When you're stuck with an obsession, use these 4 steps to get rid of it

What is compulsion? The simplest way to think about it is, you have to think about it. Some people associate completely irrelevant things with the things they care about most, leading them to do meaningless, illogical, irrelevant things. For example: I must squat 10 times a day, otherwise my parents will have an accident; Every day when I go out, I must avoid that road, or it will be dangerous; I had to double-check important steps or I was bound to make a huge mistake. It is compulsion to connect things that are not logically connected and to establish a false belief that what will happen if you do not do so.

How to get rid of compulsions?

Step 1: Confirm

When you find yourself connecting unrelated things, you need to find out what's wrong with you? The point of revalidation is to confirm where you stand when you fall into an obsession. Many people suffer from obsessiveness and have tried to fight it, feeling humiliated and out of ideas because of failure. After a severe setback in self-esteem, their ability to work and socialize is greatly diminished. Never in their lives had they felt so failed, so worthless. In fact, we have these thoughts even when we're sick. But we do know that sickness, colds and fevers will go away.

Unlike a common cold or illness, people don't understand why compulsions occur or if they will ever go away. In this state of uncertainty, we fall into depression. The first step to getting rid of an obsession is to revalidate. What is certain is that when we have obsessive thoughts, we are "sick". Now that you are sick, you can understand why you have such a bad mood. At the same time, you have to believe that it will get better. Moreover, the way you behave when compulsions arise is not who you really are. That's you in your sick state, and people do poorly when they're sick.

Step two: Reattribution

Compulsion itself is not terrible, terrible is the interpretation of it. When people are obsessed with compulsions, they often feel that they are not strong enough or that they are not good. You don't like these thoughts and don't know why they stick with you. Over time you will fall into self-doubt, you will think as if you have done something wrong, the emergence of compulsive ideas is to punish yourself. These thoughts will further drag you into the trap of obsessiveness. If you are misguided by it, then you will be controlled by it. So to get rid of these obsessives, you need to reattribute them.

Or the concept of compulsion is understood as a cold, fever, so the explanation is more clear. When you have a cold and fever, you have a sore throat, runny nose, difficulty breathing, and heat. How do you explain your runny nose and difficulty breathing? These are symptoms of a cold and fever, as you well know. You don't feel like you're being punished for having a runny nose or having trouble breathing. In the same way, obsessiveness haunts you, and this is a symptom of it. It's not meant for you. It's a symptom of obsessive-compulsive thinking in everyone. Don't beat yourself up, feel guilty, or deny yourself.

Step 3: Refocus

There are two tendencies that come with compulsion: Before you act, you have a voice in your head that says, "You must do this or there will be serious consequences." When you are in the middle of an action, there is another voice in your head that says, "Stop, don't do this, or you will cause serious consequences." The effect of compulsion is that you have to do something, or when you do something, you can't concentrate on something. Over time, because of doing a lot of meaningless things, delayed a lot of time; The inability to focus on the present leads to inefficiency. The third step in getting rid of an obsession is to refocus.

The same example, when you have a cold and a fever, what do you do? If the symptoms are mild, you may choose to stay in bed and drink plenty of fluids. Even if the symptoms are a little more severe, you'll take some medicine yourself. When you have obsessive thoughts, while it's a "disease," it's not enough to call a doctor. You can work your way out of obsessiveness. So why have your previous efforts failed? Because you are too impatient, is the so-called disease in a mountain, disease away like a silk. Refocus your energy on productive, constructive activities. No matter what's going on in your head, just focus on what you need to do.

Step 4: Reevaluate

If you've done all three of these steps well, then you've gained a new understanding of obsessiveness. You see, getting rid of obsessives is like a cold, with all the symptoms that come with it, and you get better. You'll find that you're not so bad, and you'll be able to face the compulsion in your head. With these sober insights, you will be equipped to reevaluate obsessive beliefs. You may find that obsessiveness is more of a distraction than a distraction. You can ignore it completely and it won't affect you more seriously. Just do what needs to be done and don't get distracted.

Obsessiveness is all about seizing on people's weaknesses and making you do things that don't make sense.