Miss Aayden ~ L.S. Diamond
When I am not reading or taking pictures I am writing. I spend my time with my dogs or in the realm of kink. Just a girl with a kinky side on a quest to educate. You can also find my posts and events here~ www.calgarydomme.com
Keep The Passion Burning: 10 Sex Tips for Continued Passion
Some of the simplest things we can do to keep the passion in our relationship and to keep it going hard and strong is to keep dating our partner. Oftentimes living together or the stresses of life can have a big impact on how we look at the person that is supposed to hold us up and be our rock. How we choose to live our relationships is a direct reflection of the attention we want to receive. Often, we express ourselves to our partners through simple acts rather than expressing ourselves in words.
Small BDSM Traditions
Traditions in the kink community are a strong driving force within the BDSM culture. The traditions we see come from the history and origin of kink however they are evolving to include more mainstream players that come to us from social media. The traditions I speak of could be anything from collaring to how a submissive behaves. Exploring these traditions allows us to develop our own unique D/s style.
Monogamy, Poly and The Ish
Why is monogamy so hard? We all seek the ideal in a relationship. We want our knight in shining armor, or safe space, but why do we truly want these things? The need for this yearning for long-term desire is sometimes overshadowed or at odds with two opposing forces. The need for security versus the need for surprise.
Adding To Your Communication Toolbox
Balance in any relationship is key to a healthy thriving dynamic. What that dynamic is ultimately is up to the people involved however, being in a kink relationship takes a bit more work. There are expectations outside of the normal day-to-day that must be faced, and those expectations can be well within the physical or sexual realm. It is often hard to maintain a dynamic when you must face things like work, family responsibilities, paying bills, or even grocery shopping. All the mundane things that take away from the fun.
Sex Toy Avoidance
Can sex toys in the bedroom really be unwanted? I never knew this was a topic for concern until scrolling through Tik Tok and seeing just how many men were put off by sex toys. I was further dismayed when I did a Google search and found Reddit posts and various other forum posts with the exact same topic... “My boyfriend is jealous of my toy.” This seems like such a foreign concept to me as someone who dives into the realm of kink. Kink revolves around toys, lots of toys. So, I decided to look past my views and take a deeper look into why men might be jealous of their girlfriends’ toys.
Lovemaking Technique: The Coital Alignment Technique
Sexual techniques and prowess in the bedroom have come a long way in the last little while. It wasn't that long ago that Doctor Kinsey started sex research and founded the Kinsey Institute. For many of us having teenage years in the late 80s and early 1990s, we were huddled around the TV for a Sunday show called Sex with Sue. There was also the well-known late-night show, Doctor Ruth. Many of us learned from these two women or our parent's hidden stash of Playboy and Hustler magazines. For me, this was the first introduction besides the Catholic school’s sex education program that I had ever received and like many of us sex was not about the experience or the pleasure, but the result was the male orgasm. I didn't even know then what a female orgasm was. In many of these resources and in pornography we see sexual techniques that involve thrusting or an in and out motion. What if I told you there are other techniques that provide the same amount of pleasure with stimulation to other sexual regions.
Orgasm Control: A Kink for the Mainstream too
In this world of pandemic pressures and Internet, information polls were conducted and in the top 10 biggest kinks was orgasm control. In the world of kink, we use orgasms as reward and punishment but also because you like to witness pleasure.
Does Size Really Matter?
In being a relationship coach, couples’ counselor, and kink professional; I have been asked on numerous occasions am I the right size or could I be bigger. So, it led me on a journey of curiosity as to whether size matters to a potential partner when having sexual intercourse. The underlying sentiment for females is that size doesn't matter the important aspect is how you use it. However, in the male population insecurities about size often are in the forefront of thoughts. Remember these are my own thoughts, opinions, and suggestions when it comes to the size of a penis.
Jealousy: Overcoming and Understanding
All relationships can be made happy if you know-how. Let's look at some of the right skills to find a clear understanding of what makes them work, sometimes it seems so far away when jealousy is in the mix. It is absolutely no surprise when jealousy becomes an obstacle to having a satisfying healthy relationship. By identifying sometimes quite complex underlying emotions better present with jealousy, we can discover its cause and effectively devise a positive plan to take jealousy's power away.
The Big O: Understanding Mind-blowing O's.
What is an orgasm? How does it affect your biological chemistry? We're going to cover how to get on the o train and come out with new techniques. Before we can get to the techniques and the fun, we must understand a few key concepts. Brain chemistry, what happens during the orgasm, male versus female, the orgasm model, and communicating your needs. These are all things you need to understand in order to up your o game.
How To Make a Hard Conversation Easy?
So, what makes talking about stuff so hard with your partner well it's quite simple it's the questioning. It's the self doubt. It's the fear. It's all the questions in your head that say what if, I'll get laughed at, I'm weird, it's only me, what if my partner leaves. All of it equals self doubt and fear. In this article let's address how we can overcome our fear and share it with our partners.