Broken Heart

One of my friends told me the other day that one of the managers at work had it in for him, to the point where the manager would spend time out of his own time attempting to sabotage everything he did to put him in a negative light. My friend told me that the manager would spend his time attempting to cast him in a negative light. When I questioned him about why the bad guy did what he did, he pretended not to know. According to him, nothing had ever occurred between them; the other guy had harbored ill will against him from the beginning.

I tried to convince him that his employer must have taken offense at something and that even if he didn't understand what it was, he still had to know something was wrong because that's just the way some people were, but he argued that that was simply the way some people were. I tried to convince him that his employer must have taken offense at something and that even if he didn't understand what it was, he still had to know something was wrong because that's just the Even if I wish it were so easy, I've always held the belief that disagreements in viewpoints expressed by people are almost always the result of some underlying factor. A fight between close friends or family can start over something as small as one person not liking how the other looks at them, or it can grow into a full-blown fight if it is left to build up.

There is always a feeling behind every interaction with another person, no matter the situation. Whether motivated by love, hate, jealousy, or despair, our actions are always based on how we feel. If you don't like someone, but that person hasn't done anything to earn your animosity, likely, you'll merely be indifferent to them. You must, however, have a valid reason for acting cruelly toward them if you go out of your way to do so. Being cruel takes time and thought, and it's not something you'd do unless you were provoked by anything the other person said, did, or made you feel.

You wouldn't be cruel if the other person hadn't genuinely provoked you with something they said, did, or did. Even though there is always a reason why someone behaves the way they do toward you, sometimes that explanation is so implausible that you would never suspect or confess to having done the crime in the first place, even though there is always a reason why someone acts the way they do toward you.

When someone says or does something that makes you feel bad, it's easy to convince yourself that the other person didn't mean any harm. However, it is much more difficult to convince yourself that the other person did not realize what they were doing or saying when it concerns you. It is far more convenient to take their comments at face value and think they were honest in what they said. In the end, if someone is being mean to you, it is in your best interest to find out why, whether or not you know that your actions have hurt them.

After that, you will have the option of deciding whether or not you wish to deal with it. Be certain that the other person has a problem with you and that you are not merely seeing things before you charge in with both feet bared and your fists clenched. Explain calmly and collectedly why you think they're upset with you, and then ask to talk to them in private (things might become heated, and you might not want onlookers overhearing your chat). Simply let them know that you cannot comprehend how they are feeling and that you would value it if they could share their thoughts with you so that you could try to put things right. Your ability to understand and value the other person's viewpoint will determine the next stage in the process. When you understand the problem, your situation will improve.