When Was The Last Time You Had Dialogue With Yourself?

Have you ever thought of your own nature? What are your pure desires, or do you know yourself well enough? We always question ourselves for one or another thing. This happens because we are not sure of ourselves sometimes. Usually, this unsureness ends up in the conflict with our own selves. It is okay to come across yourself. It is okay to have the dialogue with yourself, because perhaps throughout the whole life you most likely will not able to find someone better than yourself to talk to.

Who is your best friend? I think you will recall some specific names and address themselves as your best friend. I have frequently heard the phrase “s/he knows me better than I know myself.” this does not indicate any good to be completely honest. Not from the psychological perspective at least.

When was the last time you talked to yourself? In the bathroom? In the traffic jam? Or any other time whenever you were alone. The fear of staying alone is one of the most natural and organic fears that we have. You know why? Well, simple. We, humans, are very social creatures. We can not stay alone for a long time, we need constant communication and even the most introvert people need to have someone on their side. Whenever we are left alone at some point, this is the time when we step into the dialogue with ourselves. This is perhaps the most frightening thing because we are left face to face with our idea, with our fears, and with our desires. We are left alone with the things that we pushed to the back shelves at some points in our lives and refuse to back to them at all.

Do you think you know yourself and you know yourself well? I can offer you an exercise that will at least slightly assist you in understanding and hearing your inner you. The exercise is simple, but make sure you are honest with yourself. No one is watching and this is the right exact time to talk out loud. If you decide to do the exercise, please follow the guide step by step.

Psychological Exercise

Take a paper and a pen, not a pencil. A pen is an essential tool, as you will not be able to erase anything that you have written. Usually, the first thing that you write is a very true statement and everything after is something that you try to change in order to look better. So take paper and a pen.

Stage One

Set yourself the time limit. Let's set a timer for 10 minutes. Do not cheat. There is no one to judge you, it is only you so keep being honest. Set a timer and there you go. Write down ten characteristics that you find the best about you. Basically, the ten best things that you have. Those can include physical and moral characteristics as well. Simultaneously write down ten things that you dislike about yourself the most. Ten things that you find not acceptable and that bothers you the most. In this case, as well you can include physical or moral characteristics as features.

You will think it is easy, but trust me to try it first. Also, pay attention to what is harder for you to come up with ten positive or negative characteristics? This is also important. Will you be able to complete the list within 10 minutes?

Stage Two

By the time you are here, ten minutes should have passed and you should be completed with the list. The second stage. Right across the characteristics, write down the reasons and purposes. Explain how this or that feature of yours assists you in life or distracts your performance. For example, if you have written that you are beautiful, right across of that write down how your beauty helps you? Most probably you will attract a lot of attention by that which is very good. For completing the second stage set the timer for 10 more minutes. Think well.

Stage Three

Another ten minutes have passed and you are still here. Now take two to three features both from the negative and positive lists, that you find the most essential currently. Once you have picked them up, write down how these features affect your daily life. Why do you think those two or three are the best qualities you have the most important for your daily experience. Then pick two or three negative features and write how do those features affect your daily performance and why do you think those are the things that distract you the most. Let’s have five more minutes for this activity. Once you are done come back to the following step.

Stage Four

This is the fourth stage. Do you obviously know how to make the plan right? If not, don’t worry I will tell you. Take four or six characteristics that you have picked up and made the plan for how to improve them. For example, if you have “kind” on your list, think of how you can improve and increase your kindness. What activities do you need to take up in order to increase the kindness level? Also what activities you need to take up in order to overcome laziness for example. Name them specifically. What are the activities that you have to take up in order to improve the features? How often do you need to take action? When are you ready to start taking up the steps that are needed. And finally what is your goal. For example what result do you want to have in a month’s time? Do you want to overcome your laziness absolutely or for 50%. Set the most realistic goal. Talk to yourself. You can once again set the timer for ten minutes.

Final Stage

There is only one step left. Once you are done with your plan and strategy write down one sentence. The sentence should begin with “I Am”. not I want to be or something like that, but “I am” and continue with the result that you have set a goal for. For example “I am a less lazy person and way more kind person, that helps me in the better negotiation with people.” Write the goal that you want to achieve as if you have already achieved it and you already are a more sophisticated person. Once you are done with the exercise write down the last sentences on the big piece of paper, write them nicely and put somewhere on the wall or in the visible place so that you can frequently check it and ask yourself a question "Do you like me now?"

This is the perfect and one of the best exercises to help you understand yourself way better. With this exercise, you will get to know yourself better, because you will discover the inner fears and inner desires. The main thing is that you have to be very honest and do not worry nobody is watching or listening. It is you in the dialogue with yourself and this is the best thing you can contribute to your further development and acknowledgment. You might as well come into the conflict with yourself, and it is okay, it means that you have started questioning your real inner self.