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5 Stereotypes About The Youngest Child That Aren't True
Back in the 1920s, psychologist Alfred Adler coined the term, "Youngest Child Syndrome", detailing the negative and positive effects of birth order on a person's character. And boom! Stereotypes are formed.
What No One Tells You About Asian Parent Expectations
What is a Tiger Mom? Why is there a High Expectations Asian Father meme? Remember Amy Chua back in the early 2010s when her controversial book about Tiger Mothers blew up around the world?
Why It's Okay If You Don't Like Spending Time With Your Asian Parents
Friday dinner at their house, Sunday morning Dim Sum, having your parents over at your place… How does it feel thinking about those things?
The Ultimate Guide To Deciding Whether You Should Have Kids
"I don't want my life to change right now but that stupid biological clock is ticking." "Parenting seems so hard and tiring but then why do all these people do it?"
Why The Term 'Maternal Instinct' Hurts Men and Women
Let's time travel back to about 3 years ago. It's 3:00 am. My daughter's hunger cries wake me up. I get up, trudge over to her crib, pick her up and yawn.
Why I Was Furious When My Husband Surprised Me With A Break From The Kids
I thought I wanted the surprise I've heard the stories of women praising their husbands for surprising them with a day off, taking the kids out and giving their wives a much-deserved break. It's like that joke about what mothers really want on Mother's Day: a day to not be a mother, to do whatever they want without the kids.
3 Reasons Why Working Mom Guilt Will Cease To Exist
It's being at work and feeling guilty about not being at home. Then it's being at home and feeling guilty about not being at work.
A Simple Self-Reflection Exercise To Increase Self-Awareness
Here's an easy self-reflection exercise you can do to know yourself better and increase self-awareness. Pick a simple decision that you've made in the past and ask yourself WHY 5 times.
Why I Show Physical Affection To My Husband In Front Of Our Kids
Cringe, shudder, gross. I grew up with the kind of parents who barely touched. How has that affected my views on physical affection and parenting?
Why Saying "My Wife Won't Let Me" Stunts Your Growth
Disclaimer: Even though I focused this post on married heterosexual men, it doesn't mean that other genders don't use their partners as an excuse. This behaviour transcends gender, culture, relationship status, sexual preference etc. However, in my personal experience, I've heard men default to this excuse more often than women.
I Was Jealous of the Attention My Parents’ Gave My Eldest Sister Until I Became a Mom
There are three of us: my eldest sister, my middle sister and me. The relationship I have with my eldest sister is like a snow globe; it stays dormant for most of the year but gets shaken up during the holidays.
9 Asian Female Stereotypes That Need To Die
Why not both? I wish this meant having both soft and hard tacos but instead it's experiencing both sexism and racism as an Asian woman. It's like if I'm not being discriminated against for being a woman, then I'm being discriminated against for being an Asian.