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Spot 8 Signs of Narcissist Abuse

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By Som DuttPublished 2 months ago 5 min read
Spot 8 Signs of Narcissist Abuse
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Have you ever been in an abusive relationship? If so, you know just how painful it can be. The narcissist is a person who has no empathy for others and only cares about themselves, but don't worry! There are some tell-tale signs that can help you recognize when your partner is being abusive towards you.

The narcissist has a tendency to be critical and judgmental towards you.

You might have noticed that your partner is a harsh critic of your every move, thought or word. They'll criticize you for something as small as wearing the wrong shade of lipstick or something as major as not getting along with their family.

The narcissist doesn't just let things go--they make sure they get under your skin so much that they become a permanent part of who you are. If it's not one thing, it's another: "You're always late" or "Why don't I ever see any pictures from our vacation?" The criticism can be subtle at first (or even completely unintentional), but over time becomes more pronounced until it becomes an unavoidable part of your life.

You have come to expect criticism and insults from them.

You may have learned to expect this, even when it is undeserved. This is a sign of narcissism, and it's also an indicator that your partner has chosen you as their target because they are abusive.

If you find yourself making excuses for their behavior or saying things like "I know he really means well," then this is another red flag that something isn't right with your relationship!

Your partner's behavior towards you is hurtful, rude or mean-spirited.

If your partner's behavior towards you is hurtful, rude or mean-spirited, then it's likely that they are in an abusive relationship. You may have been told that their actions weren't abusive and they were just being honest with you; but if the way they treat you isn't changing despite repeated attempts to fix things or make amends, then there is a problem.

If they don't apologize when they hurt you and don't see their actions as hurtful or wrong (even when confronted directly), then there is no hope for repair between them and/or themselves. They blame others instead of taking ownership for their own behavior--and this can lead down an extremely destructive path: self-loathing behavior like suicidal thoughts or self-mutilation becomes more common among narcissists' victims because these individuals feel hopeless about ever improving their situation despite all efforts made by loved ones on behalf of victims' well-being."

Your partner lies about things that matter to you.

If your partner is lying about things that matter to you, it's time to take a step back and ask yourself if this behavior is normal. If they've lied about something they said or did, then there's a possibility that they're doing it as a form of manipulation.

Lying is unacceptable in any relationship; however, when the lies are being told to you as part of an abusive relationship pattern--especially when they are used as leverage against you--it can be even more damaging than just telling one little fib here or there. If someone has been lying consistently over time (and especially if they have been manipulating others), then it may indicate narcissism or other personality disorders like sociopathy.

Your partner is unable to feel empathy for your feelings or needs.

Empathy is the ability to understand and share another person's feelings. It's a sign of a healthy relationship, but if your partner has lost touch with their own empathy for you, it could be a sign of emotional abuse.

Empathy isn't the same as sympathy or compassion--it's more than just feeling sorry for someone else; it involves taking action on behalf of others. For instance, if you've been through an abusive relationship yourself and want to help someone else who is being abused by their partner in any way possible (like offering emotional support), empathy will come naturally because your own experience with abuse has shaped how much empathy/supportiveness comes naturally in such situations as well as knowing what types of things might help them heal faster than others might think would be helpful right now."

They withhold affection, attention and praise despite your efforts to make them happy.

If you're in a relationship with a narcissist, it can be hard to distinguish between friendship and abuse. In fact, some people believe that the distinction is largely arbitrary--that being friends with someone who is also abusive is just as bad as being abused by them.

That's not actually true. The difference between healthy relationships and unhealthy ones can be subtle, but there are plenty of signs that let us know when we're dealing with an abuser:

They say they love you but it doesn't feel the same way you do. They don't express loyalty in return and your relationship feels transactional rather than organic.

If the narcissist says they love you, but it doesn't feel the same way you do. If the narcissist uses words like "love" or "crazy" when describing their feelings for you, but then doesn't reciprocate those feelings in any meaningful way. If your relationship feels like a transaction rather than an organic part of your life together (i.e., "You are owed everything because I am paying for all of this stuff").

It is possible to recognize these signs so you can exit an abusive relationship before it gets worse

If you are in an abusive relationship, it is important to recognize the signs and get help. You can start by making a plan for leaving the relationship.

It's also possible to recognize these signs so that you can exit an abusive relationship before it gets worse. There are many different ways someone could be abusive, but here are some of the most common ones:

Narcissist abuse happens when someone has too much control over your life and has no regard for how they're treating others around them. This person might have unrealistic expectations or expect others t do things their way without question or consent (or any communication at all). They may also be jealous easily, especially if their partner has had relationships in the past with other people who were not involved with them romantically or sexually.* In addition there may be physical abuse too like hitting/beatings/choking etc...


These are all signs that something is wrong in your relationship but it doesn't have to be too late for you to get out. You need to work on yourself and create boundaries if you want a happy future.


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Som Dutt

I write about Psychology and Philosophy. I am the top writer in Psychology and Philosophy on

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