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The Art Of Not Thinking

Chapter One: Fuck-Giving

By Kelson HayesPublished 2 years ago 23 min read
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One of the biggest barriers to overcome in mastering the Art of Not Thinking is Fuck-Giving. The more fucks you give, the more thoughts you have, and the more things that hold you back from living the life you want to live. Where you find that Fuck-Giving is the first chapter of this guide to the Art of Not Thinking, it brings to light a rather relevant point you may find while reading this book and so I will address it once: if you find yourself offended by offensive language, YOU CAN'T QUIT GIVING A FUCK IF THE WORD FUCK HOLDS POWER OVER YOU. Or any other word for that matter. Like come the fuck on- the world is full of all types of shit you're not gonna fuck with and you're just gonna have to learn that it really isn't your fucking problem until you make it your problem.
With that being said, the most predominant goal of a Fuck-Giver should be to become Unfuckwithable. That is one of the first steps to Not Thinking- you can't stop thinking if you are forced to think about the things you fear and/or desire. For example, maybe you are in a failing relationship, or a dead-end job, or perhaps your boss is an absolute cunt, or your parents have been fucking with you, or maybe your future is uncertain and you don't know how you are going to make it in the world. These are the type of thoughts that hold you back, along with many others. It seems like the logical thing, to plot what you want out of life and seek it out, but that's the trick- our oppressors would seek to profit from our thoughts and sell them back to us for profits in the consumerist society we live in.
They feed into your fears and desires through the media and condition and regulate you through the propaganda on the television, ranging from the news to television sitcoms and everything in between. That doesn't even delve into the cultural and generational conditioning and indoctrination that we are all subjected to from birth onwards, or the traumas we experience along the way. You've been conditioned to believe that the way of life that you know is the correct way of life, if not the only way, and that any deviance is unacceptable socially. You don't have to overthrow the system to stop thinking about it, but not giving a fuck could lead to thoughts of this. The best slave is a blind slave, but once you open your eyes to the fact- if you come to that realization- it may seem like the only way to be truly happy is to be free yourself and overthrow our oppressors to destroy their systems of oppression and exploitation. For that reason, you may think a lack of Fuck-Giving may lead to this, but that is entirely not the case. You can be happily thoughtless and work a job cleaning toilets, just like you can be totally miserable working the same job. Your thoughts determine your mood rather than your environment- contrary to what you choose to believe.


It doesn't matter what your situation or surroundings are; you have to master yourself and become independent of them- let go of whatever attachment obligates you to them. Part of Fuck-Giving is the perception of good and bad, or positivity and negativity, in every context. You have to maintain the same resonance of your vibes when things are going good as when they're going bad and separate yourself from the moment regardless where you find yourself to become the active Observer. When you can let go of control you begin to experience life as it unfolds and you can better react to things as they arise with calculated clarity. When you start to see that things generally end up playing out however they do while you remain in a constant state of flux, it becomes easier to rely on certainty in uncertainty. Death is easily escapable when you stop running from it and you will find for yourself that it enables you to breathe easier and perform better too. When you quit Fuck-Giving you'll start recieving the things you didn't realise you needed and you'll realise you don't need the things you end up losing or lacking, but if you find yourself in need you can either seek things out, let them come to you, or create them for yourself. Either way, thoughts will do nothing to help you and they will only weigh you down in the heat of the moment.
So how do you quit giving a fuck? First you need to realise you have everything you need right now. Seriously. If you need it and you don't have it, you would be dead. The fact you are reading this is proof that you have everything you need because you are not dead. There may be a lot of things that you want, but don't have, but if you spend all your time worried about it you'll just be wasting the time between now and when you get what it is that you want. For example; maybe you are hungry. You aren't dead, so you just want to eat right now. Of course you need food, but it isn't imperative to your life right now- you aren't going to die yet. You want the food because you feel that your body needs it soon, but not immediately. You start to worry that you're going to starve soon and the longer you wait, the greater your fear becomes until it swallows you up. You can scavenge, or you can beg for money, you can go into a store and steal, or you can ask for help. You don't even have to beg. If you sit outside a shopping centre long enough, or a street corner, or anywhere in the town or city you live- someone will offer you food or money. It is inevitable. The closer you get to starvation, the more likely the help will come, so there's no need to worry about death by starvation.
Maybe it's not food, but your housing. Sleeping rough might not be desirable, but it's not something you can't withstand. Another thing you can do is prepare yourself for everything by taking advantage of a personal survival kit before you end up in the situation, or you can go about acquiring these things if you're completely destitute. Your whole life of what you need most can fit in a backpack, "thoughtlessly" packed. You may have to let go of some of the things that serve no purpose, but there may be room for sentimental things and items you gain along your journey in life. You need to prepare by realising the things you will need that you don't want to lack. That could be clothes, a gun, ammunition, money, tools, a lightweight tent, a blanket, robe, or sleeping bag, and things of that nature that you may need to rely on. If you have a car you have greater inventory, and you can fill a house or apartment with luxuries and whatever else you may want if you can afford those things, but ultimately you should be prepared to let go of anything and everything outside of what you can immediately take with you wherever you find yourself in whatever context. If you have nothing, then fear not, for you are as free as can be. You can acquire anything you need for yourself; you have no obligations, no ties, and nothing to lose, but everything to gain. The world is your oyster and you can seek out all that you desire, but mostly likely you are not free without any possessions or ties and these are things you do not appreciate in your possession.
Homeless people are a good example because some of them will wait on a street corner hoping to find someone or something that will feed them. That is a waste of time, because every other day of your life you never starved to death, and this will not be the day either. Rather than focus on your life in the present, you spent the entire time between meals worried about your next meal, to the point you won't ever enjoy the meals you eat at all for fear of what the next one will be. On top of that, the time you spend waiting or begging for food is time that you could have productively been living and potentially found what you need and more. Joblessness can be another example, because the longer you spend out of work the more hopeless you become. It has been ingrained into many people that you cannot survive without a job- that is not the case.
You could either spend the duration of your unemployment miserable, or you can appreciate the freetime for what it is. Even if you can't find work, that doesn't prevent you from being productive- you don't have to be depressed and do nothing with your life just because nobody wants to employ you. You can use that time to fulfill projects and chase goals that you didn't have the time to before and spend time with people you don't usually have the time to see. You may even find opportunities there that you wouldn't have. If you truly need help you can reach out to people, but don't go into life with expectations or you'll find yourself disappointed. The less you think, the easier life becomes- the less fucks you give the happier you are. A lot of the time it would appear that life plays out how it does regardless your outlook- the only difference it makes is the way people perceive you and the vibe you give off. You have to be the same person when you're doing good and when you're struggling and a lot of the time if you can maintain constant Chillitude it makes life easier and manifestations quicker and more frequent.



Your mentality is what matters most; that frees souls or keeps people trapped in their lives. If you find yourself truly alone surrounded by no one but yourself, are you free or lonely? I've been asked several times in my life, "but where will you sleep, how will you eat- what will you do?" regarding some of my life choices, jobs I quit, or places I've moved. The answer to that, is that it's a stupid question that only provokes unnecessary thoughts. It's rather early to say that in this book, but in time you will see it: some questions are just totally unnecessary. They do nothing but provoke thoughts that don't even need to be thought about. Theoretic thoughts have no use in the world of practicality.

Where will I sleep? On the ground somewhere comfortable at the very least, or under better circumstances in a comfortable spot that I can call a home, whether it's a bedroom, an apartment, a house, a friend's place, a cave, a grotto, a tent, under a tree, or even in a shopping centre outlet. You don't need four walls and a roof to survive. What will I eat? That's just a question of how programmed I am to the thought that luxury equates necessity- you can survive off of juice for a while, eating nothing more than tree bark and grass if you are in a great enough need, or you could kill, cook, and devour a small animal if you have the capacity to hunt and desensitization to skin it and peel the flesh from off its body. What level of "depravity" are you willing to sink to in order to exist? Most of the time this is totally unnecessary, but if you are trapped and lost- that is what separates you from someone who is just roaming around in the wilderness. What you perceive to be lost is really just wandering- it is just how you think about it and look at it. That goes back to "what will you do" however, which between all the questions is the stupidest: I am already doing it.

Another example of this would be a plane crash, or being stranded in the middle of "nowhere". Someone who was programmed to work and revolve around bills, debt, etc would be worried about how to return to their life, and they would have time constraints and worries for consequences of their detour and whatnot. If you master the Art of Not Thinking however, you would just be somewhere you could never have expected and you will simply adapt to the situation. If you are famished you can eat some grass, leaves, or tree bark. If you aren't dying of hunger, you could seek out better means of sustenance, or a more suitable location, maybe even gather your sense of directions to figure out which way you would rather go or if there are any nearby places you know of. Maybe you could even build a structure and take advantage of the situation to use it as a means of chilling off grid. if you would rather go back to society, you could try and formulate a plan of getting back, unless it is impossible, in which case a master of the Art of Not Thinking would simply accept it and let go of what is unachievable, or risk everything in the endeavour because who gives a fuck either way.
A Non-Thinker is the greatest kamikaze because they either get what they want or they don't- if it doesn't destroy them then they will continue in doing whatever they see fit. The worst case scenario is death, and that is simply a release from existence. If the Non-Thinker isn't killed then they have either accomplished their goal or turned away from it, but either way they have moved on to something else. Ultimately, nothing matters beyond what you allow to matter. The only thing you have control over is yourself, so learn to let go of your attachment to everything outside and around you. As a general rule, I would say that you should not use the Art of Not Thinking to become a sociopath or an evil entity, because that will ruin you equally as much as overthinking will. The point of Not Thinking is that if you are your most genuine self, everything will fall into place better than you could ever plan it yourself, but being successfully evil requires planning, plots, calculations, and many other thoughts- lest you just fuck yourself. Evil never pays off, and overthinking kills you. You might think sociopathy and Not Thinking are connected, but you would be wrong- a true sociopath believes their own lies and has allowed their thought to justify and convince them of their lack of wrongdoing, where a Non-Thinker has already calculated and allowed for the possibility of thoughts amd perspectives and come to the conclusive decision to let go and follow the most neutral path to achieve true peace in their lifetime.

The point of not thinking isn't to gain riches, fame, or power- these things only matter to people who think. As long as you think you will never acquire these things and even if you do, it won't ever be enough. Not thinking frees you from the need to hoard material things and helps you to realise what you truly want in each moment to thoughtlessly pursue it. Whether or not those things are part of your life or not is irrelevant, because your life experience is everything that matters most of all. One aspect of Not Thinking is that life is like a linear video game, but linear video games are just glorified movies that you take control over. If you let go of controlling the outcome and situations of the game and stopped trying to predict and chase after what you don't have, you will find that it falls into place and that you have everything you need as you need it, almost as if it were by design.
They say you should look before you leap, so it could be misinterpreted that I imply that you should leap before you look, but this is not the case. The point is rather than contemplating the jump, to actually take account of your surroundings and realise you don't need to jump- why are you in a situation where you need to jump? The chances are likely that you don't even need to jump in the first place. Most likely, you put yourself into a situation by overthinking and rushing to the point that you made an optional path the only path and it has turned into what you perceive to be a dire life or death situation. If you find yourself pushed into a corner where your only options are to fight or run, why would you let it escalate to that point? Firstly, you don't have to push or encourage a situation to that point, but secondly- if you find yourself where those are truly your only options, why fuck it up worse by thinking?
For example- if you feel like you're about to throw up while you're walking down the street, just do it. Dogs do it all the time, you don't have to think about right or wrong, but it's probably better to throw up in the grass. The rain will clean it, or maybe something will eat it, or whatever happens happens, but once it leaves your body it isn't your problem anymore, but someone might try to make it your problem. How you handle the situation is up to you, and there are an infinite amount of ways things can go, but generally you can feel what is best in any given moment. Returning to the example at hand- it seems like common sense that you don't throw up on someone's carpet- go outside or do it in a trashcan or something, but whatever you end up throwing up on don't worry, cos that thing can be cleaned, or if you gotta pay someone to clean it don't be upset- just be happy you aren't sick anymore.
There's bigger things to worry about, like maybe you find your spouse cheating on you with your best friend. Some would think you need to beat the friend up, or abuse the partner for their infidelity. Nah fam; they were both never truly people who belonged in your life and that was the ultimate proof. Just let them go-you don't need them in your life, unless you truly don't care. If they still want to be with you and you love them both- what is the problem? It all depends on what you give a fuck about. If you want to share your spouse with your friend or be in an open relationship then just do it, but if you don't then let them go. If your partner leaves you for someone else then let them go- there's no point clinging to something that was never yours to begin with. People always seem to put so much emphasis into the importance of temporary things in their lives that they fear the loss on a life-or-death level, seeing everything as an ultimatum. Life goes on, and when you remove yourself from the situations as they unfold it goves you the mental immunity that gets you through it effortlessly. Threats bounce off you and fear and anxiety can't scathe you.
Prolonging the thoughts only prolongs the suffering. The more genuine you are to yourself the more genuine the interest of the people you attract. People seem to put so much emphasis into being in relationships that they make themselves miserable when they aren't in one, just like when you are not happy in a relationship and you don't love them anymore- why stay and make yourselves both so miserable that you hate each other? You shouldn't have to think about how much you love someone or worry about how much they love you if it is genuine- that overthinking is what ruins the relationship. The same way that you can ruin a relationship by overthinking, you can also put yourself into a doomed relationship when you think about how to attract someone you simply desire the aesthetic beauty of without any other basis for the attraction. You plot out how to present yourself and put on a mask, but when you get comfortable the mask begins to slip and they see you for who you truly are- perceiving you as totally unlovable because that is how you thought of yourself which led to the initial mask you put on.
The trick to finding a perfect partner is not to look for one- which is also good advice on how to live your life. You should ultimately live for yourself, because you'll always be trapped with yourself every waking second of your life regardless who surrounds you. The people you attract by being yourself with no ulterior motives will truly love you for who you are and there is no way of knowing the things they can help you achieve. Maybe they might offer you a job or help you find work, or become a future roommate, or maybe they will save your life one day. You never know where networking will take you in this interconnected web of souls we call life. You can't go into a situation expecting or plotting around things because life is chaos and there is no way of knowing what will happen, even one minute from this exact moment. Your job gives you a schedule set in stone that can be subject to change- maybe a terrorist organisation will target your job and they may tell you that you can't come to work that day even though you were scheduled, the same way they may call you in because someone called out. It can be nice to have a basic idea of what is probable to happen, but nothing is guaranteed and nothing should be expected. That leads to a happier life. This is especially true when you develope and hone your ability to react on the spot without thought and cease to think so heavily about all of life's infinite possibilities.

This is why one of the first steps to the Art of Not Thinking is the subject of Fuck-Giving. If you can recognise all the things you give a fuck about and how none of them truly impact your life, it is a step closer you gain towards the thoughtlessly genuine reactions of a Non-Thinker. You don't need a job to survive, the same way you don't need a lover, a house, a vehicle, or anything at all- the earth literally provides everything you need to survive and if you didn't have the necessary minimum you would already be dead. If it comes down to it you could even steal from the store to survive in desperation and then what's the worst that could possibly happen? The police would arrest you and give you free food and housing, but if that's the case and that's how bad things are and you're willing to do that- there are so many other things you could do to acquire the bare minimum of money to eat a meal.

You could walk around and adventure, meet people, ask them if they know anyone that needs some work or if they have some money so you can eat. Walk into stores and ask them for help, maybe even apply to a couple and tell them of your situation. You could dumpster dive, meet up with friends and hang out, maybe even ask them for help- stop being so desperate and miserable. When you can realise that and let go of the inherent need for stability and guarantees, then you are a step closer to Not Thinking. If you can't let go of those things, it's okay, this will come in time as you warp your mind and deprogram yourself to the reality and facts you were programmed to believe in. The beauty of Not Thinking is that it isn't a step-by-step process- it is the end result and let-go of all aspects at once, training your mind, bit by bit, to realise the pointlessness of reality so that you can find the meaning you originally gave it before you traded your hopes and dreams for realistic expectations in the pursuit of those things society trained and conditioned you to crave.

You can survive anything as long as you do what you need to in order to survive- the more minimalistic you are the easier it becomes. How will I feed my family? Well, if you can't feed them, they will find another means. That isn't your problem, the same way they don't think how they are going to take care of you. What if my family abandons me? Well, they never truly loved you beyond your ability to take care of them. If that fact bothers you, then you should stop thinking about how shallow your situational "love" is and start doing things to make sure they don't abandon you instead of worrying and lying to yourself about the shallow nature of your life. Most of the people you will fuck only want you for your money or your genitals- the same way your attraction to them is primarily physical, unless you form the relationship through genuine vibes that can only be produced through the genuine thoughtlessness of living in the moment true to yourself. The same thing is true for friends and a job too- if you fake your experience and lie you will find yourself out of your element forced to pretend to be something you aren't, and it will leave you miserable. Even if you deny it as much and as hard as you can- you will always know the truth.
So the gist of this chapter is to recognise when you find yourself getting too attached to things outside of yourself- Fuck Giving. When you can recognise yourself giving unneccesary fucks, it will make it much easier to distance yourself from such thoughts and further help you to deprogram yourself from experiencing them. This is one of the main key points of Not Thinking, though it is not the only one, or even the most important. All aspects of this book must be simultaneously combined if one is to achieve the inner peace of total thoughtlessness that can be gained from this insight, if it can be called that. So this was the breakdown and explanation of Fuck-Giving, and it can be re-read as many times as is needed until you fully grasp the shit I just spoke, and as I said before- each step is necessary, but not in any particular order. With that being the case, you may end up reading this book several times before you fully understand and implement it, or you may not finish it because you chose to reject it, or you may only read it once and take whatever you do from it in any of those possible circumstances. No matter what though, I don't give a fuck and neither should you, as is the whole message of the book.

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Kelson Hayes

Kelson Hayes is a British-American author and philosopher, born on 19 October 1994 in Bedford, England. His books include Can You Hear The Awful Singing, The Art of Not Thinking, and The Aerbon Series.

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  • Shadow052 years ago

    Oh! interesting.

  • Bonnie2 years ago

    When you can recognise yourself giving unneccesary fucks, it will make it much easier to distance yourself from such thoughts and further help you to deprogram yourself from experiencing them. -Amazing

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