Sum (心, ♡) on Sleeve | Author. Speaker. Wife. Mom of 2 | Embrace Culture. Love Yourself. Improve Relationships | Empowering you to talk about your feelings despite growing up in a culture that hid them | sumonsleeve.com/books
4 Questions You Get When Your Book Is Called “How to Deal With Asian Parents”
The title of the book assumes that it provides the reader with a clear solution to their problems. But with any self-help, personal development, or relationship advice book, the solution lies within us.
Tips To Teach Your Baby Cantonese (When You're Not Fluent Yourself)
I'm a Chinese-Canadian mom (you can read more about my journey of accepting my culture here). As much as I've been open to learning and adopting the Chinese way of doing things, it's been hard balancing what I think is important to preserve in my family versus "I'll just do it the Canadian way."
How The Pandemic Made Me Stop Wearing My Wedding Ring
I got engaged in a botanical garden in Egypt. I was waiting in a gazebo while he used the bathroom. When he came back, he got down on one knee and did his thing. The ring wasn't actually a ring; it was a mould of what it would look like.
How To Write a Candid Story
Why keep it real? Authenticity, candour, real talk 100%…this is what readers value when they consume a story. They don't want fluff. They don't want to be talked down to. They don't want posers. They're too smart for that. They know when you're faking it. They can read between the lines of posturing.
How I've Accepted My Kids are Delaying My Dreams and Goals
I had so many high hopes and expectations When I was pregnant with my son last year, I made a vow that when the time came for my maternity leave*, I would go guns blazing, writing, recording, and creating, while he napped. I learned with my daughter that newborns sleep A LOT and they don't need me to stare at them while they're safely bundled in their crib. I can sneak away and do things for myself.
3 Toxic Myths About Body Positivity That I Used To Believe
Growing up, I struggled to love myself. From social pressures, the media to overly critical family members who constantly compared me to my skinnier peers, I never felt like my body was good enough.
You Need Your Emotions Validated Whether You're From Mars or Venus
"Sometimes, she just wants a sympathetic ear." Recently, my husband and I started watching Modern Family. I had watched it before but stopped. It came out when I was in grad school, trying to figure out where I was in life. Marriage and kids were so far away, that I couldn't relate. Now, with 2 kids and half a decade of marriage under my belt, it felt right to start again.
How I Stopped People-Pleasing and Started Living Life on My Own Terms
People-pleasing = low self-esteem From always saying yes, breaking promises with ourselves, sacrificing our values to help someone out, enabling toxic behaviours, keeping silent to prevent hurting someone's feelings even though they've hurt ours, being inauthentic about our true feelings to siding with the majority when we completely disagreed, people-pleasing behaviours come in all forms.