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My Wife Treats Me With Disrespect (When Your Wife Has No Respect For You)

Alright, so you're saying my wife treats me with disrespect, and you're hurting. It does hurt, I know that. You're even wondering what to do when your wife has no respect for you.

By Mark JanePublished 2 years ago 6 min read

Are you in a marriage where you're constantly thinking my wife doesn't respect me?

You're not alone... and I bet you that you'd love to get some of that respect back wouldn't you?

Of course you would. But it's going to take some work on your part...but the turn around is definitely worth it.

How I Went from My Wife Doesn't Respect to Darn Near My Wife Worships Me...

Here's the thing. If you're saying my wife doesn't respect me then there are things that you're doing absolutely wrong in your marriage. And the worst part is that you probably feel like you've been doing everything right.

Most marriage "specialists" will give you the old line of bull about paying more and more attention to your wife, validate her feelings, buy her gifts to let her know you care.

In fact through a string of misinformation like through books, and movies, we take them up on that advice only to be severely disappointed by the results.

Your Wife Doesn't Show You Respect Because You're Not Being the Man That Women Respect...

Ouch! That might hurt a little. It might hurt a lot. It hurt me when I first realized it. You see I was having some serious marriage problems a while back. I actually ended up solving those marriage problems the regular old way that you usually hear about.

Now I will say this. If your marriage is in serious trouble then doing what SOME of the marriage experts (actually only one in particular that I would recommend)...but doing some of the normal marriage counseling things will work to get your marriage straight.

I highly recommend this in short...

#1 Stop fighting at all costs (it doesn't help)

#2 Analyze exactly what's wrong in your marriage

#3 Start working on the things that YOU can fix right away (your 50%...the only part you can actually change)

#4 Take divorce off the table as an option (Give Yourself a Time Limit (9 months to a year) before you call it quits)

So that's a good start on a marriage that's troubled. It's not easy but those things will start you off on the right track.

But once I got my marriage back on track to where it was what seemed great, there started to be a distance growing in my wife. She was showing signs of lack of respect for me as her husband. After I had been doing all the things that were supposed to be right and make her fall head over heels in love with me.

We weren't fighting, but she surely didn't have that real respect toward me, and she was actually starting to lose attraction toward me as well. Unfortunately the two sort of go hand in hand, the wife having no respect and the wife having no attraction for you.

I knew something was wrong, and that there was a piece of the marriage puzzle I was missing.

After much study I realized that I had lost my King of the Castle status. I had lost my control over my marriage. My wife was in control, and contrary to not only popular belief, but her own belief as well...control isn't what she REALLY wanted. She really wanted a man in control.

If you're saying my wife doesn't respect me then it's almost for sure that you're not in control of the marriage the way you should be.

Once you do get control the right way, you'll not only have to stop think my wife doesn't respect me, but you'll be saying my wife worships me and as a happy surprise can't keep her hands off of me!

3 Main Signs of Marriage Trouble to Note

Marriage trouble signs can be in any form and appear anytime. Some may be obvious and point-blank visible, but others would need a keen eye or full analysis before someone realises something is wrong with a relationship.

Thus, you should take note of any all signs of trouble that appear before you. Do take them seriously because they are a warning that something is wrong. If left unresolved, problems tend to escalate into major issues that cannot be resolved, perhaps except by separation.

One of the more obvious signs of trouble is the lack of sex. Human beings have the natural instinct to breed and when a man and a woman are brought together, the desire for sex is there. It should not be thought of in the negative light like what scandalous news have been in the media. Sex is part of the natural process of partnership and the lack of it could actually display a lack of intimacy, interest, trust, or others.

If a couple is able to make love on a regular basis (perhaps except once every ten years!) an unspeakable bond is formed from the activity and the couple would naturally become closer. However, that bond is easier weakened when less and less time is spent together for any reasons they might have. They could say that they have too much work, or they could say that their family needs them too, but in the end, not making love to each other for many months is still having a lack of sex.

When a marriage is having problems and the couple is not able to resolve it fast enough, the lack of attention for each other does not help. In fact, it would worsen the relationship. When two people are truly in love with each other and are wanting to be together, they would make use of any chances they have to show their intimacy and love for each other, even if it would last for just a moment.

Such a couple could playfully slap each other on bum when walking past. One of them could suddenly hug the other out of the blue. When walking together back home from work or a movie, their hands could entwine around each other without saying a word. This type of couple would not find it the least embarrassing but instead find it all very pleasing. If your relationship is lacking anything intimate or loving, then it is one of the possible signs of trouble.

Another is a change in manners. Take for example when you speak to strangers. You find yourself being as polite as you can and being polite all you can until you finally leave the presence of that stranger. In a relationship, whether your loved one is polite to you or not depends on the closeness of your relationship. A change in the level of politeness is a sign that your loved one has a change in attitude.

Sometimes, we take our lives for granted and after being in a relationship, you tend to just relax and let nature take its course without working on maintaining your relationship or improving it. Over time, feelings for each other may weaken, and you might start becoming strangers to each other. When your lover begins to speak to you like how your lover speaks to a stranger, something would be wrong.

Fortunately, noting these signs of trouble is a good thing in a way. It is not desirable to see them because it means your relationship took a wrong direction somewhere, but seeing it first before a huge conflict occurs warns you to take action first so that you can prevent the conflict from occurring.

Do remember that your lover is a human being, and love and attention are some of the things needed to help your relationship grow. Love can be grown emotionally and physically, so do make use of both to live a happier relationship.

Do you want to reawaken a committed and loving relationship in your marriage? There are proven steps that are amazingly powerful that will help you overcome conflicts and breathe life back into your marriage. This is a plan you do not want to pass by. Click here to see the proven steps on how to save your marriage.

Divorce does not have to be your only option. Even if it feels as though your relationship can't be saved because of the ongoing conflicts between you and your spouse, it can be. There are techniques that you can begin using today that will not only stop a divorce, but will help also you build a stronger and more loving marriage. To learn more visit: Steps to Save Your Marriage


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