It's NOT your story to tell

How well do you know your friends? I hope they are true to you as you are to them. Our life has its ups and downs, and sometimes we get drowned in the problems. You will get to the point where you think it's a good decision, better than their advice. So, instead of getting back to your lifestyle, you'll only keep on doing whatever it may take you. Of course, at first you feel happy because it's a new environment. A new person in your life. You thought it would be easier to live with your "new family." Until, one day, you'll notice the changes that you were in a worse situation than before. Their behaviour towards you changed. You will end up losing your path. You would wake up realizing you're not yourself anymore. Even though you wanted to seek their help, you couldn't because of the thought that they might end up judging you. The only choice left to you was to accept the things they would say about you or stay where you've chosen to.

Now that you've got back to your home, your family, life is so much better. You realized all the wrong choices you made. The people around you, even your old friends, were there. Although there were times you had disagreements, which is normal, you thought things were really okay between you and those people you trusted. So, you tell them how you cope and give them advice on what they should and shouldn't do because you know now what might really happen if they did not listen to their siblings. At some point, you're comfortable now, so you thought that the things you did before would be kept between you and the other person. Or he knew something about what you did before. And then, the next worst thing happens: this very close friend of yours tells another person about it. And instead of giving advice on the situations or issues you know, you spread them to other people and judge her. What would you get from doing that? Would that be an advantage? What? Would you use it against her when she confronts you? How would you feel when someone did that to you?

So, you thought she wouldn't know, so you had to pretend like nothing happened and know what really happened inside the house. Let's say the person who told you about that issue is your best friend. Do you think you really know the issue behind it? It could be one sided.

If the person is true to you, he would ask you what really happened instead of just talking about you. The person would give you advice and respect you, including your privacy. Is it okay for you to tell other people about the issues you're not comfortable talking about? People have different ways of coping, but I hope you will never be another cause of betrayal. Don't overdo the issues you know. Know how to respect the decisions of other people.

To tell you honestly, that's not your story to tell! The person would talk about it when comfortable enough to tell and whom he's/she's comfortable with and you must understand it. It's not your issue to broadcast with anybody. When you have a problem with the other person, whether it's about her behavior or the way she socializes, talk to her better. Do not spread the things you just heard or read on the internet, because you really do not know the real story behind them.

When you know you've done enough, then just let them be. Just because you've known each other for a long time does not mean a genuine friendship. To you, who's trying to fix your friendship, stop trying because when it's a real friendship he won't just tell anybody, as if you wouldn't be hurt. Don't invalidate your feelings. Know that there are people who are really concerned about your well-being. Those who would not criticize you.

Cut the tie if there's no room for you in that friendship. Never wait for an apology from them. I know it can be difficult because you've trust in him, but you need to go on with your life. When you're alone, life happens as well. Instead of regretting the friendship you might lose, keep hustling. There's always something stored for you. Trust me, if it's a genuine friendship, he should've already fixed it when you asked. Respect her decisions as she respects yours.

“Life has taught me that you can’t control someone’s loyalty. No matter how good you are to them, doesn’t mean that they will treat you the same. No matter how much they mean to you, doesn’t mean that they’ll value you the same. Sometimes the people you love the most, turn out to be the people you can trust the least.”