It's my time to shine, not Saint Valentines

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Welcome to the anti-Valentine playlist, also known as the self-love compilation. Every song has been delicately and carefully handpicked to celebrate the love you have within. Not many have read this far to unlock this suspicious gift. How could anything this good be true? Well, more power to you for reading up until now, that is self-love in itself, or maybe you are just curious, bored, or in need of some emotional healing. Keep going. Run that rose water bath, indulge in those cherry chocolates, slip into some silk, pour a big half-full glass of self-empowerment, turn off the notifications, and turn up the music. Yeah, you know it, a free pass to a night of narcissism. This is your ‘me time’ and ‘guilt-free’ time. We are going all out with this one. Don’t say I didn’t warn you. No, you won't have to tone it down a notch when the needle lifts off the record player. This is good for you. Let's level up on the self-loving lyrics.

1. Ain' Got No (I Got Life) - Nina Simone

I've got life, I've got my freedom

I've got the life

And I'm gonna keep it

And nobody's gonna take it away

Let’s kick it off with a hypnotic healing hymn to seamlessly guide you into this self-love sonic experience. The theme of this charming chant is to appreciate what you've already got! To prepare for this song, list five things that happened to you today that you are grateful for. Boring or tricky? You will be surprised what changes within when you pick up that pen and try. If you begin to change the perspective of your day and your life, I believe you can learn to focus on what you already have and you will always see the universe in abundance so you will have more. If you focus on what you don’t have, you will never have enough. This song will remind you of what to be grateful for. The best things in life are free and no, romantic love is not the be-all and end-all.

2. Don't Be So Hard On Yourself - Jess Glynne

Don't be so hard on yourself, no

Learn to forgive, learn to let go

Everyone trips, everyone falls

So don't be so hard on yourself, no

Let's check for scratches. Is your mind drifting to a fuzzy fog of how you don’t have anyone to love this year? Let's flip the record over and check in with some more self-love stuff. Time for a diva-ditty. A song that straight up screams that you must love yourself and not be so hard on yourself. Look, this song will remind you that there are no mistakes in love because you have a supreme love destiny. One day you will fall in love with someone else, but for now it starts with falling in love with you. Is this starting to sound a bit hocus pocus? Fear not. There are no nasty side effects to this song and it will not leave you feeling empty. I have always had a deep understanding for myself that if anything was going to move forward in my life then I would be responsible for making that happen. This song has helped me push my love boat out into the sea of destiny. You and only you have the power to take responsibility to move your life forward. The sooner you get that (and play the song), the sooner your life gets into gear, but for now, this song should help move you in the right direction, whether that be in your life or in your living room disco. This song will get your energy levels up and sweat away any heartbreak blues.

3. Can't Take That Away (Mariah's Theme) - Mariah Carey

But I refuse to falter in what I believe

Or lose faith in my dreams

Cause there, there's a light in me

That shines brightly

They can try but they cant take that away from me

Let's cool it off with a slow, self-love mirror, mirror on the wall melody. A thoughtful one. This song reminds us that people will try to make us feel unhappy at times but if we love ourselves, we can’t get hurt by words. We can certainly get some love from the words in this song. Yeah, you are with the one you need, and that is you! Turn your heart of glass into titanium steel. Break the pattern of heartbreak and fall in love with you. It does not matter where you have come from in love. I have seen people come out of the worst relationships, grow up with no love and leave love behind. What matters now is this moment and your willingness to see this moment for what it is, accept it, forgive the past and take control of your self-love. So put up your feet and have a slice of this six-star quality song with some sugar on top. Oh, don’t mind if you do! Spoilt rotten.

3. I Keep - Jill Scott

Movin' forward

Pressing onward, strivin' further

Keep on laughin'

Keep on livin', keep on lovin', yeah

Keep on dreamin'

Keep on achievin', keep on believin'

This beautiful banger will certainly get you into the right mind frame for self-love. Sometimes a negative mantra can subconsciously run through the tape in our minds, telling ourselves that we are not good enough and we end up acting out that belief system. Stop right there! This song will remind you to believe that your self love will grow and get stronger. You are going to make more positive choices in life because of what you believe to be true for yourself. The first and ultimate choice you can make today is to start believing in yourself. This pampered self-love serenade should surely get you into the spirit.

4. Masterpiece - Jessie J

I still fall on my face sometimes and I

Can't colour inside the lines 'cause

I'm perfectly incomplete

I'm still working on my masterpiece

You can be assured that this song has been lovingly prepared for you, using only the finest, freshest self-loving lyrics. Dip in and have a listen. Go on, you deserve this audacious anthem with its punchy vocals. Such a sassy song that reminds us to have goals and to try and reach them. It also reminds us that we don't have to be perfect but we must believe in ourselves. This song is about the path to self-love and the unsteady climb. If we fail at something, it is a sign to move in another direction. Don't let yourself spin off the path when you feel that your hands are not gripping firmly onto the wheel of life. We just have to stop at the side of the road, change direction on the map, and have confidence that we will get to our destination at a time that suits us best.

5. A Moment to Myself - Macy Gray

Here in this moment to myself

I'm gonna vibe with no one else

There is a conversation I need to have with me

It's just a, a moment to myself, yeah, yeah

Flowers are bloomin' under gray skies and moons

Seems like I'm winnin' everytime I lose

For the last song, it is time to light a candle, turn off the lights and close your eyes. Of course, that is after you read the last few sentences of this self-love guide. This song is a spiritual reading. It is a meditation in itself. It is a song to keep our vibrations high. I could say that we are energy fields, balancing out the positive and negative vibes. We have to do things that keep our positive vibration high like surrounding ourselves with good friends and solo dancing to this song. When you are tuned in and charged into this song, you go inside yourself and you will know that all things are possible. You are the master of your fate, you are the ruler of your soul. You are responsible for the choices that you make in your life and you can live the dream. I want you to live the dream. What is the dream for you? Maybe you will fantasize about the dream as this song plays.