A Sore Vagina After Sex Is Not Always a Bad Thing

If you do a quick search on Google about sore vaginas, every article you'll find is about how to relieve it. Itching, burning, and irritation. Causes and treatments. How to stop experiencing vaginal discomfort during and after sex.

What no one writes about is how it's possible to like the feeling of soreness in one's vagina. In my case, I enjoy a particularly sweet post-coitus ache. I did this search because I was sure there must be other women out there who felt the same way.

I was hoping to find something written by one of them. I wanted to pore over tales from other women expressing their similar satisfaction and even pleasure in the sense that one's vagina has been, ahem, used well.

I couldn't find a single article on the subject though. Believe me, I looked. And that's a shame. This is why I'm writing my own piece about how much I enjoy a feeling of soreness in my vagina after having had a lot of sex.

What do I mean by a vagina "used well."

You know that feeling after you've gone on a long hike when, afterward, you feel that hike in your muscles. You feel just how many steps it took to climb to the top of that mountain peak in your thighs and calves. You feel exactly what your body went through to pull its mass upward, against the forces of gravity.

This isn't a bad feeling. I'm not talking about stabbing pains. I'm talking about the gratifying throb that one experiences in their body after pushing it to do something amazing.

I'm talking about the delicious pang in your muscles that reminds you of just how far you walked, to what heights you climbed, and what physical limits you broke by exerting yourself in such a manner.

I look at sex in the same way.

I like long bouts of sex - -and rough sex is good, too.

Sometimes my vagina feels sore just from having had a lot of sex. Say, my boyfriend and I had sex four or five times the night before. Of course, in the morning I wake up with a bit of tenderness down there.

The sex we had might have been quite tame, it's just we had a lot of it. Just like when you eat too much of a good thing then top it off with a rich dessert -- you feel bloated afterward, sometimes even to the point of having a tummy ache. But still, you know it's only because of how well you've eaten.

I feel the same way after having had a lot of sex. I feel sated. However, I can't deny that my pussy is often a little sore from all the use. But this is simply a testament to how much pleasure I've just experienced.

That said, I do also like intense, rougher sex. My orgasms are extra-explosive when the sex gets pounding. Even if the heightened friction hurts a little, it's exciting and leads to a bigger and better climax.

And yet, an intense bout of rough sex also leaves me with a sore pussy. Is that a bad thing? No. That my vagina is sore afterward is evidence of the hotness of the event.

A sore vagina creates hot memories.

As I go through the rest of my day, the soreness in my vagina serves a purpose. It helps direct my attention back to the pleasure I've just experienced again and again.

I can't forget the experience. The soreness in my nethers forces me to remember. I love the fact that I can't think about anything else but the sex I just had. I can't get the memory out of my mind. And I adore that.

This is part of the reason why I like to swallow when my lover comes in my mouth during oral sex. I keep tasting his semen in the back of my throat for hours afterward. That way I keep remembering the sex.

Having a sore vagina post-sex does the same thing - it enhances the memory of the experience. Nothing reminds me of the great sex I've just had more than when my vagina is sore afterward.

This is different than the pain and discomfort some women experience.

That said, I'm not trying to detract from the reality that some women do indeed suffer from a lot of discomfort in their vaginas after sex. Some women do suffer from painful sex and that leads to unwelcome soreness in their vaginas.

Either this is the result of shameful feelings that cause a woman's body to clamp up during sex, leading to pain during and after intercourse, or it's because of menopause that causes the thinning of her vaginal walls, making the sex hurt and leading to intense stinging post-coitus.

I feel for the women who suffer from this kind of soreness in their vaginas. I can see how this would make a woman want to swear off sex altogether.

However, this is not the kind of soreness I'm referring to. For me, there's something sensual about experiencing a sore vagina because of sex. For me, this is not intolerable; it's part of the pleasure.

My boyfriend's penis also gets sore.

Don't think that it's only my vagina that feels sore after a rough round of fucking -- my boyfriend's penis also takes a pleasurable beating. When we've been having a lot of sex, you have no idea the joy it gives me to look at his dick and see a small red patch on the sensitive skin of his glans tip because of all the friction from thrusting his penis inside of me. I get off on it! It's all part of the beautiful experience of making love.

Experiencing mutual genital soreness is just part of our shared intimacy. We both relish in the intensity of the encounter that has led to such "love wounds."

Besides, my vagina is a resilient creature. The soreness goes away quickly and then she's ready for more sex in whatever form.

And I am, too.

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