relationships
Trace the link between feminism and relationships from outdated norms to modern conventions including chivalry, working mothers, splitting the bill and beyond.
I Wanted to Leave
The worst part is that I wanted to leave. I planned on leaving, I had it all set up, I was going to get out. Start again, have someone I could really rely on. Instead, I got pregnant…. Whoops. Just one too many drinks that night got me in bed with him. Weird because I never slept with him anymore. Didn’t want too, why would I want too? The way he treated me? No one would want too.
The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo
When I was a teenager, something unexpected happened to me that was hard to overcome, but as the years went by I learned to accept that what happened happened and to move on from it. Sadly, that was hard to do, but the man I am with today helped me through that journey to get over what has happened. This poem was written before I had met him as a start to get over what has happened to me, and after such a long time, this dragon tattoo represents the truth about me as a person.
Trinity ShadowPublished 5 years ago in VivaHow Tinder Sent Me to Therapy
I have noticed a trend around me… a trend that often inspires me to watch the movie He’s Just Not That Into You. You probably know what I’m talking about before I even describe it. We all have probably done it at some point, and we all know at the very least, one close girlfriend or sister who is doing it right now.
Rose EricsonPublished 6 years ago in VivaDeafening Silence
The door closed and that was it. It was done. No more yelling. No more fighting. No more hatred, at least not from him. After years of manipulation and control I was free, or so I thought. I set about filing for divorce as though that would fix the trauma I had endured. This is not a story so much about being a victim but rather an emotional outpouring from someone that was a victim of domestic violence.
Without Regret
With an unladylike howl, she slammed the clam-shell grill closed a bit harder than she should have. Here's another burn to add to her collection of scars. Furiously, she swiped the dirty blue rag across the slightly cooled grill which still boasted temperatures near three hundred degrees. With her wrist, she dabbed the corner of her eye, thankful that her last cashier had slipped out into the night. Sinking into the office chair, she collected paperwork along with her thoughts, tucking some here and others there.
Sis MonicaPublished 6 years ago in VivaThe Red Flags I Should Have Seen
I was 16 when I tried my hand at online dating, at the time I didn't think about the dangers and didn't get how easy it is to get pulled into the black magic of the online world and the online people. Everyone is so different online; it's like there is some kind of virtual confidence or cockiness that people get every time the screen gets turned on. I just wish I could have seen the truth behind the screen when I met my first boyfriend online because I thought he was amazing but I quickly figured out how wrong I was. Now I know what you are thinking, most people have their first boyfriend in like first grade or something, but I was a weird kid who couldn't make friends. But anyway, I got my first boyfriend at 16 almost 17 and in my OMG this my first boyfriend, we are gonna be together forever stupid teenage mind I thought he was perfect I never saw the red flags that were screaming right into my face jumping up and down begging to be seen but I was blind and stupid. There were so many red flags that I just couldn't see but there was 4 big bright fire truck red flags that should of got my attention.
shiney poetryPublished 6 years ago in VivaDon't Let "Love" Ruin You
From me, to really anyone. I was in a relationship for four years, and to everyone, I looked happy. I always had a smile on my face, I was hyper, I seemed like I was so happy in the relationship. Everything seemed to be going well, he taught me how to drive manual car, took me to my favorite places to eat, always kind and respectful with my parents, and proposed to me right after my graduation from high school...where everyone was home and shouting say yes...so I did. I regret it. He made us hide it from his parents, only my family knew. I should've noticed everything so much sooner, considering all that happened.
Princess MartinPublished 6 years ago in VivaTo the Girl Who Doesn’t Know If She Can Do It
At the beginning of every relationship it’s sunshine and roses, unicorns fly by farting rainbows and everything seems perfect in the world. He is the one for sure, three months in. Than something happens, it’s six months in, but you can work it out right? Than one year passes and you are making excuses and trying to tell that voice in your head to shut up because he is perfect.
Pain Into Power
Yesterday for a few short hours, my world fell apart. I ended up being that girl I swore to myself I would never be again. The victim! The mentality I worked so hard to rid myself of crept back in. I say crept, it was more like a tornado, ripping through me. Twisting my mind, tearing my heart out and crushing my soul for being in its path. I know what you're thinking, what could have happened to me for such an extreme reaction? He did. The narcissist. That pure and evil soul that set out to destroy me. I wont lie to you or myself, he very nearly did. But by morning my pain became my power. Allow me to explain.
Sophie KerrPublished 6 years ago in Viva- Top Story - September 2018
10 Signs You're Dating a Red Piller
Once in a blue moon, people will see a philosophy that is so toxic, it's incompatible with having healthy relationships. It's rare, but it happens. Sadly, it also happens with increasing frequency now that most people get their love and life advice from the internet.
Sasha KonikovoPublished 6 years ago in Viva A Letter from a Hurricane Survivor
It started out quaint. I had always done best alone, in my own little desert with my books and starry nights. I liked it that way, until I didn’t. I wanted to share my books and words with someone else, shine my trusty lamp light on my solo desert adventures late at night. But as I said, I liked it until I didn’t, so I went on an adventure to find a fellow desert island to share the books and stars with; and that’s exactly what I did.
Will You Change Your Name?
When you get married, should you change your name? Will it be assumed that this article is aimed at female readers? I hope not.