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Art of ignoring what others think
Regardless of what people think, to be honest, it's my dream, because since I was a child, I have been a person who puts so much emphasis on other people's thoughts about me that like this, when I was a child, I once went to eat at a restaurant with my parents and I wanted to ask for a cup of chili sauce for me to eat but I didn't dare to open my mouth to ask for help, so I had to beg my father to help me because I was afraid that when I opened my mouth and called the owner, the people around me would hear and they would start to have thoughts about me like: "Oh, why is this guy so bothered? Why is it so demanding?" I'm afraid of those thoughts and I've always been like that since I was a child, so when I grew up, I had a very harmful habit, that is, I always try to please others, whoever asks for something, the vast majority of me agree with everything. Ignore your thoughts and follow what others want. For example, if someone calls me to sell, I will listen to it all, but I never dare to hang up in the middle, Or if I go to eat at a certain restaurant and people make the wrong dish that I ordered, I will also sit and eat it all, but I don't dare to ask people to do it again and this one has a lot of influence on my emotions right at that very moment. I thought it was okay because doing so would be fun for both parties. But when I go home and think about it, I feel very frustrated because I don't have the need to do those things and I also know that I need to change. But every time something similar happens, it repeats that old habit over and over again, and it is also very fortunate that after so many years of playing that role that pleases others, recently I have completely escaped from that role and lived true to my desires. It's very comfortable because I can say everything I want and most importantly, I can still maintain a good relationship with the person on the other side. Therefore, I want to share with you my ways of thinking and ways of doing things so that you can overcome the feeling of satisfying others but still keep the love and still maintain quality relationships. Specifically, there are four lessons to help me do that.
By Mr Lex2 years ago in Psyche
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By Psyche_os2 years ago in Psyche
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By Psyche_os2 years ago in Psyche
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By The Seraphic Society 2 years ago in Psyche
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By Thanh Dan2 years ago in Psyche
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By Thanh Dan2 years ago in Psyche
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By The Seraphic Society 2 years ago in Psyche