A 20 year old college student just looking for a way to get by through sharing her experiences with other people.
The Seven Year Switch
Have you ever set yourself on a path that you thought, without a shadow of a doubt, would be the right one? After spending years, and thousands of dollars on that path, you almost talk yourself into thinking it's the correct one even if it isn't, because the alternative is scarier. You don't want to think that everything was done for nothing and that the degree (or degrees in my case) that you've been working on for so long are nothing more than an expensive piece of wall decor. It's a hard pill to swallow, especially when the truth has been there beneath the surface for years, but you thought that by not acknowledging it, it would go away.
This particular video really spoke to me on multiple levels. In order to fully unpack the meaning of this video, and to not do a disservice to the woman who wrote it, I feel the need to discuss it with respect to both the literal and figurative meanings behind this video and connect it to my experiences.
Psych and Prejudice Pt. 6
There's a bunch of video trailers for a new movie that came out this year that focuses on an African-American who works at a call center. Many people hang up on him when he talks normally, which then prompts his coworker to give him the advice to talk like a white person. He does and starts to get more responses than he did normally. There is a term for what he does, it is called code-switching. Code-switching is when we change up the way we speak in order to get a better outcome than what would happen if we did not. Code-switching usually involves changing one's language based of ethnicity or culture. This is not to be confused with pragmatics, which is when people speak different in different conversations (for example, you speak to a baby differently than your college professor. Or at least I would hope so).
Psych and Prejudice Pt. 5
Today we are talking about cognitive dissonance. Cognitive Dissonance is when you do something that does not match with your current belief system. This causes you to feel bad, thus either changing your belief to match your actions, or rationalizing your actions to the point where they somehow weirdly fit your beliefs. This causes the cognitive dissonance to go away, making your life easier since no one likes to feel uncomfortable because of their own decisions. However, cognitive dissonance is totally normal and you probably do it more often than you may think.
Psych and Prejudice Pt. 4
Today in psychology and prejudice, we are discussing the Just World Theory. The Just World Theory is the theory that people get what they deserve. This theory pops up multiple times throughout different spheres of the world, but you may not think that you experience it very often. It also often goes by the terms "blaming the victim."
All the Small Things
I came up with the idea to write this piece while I was laying in bed next to my sleeping boyfriend at the hotel we were staying at. He had come up to visit me at college and whisked me away for a weekend full of renaissance fairs and fun. While I was beginning to fall asleep, I just thought of all the little things, good and bad, that had happened this weekend.
Psych and Prejudice Pt. 3
"Dress to impress" is something we've all heard before when applying to a job, starting a new school year, or going on a date. However, is there really a necessary reason to do that? Does wearing certain clothes make us more likable, or do they just present an image that is more likable? The things we wear say a lot about us. Our image is what we present to the world, it is how we try to conform to society's standards and fit in. That is why there are websites and magazines that spend their time judging what other people wear, since we ourselves judge what people wear.
Psych and Prejudice Pt. 2
Greek life is often the focal point of a lot of student life on most large state campuses. Smaller campuses, like my own, do not have sororities or fraternities. From an outside perspective, Greek life seems like either an amazing way to make lifelong friends and promote certain acts of scholarship and service or it seems very superficial. So, what's the deal with sororities?
Psych and Prejudice
There are countless moments while watching media where double standards run rampant. On any episode of House, there's a crack made by Dr. House about how Cuddy has her "assets" on display and that that is not what a Dean of Medicine should look like, to which she asks if it is because she is a woman in power. On the sports channels, there are debates over whether or not Serena Williams' behavior recently was justified and if a man had done those things, would they have been penalized for it. Our society seems to run on these double standards: remnants of years and years of social protocol that has since been deemed unnecessary, but the feelings of when someone does not adhere to them still stay.
Tinder: Kindling a Romance in the 21st Century
Dating throughout the years has changed dramatically. Dating has gone from the arranged marriages of the middle ages, to the social seasons that led to courtships of the 17th and 18th centuries in London, to speed dating, to blind dates, to now eventually end up at online dating. It seems as though every new dating style has lost more and more of the romance that is so coveted by some, especially since the new era of online dating has led to the emergence of hookup culture. Many people, myself once included, would turn their noses up at the notion of online dating through apps like Tinder and OKCupid. After all, what kind of connection could you really find on apps mostly used by people looking for other people who are down to fuck?