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Crawling Back To You
More times than I can count, I've sat wondering who I truly was beneath all of the shame. I wondered if I was brilliant or if I was truly destined to remain in this child-like state of confusion. Walking the world wondering my purpose as I hide in the shadows of who I knew I wasn't, yet who I'd always been. I'd been dripping in a victimhood so carefully built by those around me who claimed that their love for me meant more than what society views love and friendship as today. I spent so much time in the comfort of being the victim that I hadn't paid any attention to the fact that while these people were building this victimhood, I was handing them the nails and hammer.
By The Darkest Sunriseabout a year ago in Psyche
The Weight of Unspoken Goodbyes
Have you ever felt a sharp, persistent ache in your chest, a grief that lingers long after a significant ending, simply because there was no real goodbye? No final words, no last hug, no clear closure. It's a particularly insidious kind of pain, an invisible wound that many carry in silence. The world around us, with its well-meaning advice, often urges us to "move on," to "get over it," as if grief has a neat finish line. But what if there's no finish line because the race never truly began, no clear farewell to mark the end? This article is about my journey through that unique, silent grief – the profound loss without closure – and how I learned to navigate a world that demanded I move on, even when I couldn't.
By Reality Brooabout a year ago in Psyche
Why Does Anxiety Feel Worse at Night? Causes and How to Calm It
During the day, life is loud. Conversations hum in the background. Notifications ping. Tasks pile up. Your brain stays busy with to-do lists, responsibilities, and distractions. But then the sun sets. The world goes quiet. And for many people, that silence brings something else: anxiety.
By Richard Baileyabout a year ago in Psyche
You can't draw water from a rock
“It is quite clear that between love and understanding there is a very close link...He who loves understands, and he who understands loves. One who feels understood feels loved, and one who feels loved feels sure of being understood.” - Paul Tournier
By Feral La Femmeabout a year ago in Psyche
Memory, Trauma, and Healing:
Trauma leaves more than scars—it rewires the brain, reshapes our memories, and lingers in the body long after the moment has passed. Whether it’s a single catastrophic event or prolonged emotional abuse, trauma can alter how we store memories and experience the world. But the good news is: science now offers deeper insights into how healing can happen. In this article, we’ll explore the intricate relationship between memory, trauma, and emotional recovery, diving into the latest neuroscience, psychology, and evidence-based healing approaches. How Trauma Affects the Brain and Memory When a person experiences trauma, the amygdala, the brain’s fear center, becomes hyperactive, while the hippocampus, which is responsible for organizing memories, can shrink in volume. This imbalance leads to what’s often called "trauma memory"—memories that are fragmented, vivid, and emotionally overwhelming. Unlike normal memories that fade and become organized into a cohesive narrative, trauma memories can feel as if they’re happening right now. That’s why survivors often relive events through flashbacks, nightmares, or intense emotional reactions to triggers. Implicit vs. Explicit Memory in Trauma There are two key types of memory at play: Explicit Memory involves conscious recall—facts, names, events. Implicit Memory involves emotional and procedural memories stored without conscious awareness. Trauma is often embedded in implicit memory, making it hard to articulate but deeply felt. A person may not remember every detail of an abusive experience, but their body might tense up when hearing a certain tone of voice or entering a familiar room. This explains the phrase, “The body keeps the score,” made famous by trauma expert Dr. Bessel van der Kolk. Why Trauma Survivors Struggle With Memory People recovering from trauma frequently ask: Why can’t I remember what happened? Or why do I remember it too vividly? Science gives several reasons: Dissociation: In moments of extreme stress, the brain may "shut off" awareness to protect itself. This can block explicit memory formation. Overactivation of the Amygdala: When fear circuits are hyperactivated, the brain prioritizes survival over recording detailed memories. Sleep Disruption: PTSD often disrupts sleep, especially REM sleep, which is essential for memory consolidation and emotional processing. Healing the Brain: What Science Suggests The good news is that the brain is neuroplastic—capable of change and growth throughout life. Healing from trauma is not only possible but scientifically supported. 1. Therapy That Targets Trauma Several forms of therapy are effective in helping people process trauma: EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing): Helps rewire the brain’s response to traumatic memories. Trauma-Focused CBT: Combines cognitive restructuring with gradual exposure to trauma-related memories. Somatic Experiencing: Focuses on bodily sensations to release stored trauma from the nervous system. 2. Mindfulness and Meditation Studies show that mindfulness meditation can shrink the amygdala and strengthen the prefrontal cortex, increasing emotional regulation and memory clarity. Even 10 minutes a day can begin to shift brain patterns linked with anxiety and stress. 3. Journaling and Expressive Writing Writing about traumatic experiences has been proven to help organize fragmented memories and reduce PTSD symptoms. It allows the hippocampus to better structure and "file" the event away, helping the brain distinguish the past from the present. 4. Sleep and Recovery Improving sleep hygiene is critical. Quality sleep aids in emotional processing and helps the brain rewire painful memories into manageable stories. The Role of Connection and Compassion Science also validates something survivors have always known: healing happens in connection. Human connection—whether through therapy, support groups, or close relationships—can regulate the nervous system and reduce the sense of isolation that trauma often brings. Empathy and compassion from others help rebuild trust, not only in people but in oneself. Conclusion: Healing Is a Journey, Not a Destination Trauma may leave a lasting imprint, but it does not define your future. Through therapy, self-awareness, connection, and compassion, it is entirely possible to reclaim your mind, your memories, and your life. The science is clear: your brain can heal, your story can change, and you are not alone.
By Shoaib Afridiabout a year ago in Psyche
