How do I know whether my inner growth is detached or indifferent?

It's not hard to know. How do you know when you have a headache? how do you know when you don't have a headache? As you become more and more detached, you will become healthier and happier, your life will be full of joy and fun, and that is the standard of all good things.

Happiness is the standard. If you grow up happily, you will not only grow up, but also go home. Indifferent people can not have the opportunity to grow up, in fact, if that kind of person has any happiness, it will become a bird.

Happiness is health. To me, people with religious quality are basically hedonists, hedonism is the essence of religion, and happiness is everything. So remember, if things are going right, if you are in the right direction, then your happiness will become more and more with each moment, as if you are walking towards a colorful and magnificent garden, as you get closer to the garden, you can feel that the air is fresher and cooler, the fragrance in the air is more powerful, and the aroma is a sign that you are going in the right direction. If the air is less fresh and refreshing, and you can't smell the flowers, you're walking in the opposite direction.

Existence is made up of happiness, and happiness is its basic element. So, every time you grow in the direction of existence, for no reason, you will be happier and happier. If you are growing in a detached direction, love will grow, happiness will grow, and only persistence will fade, because persistence will bring pain, burden, and destroy your freedom.

However, if you become more and more indifferent and indifferent is a fake coin, it just looks like detachment, but the cold person can not have any growth, you will only shrink and wither. You might as well observe: there are many monks in the world. I'm sure you don't think they have any eye-catching light or fragrant temperament, and they don't look any more energetic than you. In fact, they are not energetic enough, more like crippled or paralyzed: obviously self-control, but not a deep inner discipline; good control, but unconscious. They comply with a set of ethical and moral standards given by society, but their consciousness has not yet been opened, they are not yet free, and they are not independent individuals. Those people are like living in a grave, just waiting to die. they live a depressed, monotonous, melancholy life, showing only despair.

Be aware that whenever something goes wrong, there will be signs inside you. Sadness is a sign, depression is a sign, happiness and celebration are also signs. As you grow towards transcendence, more songs will emerge within you, you will step out more diverse dances and flow more abundant love.

Don't forget, love, not persistence. Love is never persistent, it is not love, it is possession, control, grasping, fear, greed, it can be anything, but it is not love. Other things are swaggering in the name of love. They are packed in bottles with "love" on them. You can find all kinds of things in the bottle, but you will never find love.

Be careful! If you cling to someone, are you in love or are you afraid of being alone, which makes you want to catch someone because you can't be alone, so you take advantage of that person so you don't have to be alone. If this person moves to another place, or falls in love with someone else, and puts you in fear, maybe you kill this person and explain to yourself, "I am a very persistent person." "or maybe you kill yourself and say," I am a very persistent person. I can't live without her or him. " "

How stupid! It's not love, it's something else. What you fear is your solitude, and you don't have the ability to be with yourself, so you need someone else to distract you. You want to occupy another person, using another person as a means to meet your own ends, and using others as a means is a kind of violence.

The German philosopher Kant regards this basic principle as one of the indicators of moral life. He once said that it is the most immoral act to use a person as a means, and it is true that you regard others as a means for your reward, your sexual desire, your fear or other ends. To take advantage of others is to demote them to something, you deprive them of their freedom and destroy his or her soul.

The soul can only grow in freedom, and love gives freedom. When you give freedom, you are free, and that is a kind of detachment. When you force the burden on others, you imprison yourself at the same time. If you bind others, they will bind you; if you define others, they will limit you; if you occupy others, they will also occupy you.

Husband and wife have endless quarrels over domination all their lives, and that is exactly the case, both sides go their own way, so both of them are struggling, which is constant nagging and wrestling. A man thinks he controls a woman in some way, and a woman thinks she has a man in some way, but control is not love.

Never treat anyone as a means to treat him the way he used to be, then you will not be attached or attached; you love, but your love gives you freedom, and when you give others freedom, you are free. Only in freedom can your soul grow; you will be happy.

You ask: how can I know whether my inner growth is detached or indifferent?

If you are happy, if you are happy with what is growing, and if you are more central, more solid, and more energetic than before, then please continue to stride forward, there is nothing to make you timid. Let happiness be your touchstone and indicator, but nothing else can be used as an indicator.

Nothing written in the classics can be your indicator unless your heart can throb in joy; nothing I say can be regarded as your standard, unless your heart can beat in joy. At the moment of your birth, an indicator is placed inside you. It is a part of your life. You can always know what is going on, and you can always feel happy or unhappy. No one asks others if they are happy. When you are depressed, you know: when your heart is in full bloom, you also know that it is an inborn value. You know very well that you were born to know, so let yourself use that natural indicator, it will never lie to your life.