We do need our space. This does not mean we don't want your presence, though. Sometimes, we will have to focus on writing and reading, and we can't only put half-effort into that. But we most definitely still want to be around you.
If you talk to us while we are typing away, chances are we aren't listening. Ask us to pause and listen to you. If we're on a roll, we'll ask you to wait a few moments while we finish this paragraph, or this page, or this chapter. This isn't always in the most gentle tone of voice, but it's only because we're concentrating really hard, and you may or may not have broken our train of thought. Don't take it personally. We still love you.
We do want—and value—your opinion, but we need it gently. Constructive criticism >>>> negative criticism. Tell us your honest thoughts on what we share with you, but please be kind and realize that what you say has the potential to affect what we write for a really, really... really long time.
We are going to ask you to proof-read [almost] everything we write.
We may try out 20 variations of the same sentence and ask you which you like the most... even if you have absolutely no idea what we are looking for. Just try your best to help us out.
We may be working on something, and then you call us. We'll answer our phone because duh, it's you, but if we can't talk long, we will tell you. Or you could even ask "Hey am I interrupting anything?" To which we will promptly reply, "Yeah, I was in the middle of writing something." We just need to get back to that train of thought I mentioned earlier. Offer to call us back later, or if it's crucial to talk about it right away, communicate that kindly and we will make time for you.
Please be willing to listen to us—especially when we get excited about something we have written.
We are easy to purchase gifts for. Notebooks, journals? Yes. Pens? Fabulous (we're always losing ours). Earbuds? Can't have too many of those. Gift cards to book stores? Done.
Speaking of notebooks, we always, always have at least one with us.
Many times, we can be really bad at talking. If we want to say something important, we might just write it down instead of verbally communicating what we are thinking.
If you happen to see internet history such as "how fast does a person bleed out," "how to remove bloodstains," "the most popular cause of hallucinations," "what is another word for heartbreak," and other strange topics, don't worry. It's just research.
We would be perfectly content with a leisure Saturday of us writing and you watching your basketball game. It's called compromising.
Inspiration can come in many different forms. And we will verbalize it. Again, it may not make sense to you, but at least be happy for us.
Don't be offended when we correct your spelling or grammar. It comes naturally to a writer/editor to fix out-of-place word usage.
We may read into things too much or too often. However, this also means that we are very perceptive. So just know that what you say, how you say it, and your facial expressions will not go unnoticed. Teach us your specific way of communicating though. And vocalize when we are "reading" you out of context.
If we are writing a novel, we might get frustrated that our characters aren't doing what we want them to do. We can't control them. Or if we are writing nonfiction, frustration will happen in the form of writer's block and lack of inspiration. Just sympathize with us, okay? Our favorite foods are more than welcome as consolations.
Even if you aren't the best writer in the world, chances are a girl who is a writer will be swept off her feet by a letter from her lover. Words have such power. And knowing who penned them makes any form of the written word even more special and important.
We people watch... a lot. It might be a little creepy, but this is one sure way for us to gain inspiration.
As much as you may want to read our stuff, don't push us to show you. Especially with personal writing (poetry, journals, etc.), it may take a bit of time to let you have a peek at it. And even then, you may never get to read it. This doesn't mean we don't trust you. It's just the caution of vulnerability that we ask you to be sensitive to.
Physical touches of affection mean the world to us when we are busy typing away. Squeeze our shoulder when you walk by, play with our hair, give us a peck on the cheek. It doesn't [usually] break our concentration, and we just know that you support us. It's like you are saying "Hey, I love that you write."
Bear with us if we ever wake you up in the middle of the night, because we had to turn the light on and scribble some thoughts and ideas down.
We take a lot of risks. We put our work out on the worldwide web for all to see. We enter writing contests, submit manuscripts for publication, follow hashtag challenges on social medias, etc., etc. Just be our biggest fan. Please.
We will write about you. Possibly before we start dating you, definitely while we are dating you (lover = muse), and if the relationship does not last, take our word that we will continue writing about you. At least for a while. It depends on how we end.