 months ago in advice
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There are words you can use to arouse women. It’s time you got to know them. How to talk your sweetheart to climax

In the beginning was the Word, long before the serpent and the apple. And the world was still good and called paradise. What would it be like if you could lead the Word? If you could speak so movingly that it comes to ecstasy. Until your beloved is no longer silent, but moans with pleasure.

Phase 1: This is how you get a woman going

You talk to an open-hearted acquaintance (oh yes, all the tips mentioned here also work with your partner). The basic condition is interest in the other party, otherwise all talking is in vain. You start as usual. It is about the usual. Who knows whom, what you usually do, quite harmless. Too harmless? That’s how you unpretentiously intensify the dialogue in order to get close to each other:

Sex, body, attraction, arousal — all topics you need to talk about. But please don’t open the door: After all, sex is a real cultural topic today. Therefore, discuss, for example, a daring sex scene in a new movie (“terrific cut, isn’t it?”), “Sex And The City” (“Isn’t the image of women too one-sided?”), bisexuality (“Can you jump over your shadow?”), your own sexual experiences (“I’ve cried a lot”) or simply the new sex store for women in the mall (“What do you think?”). Get enlightened. The topic is harmlessly far away from the pubic area of the interlocutor — and yet ticklingly close. This may get them going all of a sudden.

How blasphemy sexually excites a woman

If all this is too fast for you, you can also take a detour: Blasphemy. Sure, it’s actually quite mean — yuck! But because men and women like to do it, you should take advantage of it. Gossiping is never as valuable as when flirting. Because laughter, especially about third parties, conveys togetherness. Small nastiness tingles. In addition, you can steer the conversation in the right direction when blaspheming. “Is a shirt like Peter’s wide open okay?” Or, “Look, Lutz is looking at Sarah’s breasts. What do you think of the plunging neckline?” And with that, you’re already a little closer to your goal of touching.

Ask about their preferences

Turn the topic positive and personal by openly asking about preferences, “Do you think men like this?” She may be flattered by your interest in her expert opinion and open up. “What constitutes a woman’s sex appeal for you?” This psychological move takes you into interesting territory. After a few sentences, everyone is talking about themselves, explaining their own attractiveness to you, and chatting about his or her weaknesses. Let yourself be convinced. Most importantly, contradict her-”Your butt is not too big at all!” If she asks about your taste in women, be warned — she’ll relate your answer to herself.

This is how you verbally get under each other’s laundry

Pour oil on the fire by combining compliments and flirting. This works very well with the help of a praising statement (only serious compliments, please) plus follow-up question: “You’re that nice of a tan? All over?” If you ask the question slightly tongue-in-cheek, she doesn’t have to give an answer, but notices that her body is engaging you. She may like that. Continue discussing what panties or bras women wear, talk about perfumes, soft skin, athletic body shapes, or intimate shaving, ending each time with the question, “And how is that with you?” Until she gets hot because she tells you her opinion about romantic lingerie, thongs, or nothing underneath. Maybe she’d like to show you what she’s talking about at some point.

These sayings enchant women

Some women are into romance, sure. Say something that contains terms like “we humans”, “life””, “finiteness”, “nature” or “love””. If you trust literature more than your own language skills, you can pick out a poet-and-thinker sentence from a collection of aphorisms, quote it and round it off with the words “You know, that’s what’s on my mind.

Phase 2: How to convince her with words

Ask about a situation in which she dared to do something — ask about tests of courage, bungee jumping, rafting, rock climbing or forbidden fruit. The person you’re talking to is rather shy and sings in a choir? How exciting do you think concerts can be! Recalling and recounting the arousing moment awakens an adventurous mood in which she lustfully crosses boundaries.

If you think your date might go, but she’s still hesitant, a “Would you like to come to my place?” works best. Cautious natures now ask her for a cup of coffee. But please never beg! And don’t ask too defensively, that usually provokes a rebuff. Directness is the best way to reach your goal, it shows that you are really interested and serious.

Phase 3: How to excite a woman with words

You’re ready? Intimate, as they say, or just about to be. Even at this moment, you can still move a lot with words, because the brain is the most important organ of pleasure, even research says. Talk now, so that the beloved only feels — feels you.

The simplest text in the world: the name of the woman. Say it, over and over again, tenderly into her ear, in love into her face, admiringly to her breasts, excitedly into her shame. With this strategy you can melt even glaciers. Get ready for a wet pleasure.

How to use dirty talk during sex

On the subject of vulgar words, we ask French author Catherine Millet, who has more practice to show than a busload of men and consequently must know: In my experience, most men limit themselves to certain terms or phrases. They say, in a moment you’re going to be well “screwed,” “nailed”; you yourself beg to be pierced by that “thick cock,” that “steely rod” that does you “so good.” Aha. It’s also interesting to note her rationale for making vulgar utterances arousing at the right moment: they make us melt into each other a little more, accelerating the self-dissolution we strive for at such moments.

The lesson for all more cautious sex drivers is: Do not use vulgar expressions abruptly, but only when the mind quits the service and voluptuous ecstasy reigns. So only when your partner asks for it.

Exciting words fire her imagination

What else can you say? You can stimulate your loved one’s imagination by embellishing a sexual scenario with each other. You’ll need linguistic flair to do this. Conjure up flattering situations. Play the inexperienced boy who learns love from an experienced woman. Discuss with your partner what to teach the virgin male: “Honey, how would I react? Would I be thrilled? Could barely hold on to myself? Should I moan out loud?”

These words double the pleasure

You know the principle from soccer: A goal is scored, the commentator yells. Sure, you can understand the goal even without the sound. But it’s more exciting when someone describes, virtually doubles and thus amplifies what’s happening — like this: “A wonderful submission, that looks good, these constant advances, now again, yaaa, he pulls off, it’s breathtaking, the climax, and — yes, yaaa, yaaa, Toooor!” Just adjust the subject and the choice of words to keep the woman of your desire in the game.

That’s enough, though. We know, you have to go urgently. To talk to your sweetheart. And then talk to her a little bit.


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