Surprises for Me About my Husband

Now, what does that mean, “Women don’t think the same way men do!”? Hubby’s oldest daughter clued me in when we first started to date. She said, “The best way to get my dad’s attention is in the truck. You can talk to him, and he can’t escape!”

What she forgot to tell me is that he listens to country western music on the radio and sometimes even enjoys the scenery. What she forgot to tell me is that he doesn’t listen to any other music except old country! No new music at all. Yes, he was born in 1950.

She did tell me that he has a lot of habits that he doesn’t veer far from and that he is a good man.

What I liked about him is that he rode a motorcycle his whole life, and he had been sober for 10 years when we started to date. Dating doesn’t fit what we did. We went to a couple of support groups together. I cooked him a meal and then he bought a meal for me.

We watched television together and went to an occasional movie. It's not much different than today. We still love to ride a motorcycle, attend a group, and camp. He camps and rides more than I do. I camped in the BWCA, and it is not the same kind of camping as in a pop-up camper.

While we were driving to another Christmas gathering yesterday, that was almost halfway between me and a couple of our kids, we could talk. He drove and I should have driven as we were running late. He blamed me. He said you are always late. And I said, and you are always early. How does that work?

Then we talked about other things. Weekly showers for one. I took 3 or 4 and sometimes daily for years. I am very water-conscious, so my preference was 3. He doesn’t shower every day and he favors twice a week. He does wash up every day as his work on machines can be dirty.

I told him I thought that was good that he was concerned about recycling as I am and saving on water. Then I thought I didn’t know that, so I asked. He responded with how daily showers take all of the natural oils out of our body, and we wrinkle. I laughed as I thought he was kidding.

No, he wasn’t kidding. OMG. I would not have guessed that in a million years. Then I started to wonder if he had lost too much testosterone. I didn’t tell him that of course.

Then we talked about wrinkles. I then wondered if he noticed my wrinkles and again didn’t say anything. He talked about how people in California are so noticeably wrinkled. I don’t think all people in California are wrinkled.

But I can use that to discourage my grandchildren from moving to California. Right now, I tell them California is falling into the ocean and earthquakes can happen anytime when you are driving on the freeway and the freeway will collapse along with them.

I then wondered if he didn’t want to move to someplace sunny in the winter to save on the wrinkles. I didn’t go into everything I was thinking as he would just say, “Women don’t think the same way men do.” He would say how did you get there from that simple statement or something like that.

I remembered how I am not supposed to wear sunblock anymore as I need vitamin D and I don’t always get what I need from the supplements. I don’t burn easily because of my ancestry.

The other thing about wrinkles is not to use straws as they can wrinkle your lips. Someone who was protesting the use of straws as being bad for the environment told us that. While at the casino for our Christmas get together, I was offered a straw that was too small to drink water out of.

It wasn’t but my daughter asked if maybe that straw was for cocaine and without thinking about who I was with, I said that straw was too small for cocaine too. 😉 My husband then said he wouldn’t know as he never used cocaine.

All this conversation set me into a whole lot of concern I didn’t have before this talk. It does help to write it down. Maybe now I can forget it!

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First published by Badform, in medium.com