" My Birthday Lesson: Gratitude for Those Who Show Up

Today is my birthday, and like many others, I woke up with the hope of feeling special and celebrated. However, as the day progressed, I began to realize that not everyone is going to show up in the way that I had hoped.

Some friends and family members mostly my in-laws forgot to wish me a happy birthday, which left me feeling forgotten and unimportant. Others may have intentionally chosen not to acknowledge my special day, perhaps out of their own pride or ego. And to top it off, someone even tried to spoil my day.

But in the midst of it all, I was reminded of the importance of gratitude for those who do show up. While some people may not have been there for me, my husband was. He went out of his way to make me feel special and loved, even in the face of those who were not so kind.

It's okay to feel a sense of disappointment or sadness when things don't go as expected, but it's also important to focus on the positive aspects of the situation.

As I reflect on this experience, I realize that it's not just about my birthday. It's about life in general. There will be moments when we feel disappointed or let down by those around us. We may feel like no one is there for us, and that the world is against us.

But in those moments, it's important to focus on the people who are there for us. To appreciate those who go out of their way to show us love and support, even when it's not easy. And to remember that sometimes, it's the small acts of kindness that can make the biggest difference.

So today, I am grateful for my husband and for all of the people who have shown me love and kindness on my birthday. And I am reminded of the importance of showing up for others, even when it's not convenient or easy. Because in the end, it's the people in our lives who make it all worthwhile.

Birthday celebrations are supposed to be a time of joy and happiness. However, for many people, this is not always the case, especially when it comes to celebrating their birthdays in their in-laws' house. As someone who has experienced discrimination and mistreatment during such occasions, I can attest to the fact that it can be an emotionally draining experience.

It is important to note that discrimination during birthday celebrations is not just limited to in-laws' houses. It can happen anywhere, even in one's own family. However, it is particularly hurtful when it happens in a place that is supposed to be a welcoming and inclusive environment.

Sometimes we have to celebrate our birthday alone. It can be a wonderful opportunity for self-reflection, self-care, and doing things that truly make you happy. Here are some of the best ways to celebrate your birthday alone:

Treat yourself to a spa day: Book a massage, facial, or any other treatment that makes you feel pampered and relaxed.

Cook yourself a special meal: Prepare your favorite dish or try a new recipe that you've been wanting to make for a while.

Plan a solo adventure: Whether it's a hike, a bike ride, or a road trip, plan an adventure that allows you to explore new places and enjoy the beauty of nature.

Indulge in your favorite hobby: Spend the day doing something that you love, whether it's painting, reading, writing, or playing music. Get lost in the activity and enjoy the creative process.

Treat yourself to a gift: Most important thing to do.

Connect with loved ones: Call your family and friends, have a virtual hangout, or send a message to someone who has made a positive impact in your life.

But in those moments, it's important to focus on the people who are there for us specially my husband & daughter. To appreciate those who make an effort to show us love and support, even when it's not easy. And to remind ourselves that we're not alone, even when it feels like we are.