The lower the cognitive level, the more stubborn people are

You may have the experience that when you are talking to someone, sometimes you analyze a problem from all angles and make pertinent suggestions, but he doesn't listen to them and acts extremely stubborn.

For example, a girl is deeply involved in an emotional deception. Outsiders can see that the boy is lying to her, but the girl stubbornly believes that the boy really loves her. No matter what outsiders say, she will not change her mind, and even think that others are not Destroy them with good intentions.

For another example, you take pains to tell others that you need to learn more when you are young, gain more knowledge, and it will help your career and life, but he thinks that any culture and knowledge are useless, and you have to rely on money, Rely on relationships and luck.

Therefore, all your suggestions will not work at all, and he will always stubbornly look for reasons and stubbornly give up his efforts.

Whenever this time, when you argue with no result, you may feel a sense of frustration, and even shout with a beating of your chest: "I have never seen such a stubborn person, how can he not understand such a simple truth? Woolen cloth?"

A few days ago, I was discussing a problem with a partner. He suggested that an abnormal data must be the cause of the equipment failure.

I said don't worry, wait for me to check.

When I told him that the data was wrong, it was not because the equipment was not running properly, but because there were workers overhauling it at that moment, and at the same time, it was affected by many other uncontrollable factors.

I sent him the maintenance records and pointed out several possible factors, but no matter how I presented the facts, he decided that it was the cause of the equipment failure.

I was dry and angry, and I had the urge to drop the phone every minute.

After calming down, I wondered why he was so stubborn?

Perhaps a big reason lies in his cognitive ability. When he finds such a problem, his first reaction or even the only reaction is that the equipment is malfunctioning. No matter how you show him the evidence, he cannot change his opinion. , because he has no other opinion at all.

The lower a person's cognitive level is, the more single-minded his thinking, the more lack of judgment, the more stubborn he will appear.

There are many people who will say that there is nothing wrong with being stubborn, it means that a person is persistent and not assimilated.

What I want to say is that stubbornness here is not a positive persistence and adherence to principles, but when you are faced with different opinions, you are extremely sensitive, extremely self-esteem, and refuse to reflect, listen, and refuse to learn.

It will even evolve into excessive paranoia and stubbornness, and at this time, it will be difficult for you to progress and grow again.

There are also many people who regard stubbornness as a kind of self-promotional personality, as if one day, once they are not stubborn, they will follow the trend and become featureless.

In fact, this is a wrong idea. The mistake is that the stubbornness is regarded as a personality, and the edge and personality are confused.

Some edges and corners that hinder growth should be smoothed to make themselves more rounded, but this does not affect the formation of your personality.

A really good person will maintain his unique personality because they realize that so-called stubbornness is not a unique personality, but a personality defect to some extent.

It is precisely stubbornness that hinders the formation of a good personality. It often makes you more and more extreme, lacks tolerance and wisdom, and hinders your ability to learn, think and accept new things.

American psychologist George Kelly once put forward the "personal construct theory" point of view.

Personal constructs are concepts formed by personal past experiences, expectations, evaluations, thinking, etc.

When encountering the same or similar scenarios, a person's mind will present his previous experience to make judgments about the problem or scenario.

When your cognitive ability is low, the personal constructs in your mind tend to be monotonous and inflexible.

Therefore, when you encounter a problem, the solution provided by your personal construct is very narrow, but it becomes all you are, and you mistakenly think that this is all, the best solution, and there is no other possibility.

When you have high cognitive ability, more knowledge, more reading, more experience, and the ability to think independently, you will gain more and more knowledge and experience, and the richer your personal constructs will be. fuller.

In the face of the same question, you will not just stick to one answer, but there are several possible answers.

If it is represented by a set of mathematics, that is, the personal construct with low cognition is A, the personal construct with high cognition is B, and B includes A, in addition to A, there are other sets in B (such as C, D, E...).

For example, people with low cognitive level stubbornly believe that studying and going to college are useless, and that college graduates make less money than those who did not graduate from primary school. Their measure is only money.

In addition to money, people with a high level of cognition are measured by the choice of job opportunities, the exploration of their own potential, the improvement of spiritual interest, and diversified learning.

People with high cognitive ability are often more willing to improve themselves, so after a period of time, when you come back and look at your own countermeasures or thinking, you will often add more possibilities.

Because you have improved again, your cognitive level has improved again.

This is why the more one knows, the more aware one is of one's ignorance.

Because the higher your cognition level, the more you understand that the outside world is huge, knowledge is inexhaustible, you can't be stubborn, you can only walk on the path of learning and understanding humbly.

Therefore, the really powerful characters are very humble.

As Socrates said: "The only thing I know is that I know nothing."

Because of low cognitive ability, too small personal perspective, single idea, and lack of judgment, they are stubborn, and because of this stubbornness, they refuse to learn and listen to other people's opinions.

As a result, the road to self-improvement becomes stagnant, which leads to a vicious circle.

People with similar levels of cognition tend to communicate more easily and freely. When people with a large difference in cognition level communicate with each other, they often have the difficulty of "how time flies so slowly".

When old friends who have not seen each other for many years meet again, sometimes they feel that they have nothing to say. In fact, it is not the difference in their living environment, but the changes in personnel they have experienced. The fundamental reason is the continuous expansion of personal cognitive differences.

Some people have grown up at a rapid rate, and their cognitive level has reached a certain height, while some people are still standing still, so the cognitive level of these people is still the level of many years ago, and naturally they will use the thinking and recognition level of many years ago. know how to judge.

Stubborn people lack the ability to reflect, and even lack the ability to perceive in a timely manner.

Stubbornness is a manifestation of ignorance and lack of wisdom, while openness helps to enrich our knowledge and wisdom.

Psychologist Flavell has put forward the concept of "metacognition", which refers to the cognition of personal learning and thinking activities, that is, cognition of cognition, that is, you need to have self-reflection, self-awareness, and self-improvement. ability.

You know how you think, how your thoughts are generated and developed, how to look at the results of your thinking, whether there is room for improvement, and if so, you can involuntarily improve.

I used to be a very stubborn person, and I thought it was a characteristic of my character that I couldn't change, but as I continued to study, I found that I was really too small, and the ideas I had stubbornly identified were repeatedly overturned.

The more I know, the more I learn from excellent people, and when stubbornness reappears, I will automatically and timely be aware of and reflect on my actions.

Of course, this change is not easy, you need to remind yourself deliberately, and you need to make it step by step.

If you have recognized your stubbornness, but don’t know how to correct it, in addition to deliberately reminding yourself to reflect in time, the most effective and direct way is to study, read, and improve your cognition.

After a while, you will find that you relax, you can think about things from another angle, and you are no longer attached to yourself.

Read more, understand more, and think more. When you experience more, know more, and improve your cognitive ability, stubbornness will naturally improve.

When you are stubborn, you might as well remind yourself that perhaps your stubbornness is actually hiding a low level of cognition.