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The Quiet Destroyer: Why the Covert Narcissist Is the Most Dangerous of All
Most of us are taught to watch out for the loud, arrogant narcissist—the one who dominates every room and demands the spotlight. We see the storm coming. But what about the quiet, unassuming person who seems so humble and supportive, yet leaves us feeling confused, anxious, and constantly questioning our own sanity? This is the world of the covert narcissist, and their danger lies not in the storm, but in the subtle, creeping fog that erodes our reality.
By Sunshine Firecracker™2 years ago in Psyche
How Narcissists Weaponize the Legal System
Narcissistic abuse is a form of emotional and psychological manipulation that often goes unnoticed, even by its victims. It is insidious, pervasive, and, in many cases, escalates into more overt forms of control and harm. One of the most disturbing manifestations of narcissistic abuse is when narcissists weaponize legal systems, particularly the police and courts, to further their manipulation and control over their victims. This article explores the dynamics of narcissistic abuse, how narcissists use the legal system as a weapon, and what victims can do to protect themselves.
By Sunshine Firecracker™2 years ago in Psyche
Why Embracing Feeling Different will Lead you to your Tribe?
Being or Feeling different can be challenging, but trying to be ourselves in an environment where we are misunderstood is even harder. We may find it difficult to express ourselves without the fear of being judged, made feel like something wrong with us, being labeled or even rejected. It often starts from childhood, and for many of us, it gets carried on into adulthood. We fear to open-up to others, sometimes unconsciously or we do not know how to connect with others, leading to loneliness and a sense of not belonging. Furthermore, our behaviors and attitudes are so ingrained into the identity that we have come to accept for ourselves due to others perception and projection that we intentionally carry these unhealthy beliefs in our life. However, as we grow older, our life paths can diverge, friendships fade, and there comes a point where you realize you may no longer have a lot in common with those, we used to call home. It is then that we start to understand ourselves and who we want to be, carving our identity and ultimately leading to finding like-minded people.
By LaPlume Verte2 years ago in Psyche
You Might Be An ENFJ Personality Type If...
1. You see patterns in things around you. This is a broad one. Many “NF” and “NT” types will also see patterns in their environment pretty quickly. ENFJ’s may see a pattern in human behavior quicker than other people who are not this type though. There is a motive radar that they possess in order to get a read on people. They have quite an interesting ability to discern other people’s patterns or habits.
By Rowan Finley 2 years ago in Psyche
How to Stop People Pleasing
One day in my childhood, I decided that I would be the source of everyone's happiness. There was a guilt so perfectly fashioned in my chest. Yet, I'd been oblivious to the fact that it never even belonged to me. For years all I wanted was to be seen, loved, and heard. The majority of my life was fueled by the desire to be loved. This took me down many dark paths that bring me shame to this day. There is grace in my deliverance, however. A moment that I can breathe. Only I always come back to the shame. Always. This same shame gave me the motivation to discover who it truly belonged to. I have been an astronomical part of my downfall. While I am aware of this now, I did not get myself to this point alone. I had the help of so many, only now in adulthood it is my responsibility to mend these broken pieces of my life. No, it isn't fair, but it is necessary.
By The Darkest Sunrise2 years ago in Psyche
Stand On The Shores Of Forever
Introduction This could have been a stream-of-consciousness entry for the Vocal "Unfiltered" Challenge but while it is nothing but stream-of-consciousness I want it to be just a calming piece for anyone who drops into it. Everyday life can put a lot of pressure on all of us, and if I can take a little of that away, then I will have succeeded with these words.
By Mike Singleton 💜 Mikeydred 2 years ago in Psyche
Why Do I Overshare Whenever Somebody Listens?
Do you find yourself pouring your heart out to anyone who pays you any positive attention? Have you ever had a co-worker or acquaintance ask you a question and you proceed to tell them about the traumatic thing that happened to you at age ten and how it affected the trajectory of your entire life?
By Patrick Meowler2 years ago in Psyche
Kindness Is A Tool
When my twin sons were five years old and in infant school, I would take them to school every morning. I was an involved parent. Our classroom was overcrowded with only one teacher. Their class had more boys than girls. It would be an issue for an inexperienced teacher.
By Annelise Lords 2 years ago in Psyche
ADHD Manifesting in Relationships. Content Warning.
Being ADHD is one thing. Being ADHD and maintaining lasting relationships is a totally different story. For myself, during high school and even into university, I went through friends like a packet of crisps and whilst I didn’t know it at the time, having been diagnosed with ADHD as an adult, looking back on what has become a borderline traumatic but self defining experience, it is abundantly clear that the primary contributing factor to that lifestyle of jumping friendships was down to my undiagnosed ADHD. Growing up with this lifestyle - with any lifestyle - can really impact your self belief, your belief in the natural state around you and belief in what is the normal and right way to be treated by people around you. To expect people to eventually leave you genuinely makes you too scared to become close to people in the first place, which still affects me even now at 25. It was only when I got the diagnosis (22-24yo) that I not only opened up a little more, but I maintained friendships and even ended up accidentally surrounding myself with like-minded and equally neuro-spicy people. It’s like a gaydar, but for spicy brained people… neuro-spicy-dar I guess?
By Megan Kingsbury2 years ago in Psyche
When There’s No Light at the End of the Tunnel
Growing up, we’re taught to believe that every difficult journey will eventually lead to a happy ending. That no matter how long and dark the tunnel may seem, there will always be a light shining at the end, waiting to guide us out. And maybe that’s true for some people. But for those of us who have endured the pain of a toxic, narcissistic mother, the reality is much different.
By Sunshine Firecracker™2 years ago in Psyche
