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He Dumped His Family After Housing A Ukrainian Refugee Lady For 10 Days

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By Life LessonPublished about a year ago 4 min read
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This happened in a UK family of four where the husband walked out of their eight years of relationship. The husband is a twenty-nine-year-old working as a security guard and the wife is a twenty-eight-year-old raising two kids aged six and three respectively.

The husband claimed that this refugee was the first one to respond to his offer on Facebook, while there is news saying that he saw her photo first on Facebook before he offered to be her UK sponsor.

This refugee is a twenty-two-year-old IT manager in her homeland — an attractive lass and smart too, judging from her managerial post at her young age.

I stumbled upon this video on Youtube. Here are some of the comments by the viewers on this news, which can be divided into three groups:

1. The worldly group (the perceived smart ones)

The wife has to be blamed, why is she so stupid to allow this beautiful young lady into her house? Especially the Ukrainian women at this juncture knowing that many opportunistic people will try to get a foothold on new land.

Come on, men are men! You should know their DNA.

Never house a stupid refugee as there’s another refugee who ended up burning down the house when he was burning a Russian flag! Oh my gosh!

2. The naive group (the perceived stupid ones)

The husband was kind to offer shelter to the refugee. More people should be offering such assistance.

The wife’s kindness should not be taken for granted by this refugee.

3. The realist group (worldly and kind ones)

Yes, the wife should welcome the move by the husband to house the refugee, but never allow him to pick a young and beautiful single lady. Never test the limit of the less pleasant side of human nature. A candidate like her should be arranged to be housed in a non-threatening family environment.

Being too kind without considering the possible risk to yourself is endangering yourself with unwanted drama.

My take

This refugee was an IT manager in her homeland at the age of twenty-two, she must be a worldly smartass who knows how this world works, and how to get what she wants in life.

Her apparent act of dressing in a sexy low-cut top, putting on red lipstick, and doing her hair only when the husband was home — while she never cares about doing all these when he was not around, and also tries to spend more and more time with him, while she hardly talks to the wife, they were rubbing their bodies against each other, etc, all these are the SUPER OBVIOUS of her intention.

Who would buy her claim of she has no intention to be the homewrecker?

Let’s talk about love, if this is the case here…her rather young age of twenty-two-year-old could be an infatuation rather than true love as claimed by her, or it was just an excuse to snatch another woman’s husband and secure her stay in the newfound land and never to return to her war-torn homeland again.

For the husband, he was obviously mesmerized by her charm. True love? Wait for the time to tell. He may experience the same fate as his wife when this refugee finds another better ‘ship’ that can provide her greater security and comfort.

This could a blessing in disguise to the wife. It shows her the true color of the husband and it’s better to find out earlier than later while she is still young.

An irresponsible husband is no better than having no husband.

It also exposed the foundation of their relationship which is so fragile and unable to withstand the acid test. In fact, such an act is too dangerous to risk losing her man. It looks like the foundation of the relationship is built on having children with little or no emotional intimacy.

In such a short time of ten days, the husband already swayed and left without working out a proper solution for the wife.

Even if he has indeed met his soulmate and chose to stay with the love of his life, he could have acted responsibly to reduce the hurt to his wife and children. It will leave a negative scar on the children that may affect their growing up well into their adulthood on relationships.

I know a girl who become a lesbian despite her beauty. When I asked her why she has chosen this path, she said because she saw how her mother was betrayed by her father’s infidelity. She wanted to be a ‘good man’ to protect her mom and her partner.

Parting words

Let’s hope that this incident would not discourage those beautiful souls to keep spreading their kindness to the refugees and that everyone acts in a more responsible way, and know their limits for a more peaceful world.

Which category do you belong to?

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* This was published first in www.medium.com

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