“Important encounters are planned by the souls long before the bodies see each other.”
- Paulo Coelho
In April 2019, my life was falling apart. College was stressing me out. I was embarrassed by some of the decisions I made. I was tired of giving. Tired of being kind. I felt worthless. I was not motivated or interested in anything I was doing. And all I wanted was for someone to show up for me. It felt like a dark period of my life, and one week before my Easter break, I made the abrupt decision of escaping to a place where no one knew me. Taking the tough decision of breaking into my savings, I bought plane tickets and flew across the country to San Diego, California for a week.
Forgiveness. We are encouraged to practice it often. Something guaranteed to make us live a better life. Something to make us feel gratitude. However, the path of moving on from pain is a difficult one. It takes reflection, alone time, and self-improvement to have the courage to accept that we need to let go of something that does not benefit us anymore. We have to take the steps in breaking the grudges we have held for some time now.
Man, we have heard women complain about them for a longer time. We have listened to it in movies, in TV series, in conversations with friends and family members. And though the brain of a man is different from a woman's, I feel that what we are complaining about is the person we are having or considering a relationship with.