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Is It Racist to Not Like Porn With a Different Ethnicity in Lead

How Fantasy Works and How it Doesn't

By Timothy A RowlandPublished 3 months ago 6 min read
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Introduction

To start off with, let’s all just agree to be honest about one thing. Nearly everyone watches porn, regardless of age, race, sexuality, or gender… we all enjoy watching porn, at least on occasion. I’m aware the entire population does not watch porn, but let’s at least agree that the vast majority of us do. There is no shame in it at all. As long as you keep it under control and it doesn’t interfere with your actual life and relationships, you should be fine. It’s fantasy and it is useful, even if it is only watched for the short or not-so-short time that you need to get certain things done. There, now that we’ve gotten that out of the way, let’s dive deeper into the topic we are here to discuss.

How Fantasy Works

We all know that porn is used as a fantasy. Yes, the usual use and point of porn is to have a visual while you get yourself off. You are literally wanting to find a visual stimulant and representation that can be used to have a sexual fantasy. That’s what fantasy is, a visual- physical or mental- that you can immerse yourself into that will thrill you or stimulate you in the desired way.

Well, recently, a question popped into my head. To be fair and transparent, I guess I should say that both the question and the answer popped into my head, actually. That question is this: ‘is it racist to not want to watch porn where the lead is a different race than you?” Of course, nowadays, tons of people (and we know who those people are) want to attach the term “racist” to anything and everything under the sun. Anything they don’t like they automatically call racist. That’s all BS so let’s just get past that ignorant frame of mind and deal in reality.

The answer is, “no.” It is not racist to not want to watch porn that features a lead that is a different race than you. Firstly, sexual, and romantic preferences are just that… preference. It is a personal choice or natural desire. Nobody can dictate your preferences any more than they can dictate your thoughts. Secondly, there is a very clear reason for this. As we said, the point of a fantasy is to immerse yourself into the visuals so that you can mentally experience what you are seeing. If the lead person of your gender is very obviously different from you, then it makes that very difficult to do. That’s not racist, that’s logic and reality. Not to mention psychology.

A Little Clarification

Now, let me clarify something at this point. I am mostly referring to watching porn in a POV mindset or an actual POV video. I am not saying that I never watch porn that has a black person in it. Hell no! I’ve watched plenty of porn that has black women in it. I enjoy interracial videos with a beautiful dark-skinned woman and a white guy. I’ve even watch porn that has a black man in it, but there needs to be a white guy that I can at least mentally use to immerse myself into the visual scenario. Would I watch a video with a white guy and a black guy having a threesome with one woman? No, I wouldn’t. Not because there is a black guy in the video, but because I can’t see myself in the scenario itself. I would never want to share one woman with another guy.

It’s the same concept when the lead is a black man and there is no other male representation in the video. I can’t mentally picture myself in that scene… to put it bluntly, the entire dick is an entirely different color, and my brain is well aware of that fact. But would I watch a video with a white man, black man, and two women? Sure. I have nothing against two couples being in the same room having fun… I could fantasize about being in that scene. So, it works. I have no doubt that a black woman who wants to watch porn is less inclined to watch a video with no black women in it. A black man likely wants to see a black man, or at least one part of him, in the porn videos he watches.

What Fantasy Isn’t

Just as important, we need to discuss what fantasy is not. Fantasy is not a representation of your political beliefs. It is not a representation of your social beliefs. It is not a reflection or an indicator of what you dislike or are against in terms of people in the world. In fact, it is generally the opposite of these types of concepts. Also, it should go without saying, but I probably need to say it anyway, that fantasy is not a reflection of, or an indication of, your reality. That’s why it is called a fantasy. It is a daydream, or a seemingly impossible desire brought to life. It is not your everyday life in media or visual form.

It is not a reflection of your feelings or opinions of those around you either. Just because you don’t want to see certain things, even people, in the porn you watch or the fantasies you have, does not mean that you have no respect, admiration or love for those people in your every day real life. Even if you don’t want to sleep with someone of a certain race in your real everyday life, that is still a sexual preference and has nothing to do with racism whatsoever. Sexual preference is a personal thing with hundreds of factors and does not speak to your opinions of feelings of people of another race. Being around someone, being friends with someone, living everyday life with someone… is all very different to sleeping with them. So, trying to claim that either of these two things- porn you watch or your criteria for sex- can mean you are racist, is just absurd, false, and an attempt to cause drama where there is none. It’s a lie; plain and simple.

The Wrap Up- Conclusion

Honestly, yes, I realize this is a silly and even stupid question. However, it spoke to a larger overall question for society and especially the state of the United States these days. So, I felt it was worth writing this post to share with all of you. Feel free to post your thoughts and comments on this post if you so choose. In short though, no, not wanting to watch porn with a lead of another race is not racist in any way. It’s normal. It’s logical. It’s fine.

Fantasy is not reality, that’s why it is called “fantasy” in the first place. It is human nature to fantasize, and it is psychological to need a way to immerse yourself into the visuals and concepts of that fantasy for you to enjoy it. So, do what you do and do it to whatever porn you want that contains consenting adults; it’s all good. You are not racist or “wrong” for choosing or excluding content based on your preferences. Have fun.

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Timothy A Rowland

I’m an every day human Xennial from the United States. I have many interest. I just want to improve your life and maybe entertain you. Available for writing projects at: https://llpgpro.com/mentorshipprelaunch/

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