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Men in midlife crisis: How to use the phase positively

Women suffer from menopause and men from the midlife crisis. The consequence is that the old has to go and the new — which can also be totally crazy — has to come. Certainly, this can be an opportunity, but it can also destroy a great deal.

By OmaraPublished 2 years ago 3 min read
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The desire for change …

… grows in many men around the age of 50. This can be, for example, a new job, the motorcycle license or other things. However, the midlife crisis becomes a problem for men when they start looking for sexual adventures, for example on Parship.

Even if the term midlife crisis often leaves a negative impression, this crisis of meaning in midlife can be a real enrichment. New impetus can be brought into life through the desire to still want to experience something, to tackle new challenges and to change the entrenched structures in order to create new perspectives.

A chance for love: change

Couples counselors and relationship coaches explain that the midlife crisis is all about making the most of the time you have left in your life. If a couple grasps this opportunity and works together, then a whole new couple dynamic can be achieved. With this, the partnership can grow and gain strength.

But it is not quite that easy. Many a relationship has already failed because of the man’s midlife crisis. His desires, such as extreme hobbies, constant mood swings and career aspirations abroad, represent a real test of endurance for love. In addition, not every woman is ready to turn her life upside down.

Tip №1: Talk about the change desires

Everyone knows that change is part of life. However, in that case, it is important for the relationship to respond to it as a team. A mid-life crisis can suddenly shake up life, leaving both partners perplexed and uncertain. The partner is especially affected by this if her partner does not talk about what is going on inside him, what his hopes and his fears are in this situation.

For this reason, it is important that the man shares his thoughts with his partner and does not withdraw. In the long run, withdrawal and bad mood represent poison for love. In addition, men should not present their partner with a fait accompli and so, for example, the pros and cons for a job-related move should be discussed together.

Men often go through their crisis alone

This is not the case in most cases. Rather, many men deal with the fear of mortality and the need to get everything out of life once again on their own. In the end, they then confront their partner with the sudden novelties. By doing this, they deprive their partner of the chance to support them and at the same time give her the feeling that she is no longer important.

Symptoms by which “his” transition to old age can be recognized.

The symptoms are many and here is only a small selection of them:

x life is suddenly “boring” and he feels meaningless and worthless

x he starts to develop strange sexual interests

x he is unbalanced, that one thinks of manic depressions (partly childish, then again aggressive, tearful and this gladly also in the minute cycle)

x various “aches and pains” occur

x he suddenly becomes vain

x he starts to flirt desperately with young women and is firmly “convinced” that the “chickens” fly on them

x etc. etc. etc.

How long does this madness last?

It is commonly assumed that the midlife crisis lasts about 10 years. That’s about as long as menopause lasts for women. It becomes a walking nuisance during this time, except for a few good days. What can a woman do? The brutal solution would be separation. But that is not right. There was the story with “in good as well as bad days”, right? Now woman can show whether she has character and keeps her oath or not? But, to be precise, basically she can’t help him! Because for many men a slight cold is already “his death sentence” and accordingly helpless they show then with the upheaval of their body and soul. But often they also do not want help, but secretly enjoy their existence as a “tragic, suffering figure”.

Certainly in extreme cases only the healing step helps, but this should be well considered. Even if this time demands a lot of strength, patience and understanding, it will pass. He needs this phase to develop and mature. After the midlife crisis, many men only become real men who were only “big boys” before. Thus, the midlife crisis could also be seen as a second puberty. Whether it is worthwhile to persevere with a “crisis man”? No one can answer that, except yourself. But he deserves a chance, because after all there is a good reason why you go through life together.

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