Opinions are like Onions

People! Stop worrying about the opinions of others. People only have opinions to steer focus off themselves. Opinions are like onions, they are just there to make you cry. People don't worry about their self image unless they are steered in that direction by someone who is more insecure than yourself. "Friends" don't surround themselves with people who make them feel insufficient. The misconception of attractive girls wanting to be around not so attractive girls to look better is something that I'm sure some girls use but on the flip side it is used by the "not so attractive" female to pick up the crumbs from the flocks of guys who come around for the attractive ones.

How about the person who when first entering a conversation belittles themselves to get it off the table? The funny thing is, is that most people are dealing with their own insecurities. And until they are pointed directly at what makes you feel insecure, they don't even notice it to begin with. Or for better terms, "aren't as shallow" as the person who thinks that beauty is skin deep. Just because you may judge how others look, might not be the way everyone else does. It's more than likely the reason you became the way you are in the first place. People don't like to be judged, and that starts from an early age. So if that is the kind of person you are, then that is why you felt alone and used things like food to find comfort. Now instead of just being happy, free, and fun to be around, you are stuck in the world you created for yourself. Someone who hates the skin they live in and can't stand the voices in their head telling them that everyone cares that they have a few extra pounds to stare at.

Another funny thing is to think that everyone thinks the same way. Would there be multiple brands or styles of anything in life? We would all be driving the same vehicles, and living on Edward Scissorhand's street. The fact that we are all different is the exact reason people need to quit wasting their time talking about what others might be thinking and find out what they are really thinking. I know it sounds tough, but yes, quit being so selfish and actually find curiosity in other people's lives. The same way you want them to stop everything that they're doing to listen to you talk about your own. Life is tough! That is a statement that is as true as the sun is blazing hot. I never understood why people want others around to feel as they do. "Misery loves company."

If you are down and can't seem to pull yourself out of the trenches, seek council. Find someone who gets paid to assist you through your trials and tribulations. Figure out your insecurities and how to deal with them. You can't enter your friends domain and puke out all over them what has destroyed your self image and makes you sick because the first thing you see is happiness in them. Try asking them about themselves and how they've been doing, and if you actually listen to the answer there could be microscopic bits of information that could change your life. Listen to the things that they do to keep a happy home or relationship. Figure out how you are different from them and if you think their life is one worth living, then try to adjust some of the things you do to model the one in front of you. Don't disregard the fact that they have happiness and you are just a rain cloud of misery. Opening umbrellas indoors is bad luck. So quit your whining indoors and get outside with that bad weather. In other words get the hell out. No one wants to hear that bullshit and the first thing for your information that happens when you leave is everyone talks behind your back. It is true. You become a serious laughing stock.