People, people, people. I'm shaking my head at this moment as I start this because it seems that every time I get an epiphany, I start to be more aware of it and then see many examples of it. In this case, it is that most people or terrible, horrible listeners. I mean, they don't even get out of their own head before they roll out of bed (I made a rhyme!). Communication is always 2 ways, no matter what anyone tells you. Verbal or nonverbal, someone is doing the "talking" and the other is doing the "listening" in any scenario. Seriously, think about it. It's not communication if there is nobody or nothing around to perceive your signals. Have you been in a conversation where it just feels like the other party cuts you off, talks over you, and no matter how many attempts you make to clarify your point, you end up feeling unheard? Well, you aren't crazy! You're just living in the society of instant gratification that is available on an individual level to every since person who owns a phone or computer with access to, pretty much anything they want.
Is it such a straightforward thing anymore? Being a mother? Nowadays in a society where you can identify as a potato if you want to, definitions are blurred compared to what they once were. But from what I've been observing for several years is the bias against change in what defines others. A big example would be mothers of children vs. "mothers" of pets. Daenerys Targaryen from Game of Thrones was given those dragon eggs, she didn't birth them; yet, she was called the mother of those dragons. How dare she, except...she CAN dare to call herself that. She can dare all day long. This is because being called a mother isn't as simple as giving birth to a child anymore. It's tagged to any caregiver who displays the very characteristics of nurturing and guidance necessary to ensure survival of the receiver of this care. Couples that are having trouble conceiving will get into the adoption process and after waiting possibly years, finally adopt a child for them to love and care for. The "mother" in this scenario is still not regarded as a mother for having such a big heart and so much love to give a child she didn't bear herself? What about single dads who put down everything to handle their child's needs when they are doing it all on their own? They have to provide way more and be that child's absolute world while still supporting the financial needs of them both.
It's funny how the beliefs and values of our previous generations still make themselves present in the modern world where the world is your oyster and information is easily accessible at your fingertips. I mean, computers in your pocket? Who would've guessed this could be possible back in the 80's! Anyone can educate themselves about anything they want at any point in time now. Still, the idea of being a single woman over the age of 30 is looked at as a bit of a shame and there are so many sympathetic onlookers willing to give you a helping hand in finding you a mate...you poor thing, you!