The addicted

Hi I’m Justin, This is a short story about addictions and how to deal with your loved one that may be addicted. This is from my heart and personal experiences. First of all stop telling them that they are bad or no good they already know that . Second be patient with them. The key to overcoming addiction is with love. Your loved one is feeling they don’t belong or unconnected to his/her family or people around him. He/She has learned the wrong way and will continue to do the same thing over and over again no matter what you say or do. You have to connect with them,show them love, and spend time with them, and show them there is other ways to live and be happy. When you hurt them or put them down you are only pushing them further away. Do you know that an addict just wants to be loved. They just want to belong to something and make a difference. Right now the drug dealer shows them more love and concern then the addicts own family. (You may ask how is that true?). Well for starters maybe every time they buy there drug the dealer tells them be safe and take care. As opposed to you saying (fuck you im calling the police you are a piece of shit!). Also sometimes they may call to buy there drug and the dealer may say yo you got a family go home maybe tomorrow. That shows they also care about there well being. Now, when you see them you probably insulted them and told them there a loser. So please try to understand if you go to Dunkin Donuts every morning and get coffee and others suddenly ask you to never go there again that feeling is the same feeling the addict is facing in there life. Or if you are a marijuana smoker and suddenly are told not to use it ever again imagine that feeling and there’s a good chance you would not be able to do what others are asking of you. The addict has learned the wrong way you also perceive it as wrong or bad however that may be the only motivation they have at the current moment to get up and accomplish things for that specific day. I’m not justifying there use of narcotics or heavy drugs I’m just asking for compassion instead of judgement and hate. Most likely if there like me they won’t fit in anywhere. They don’t fit in with their family because the drugs are not tolerated or accepted and the family will tend to make there lives harder while on drugs, the last thing a family does is show love, they just preach and tell them there killing themselves. Families do not want the addict to feel ok or in a comfort zone while using so most families or friends will make chaos around the addict because of their hatred and/or anger in them, that there loved one is addicted. They don’t fit in with the dealers crew because deep down inside they want more for themselves. They don’t fit in with the addicts because there not proud of their drug use. They want to be free and clean, they just need a miracle in getting them to that point. I’m sure if you stop and think most things in life just kind of happen. Like for example when you get pulled over instantly you see lights and next thing you know you are receiving a ticket trying to remember if you were speeding or made a wrong turn or forget to use your turn signals. With the addicted it’s kind of like that, one moment everything is going great and next thing you know your whole life has been turned upside down. Please find it in your heart to move past the anger, past the hatred, and past the disappointments and actually help your loved one not by interventions, not by threatening Baker Acts against them. Not the conventional way that actually scares them and leads them to more drugs use feeling there is no hope. Take them to the movies. Take them to dinner. Take your time and give it to them. Tell them you want them to experience a drug free life and you will dedicate your time to spend with them to help them by doing activities and enjoying drug free moments with them in their life until they wake up, and see what is achievable if they would just dedicate their will and mind to change their current state of being an addict. Love wins, pay it forward, Please go show some love to someone who knows pain, and has suffered so badly because of there addiction. Also please quit stating things that people say which some believe as truth like your never going to change until you want too. I’ve wanted to change my entire life. I cry daily. I pray daily and I want to ask you (What would you do? Give up and die? Or keep trying as I do.). Sorry to disappoint anyone this is my struggle and I believe it will help the addicts and their loved ones somehow move forward and get closer to their breakthrough. ❤️