A Brief Guide to Solitary Pleasure: Life Is Short, Touch Yourself

That is exactly what it sounds like—solo sex. However, solitary sex involves much more than just where and how to make contact, much like coupled sex. It's about developing a mental and physical connection for the sake of enjoyment.

For the record, we're not advocating that you spend all of your time trying to get off. Your enjoyment is yours, and we respect whichever you choose to obtain it. Yet, we also believe that enjoying a leisurely solitary sex session isn't a bad way to spend an evening, day, or morning.

For people who have been socialised as women, who are taught that sexuality is more about acting than feeling, self-pleasure may be immensely gratifying. You don't have to prove anything to anyone while you're by yourself. Bb, you do you.

Therefore use this as a guide to identifying your desires and setting up an environment where you can take care of your body and your sensuality.

Engage your senses!

If you've ever made a grocery list while engaging in sexual activity, raise your hand. If you'd prefer not to do this, please raise your hand as well. Sometimes you have to cajole the mind into submission because it is so slick.

Making a rich sensory experience is one approach to do it. This is how:

1. Turn off your phone first. We guarantee that push notifications won't help you connect with your sexuality.

2. Turn the lights down. Although it may sound cliché, bright lights can make it difficult to rest since they stimulate your brain.

3. Light some candles or turn on an aromatherapy diffuser to take advantage of the calming benefits of the treatment.

4. Play some seductive music. As our brains are uniquely adapted to comprehend rhythm, music may truly affect how we feel.

Take your time when you first start touching.

If you're used to going straight for those particularly sensitive areas, consider going slowly. Touch everything save the delicate regions to tease yourself (it's not like you have else to be). Make the body desire it.

According to a 2017 research, although direct clitoral stimulation was the most pleasurable (those 8,000 nerve endings don't lie), respondents also enjoyed caressing their labia and touching their clit and clitoral hood on the sides, above, and below.

Because they both originated from the same substance in gestation, the head of men with penises contains the largest concentration of nerve endings, exactly like the clitoris does! Yet, pressing on the shaft's base and massaging the balls may also be thrilling.

Good day, prostate

When stimulated, the prostate, a walnut-shaped organ situated between the penis and bladder, swells with blood (like the internal clitoris). Engage the prostate by doing the following:

1. Activate it through the perineum (aka the taint). Add a little extra pressure to your touches because it's a less direct manner (additional muscles are getting in the way).

2. Move a finger or two in a "come hither" motion about two inches up the anal canal.

3. Make use of a gadget made especially for stimulating the prostate! Vibrations have a sensitivity that makes them particularly wonderful.

Lube is vital for every type of solitary sex! In addition to easing pain and suffering, one research indicated that those with vaginas reported much better levels of sexual satisfaction and pleasure.

Establish a rhythm

In the same study on enjoyment, more than 80% of participants reported they preferred a repeating rhythmic motion. Try working out while listening to music that gets you moving. Nobody is looking, so don't be alarmed.

Furthermore, don't be scared to try out other designs. The orgasmic potential may be increased in many different ways by switching between different tactics!

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Have a party and invite additional erogenous zones.

If you remember nothing else from this, remember to enjoy your exploration. Why not embark on an excursion to discover lesser-explored places because you are probably already familiar with those conveniently located pleasure zones? The nerve terminals in your body are all there, simply waiting for you to discover them. Exploring with no preconceptions is the key.

The nipples, neck, thighs, earlobes, hips, shoulders, and chest are typical erogenous zones, but don't stop there. The possibilities for what may feel nice are endless when your mind is in the sensual zone.

Change your standing

Not all sexual positions are reserved for partner sex!

Lay down on your back. More access to your genitalia and nipples is the main reason this is a classic. Elle Chase, a sex educator, advises overweight people to prop up some cushions under their butts to enhance access.

supinely lie down. Grinding on a pillow or touching yourself "doggy style" are two simple ways to create friction that may be quite satisfying for persons with a variety of genitalia. This can help bring a fantasy to life by simulating the sensation of grinding on a lover.

Squat or sit. Sitting on a chair or bed's edge might feel more impulsive and sexual than curling up in bed.

Invest in your virtual sex toy game.

Sex toys are fantastic tools since they were created specifically for sexual enjoyment. There is no guilt in playing with sex toys; there are neither "better" nor "worse" methods to experiment with sex on your own. The best course of action is what suits you best.

Here are just a few of the incredible toys you may use while masturbating that you might want to add to your collection.

Vibrators

Vibrators would be our first item if this piece were a gratitude notebook, for sure. (Hello, this study also discovered a connection between consistent vibrator use and general wellness.)

There are many different types of vibrators, from soft buzzing (lower pitches that might feel tingling) to strong rumbles (lower pitches that feel more like a deep massage). The inside nerve endings that are difficult to touch otherwise can be stimulated by these vibrations, which are stronger than your hands.

Sext

Sexting is similar to writing erotica that is specifically tailored to your tastes. Sexting may be quite enticing since it might feel inappropriate to discuss your sexual dreams and aspirations with your spouse. Also, you have plenty of time to consider your next move unlike while chatting nasty in person.

Sending images or videos can also help you eroticize yourself, enter a seductive frame of mind, and view yourself from your partner's perspective.

How to send a spectacular naked photo

Throw on some lingerie, your partner's loose shirt, or a jacket to make you feel seductive.

Zoom away. The people who have penises and insist on having their pictures taken up close should heed this tip. Believe us.

Play around with angles. For a more powerful mood, try gazing down at the camera; for a more submissive one, try looking up.

Do not overthink it. Avoid over-analyzing or dissecting your physique too much. We guarantee that you look hot.

Dildos

The ultimate pick-your-own-dick experience is purchasing a dildo. In terms of length, girth, and hardness, there are several alternatives. Here are some pointers for choosing the best decision.

1. Choose a material and stiffness. What girth you select will depend on the stiffness you settle on. As there will be more give if you choose a softer silicone, you might prefer a thicker dildo. If you choose a glass or stainless steel alternative, you should probably reduce the size.

2. Choose a girth. If it's any assistance, the circumference of a human penis is around 1.5 inches, so you can get an idea of what you want from that. Try using your fingers if it doesn't work for you. You might also try inserting a cucumber or another vegetable with a clean penis shape.

3. Choose a substance that is safe for the body. Your best options are silicone, stainless steel, and glass. Some substances, such as jelly, PVC, or "silicone blends," may include poisonous substances, such as phthalates, which can cause unpleasant side effects including headaches, cramps, or nausea.

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Butt plugs

Butt plugs are a fantastic first-time anal toy that may massage the prostate, stimulate the many nerve endings in the anus, and give the sensation of fullness.

Make believe someone is looking.

One approach to access emotions of sexiness is to have someone participating in your masturbation, or to give the impression that someone is watching. Feeling sexy may be a powerful arousal booster. Here are some strategies for doing that.

In the mirror, observe yourself.

Essentially, this hypothesis is equivalent to the mirror dance theory. Keep an eye on your moves. Face yourself in the mirror. Your body is truly a paradise, and taking in all of its beauty could be more sensuous than you had anticipated.

And a PSA for those with vagina in our midst: If you haven't yet, we strongly advise holding a mirror up to your vulva. You don't have a very nice view from up there, for starters.

Watch and listen to exit

While using your imagination is wonderful, it can be difficult to maintain mental focus. present erotica.

YouTube porn

You undoubtedly already know about popular sites like PornHub and YouPorn, but we encourage you to look into more morally acceptable porn, or porn that you pay for. Even while we all enjoy getting stuff for free, the truth is that free porn either doesn't pay its performers properly or includes content that has been ripped off from another website.

Pay for the fun you like since sex work is labour! Clip websites like ManyVids or OnlyFans, as well as porn businesses like Pink Label TV, Four Chambers, or Cinesinclaire, are excellent choices for doing this.

Comic books and written erotica

Whatever your sexual preferences, whether you want BDSM, romance, fantasy, or reality, there is something for you in the realm of textual erotica and erotic comics.

With over 200 tales and 10,000 comics, Filthy Figments is a fantastic place to find comics. If you're interested in written erotica, try a few short stories from different writers and genres in an erotic anthology to discover what you like.

Sound erotica

Would you want to hear some seductive sounds? Perhaps audio erotica is the perfect option for you! Audio erotica may range from audios of people having sex to private recordings of other people masturbating to "jerk off instructions" for YOU.

Meditation and awareness

We wanted to conclude our article about solitary sex by offering some suggestions for making lifestyle changes that promote mental wellness. According to research, being aware can improve your sexual experience with others as well as by yourself. Even a whole book has been written on it!

Do yoga, stretches, and dancing to stay active.

These sorts of exercises heighten one's awareness of their bodies and general comfort level with them. Pole dancing, Latin dance, and hip hop are just examples of forms that may improve confidence, which has clear application in the bedroom.