Loving Someone with Anxiety...

Loving someone with anxiety isn't an easy thing. People with anxiety automatically assume that everyone is going to leave no matter what the circumstances. We are fragile people, even the slightest of things put us off, which could result in us being the ones who ruin everything. People like me and many others are fighting with something that inevitably is out of our control. Insecurity is something that comes along with us, whether it is in relationships, friendships, and even being out amongst people we don't even know. We won't tell you what's wrong no matter how many times you ask because we don't want to bother you with our preposterous thoughts and our foolish worrying. Therefore as a substitute, you're being pushed away before you even get the chance to decide if you want to stay or not.

WE ARE WORTH FIGHTING FOR. People with anxiety will make it one hell of a fight, but I promise you we are worth it. You know what they say... "the best people are worth fighting for" so please don't give up too easily, because it will amazing once the fight it over.

All we want is for you to listen. Our anxiety will cause us to jump to conclusions or come up with the irrational thoughts and situations, and I promise you that you will be thinking "how the hell did you come up with that." Just let us go on with our rant, and listen.

I promise that we trust you, we are just scared. Chances are that if we are with you, then you are one of the only people we truly trust. Our minds jump to these insane conclusions that terrify us to a point of no return. It's not our relationship we don't trust, it's every other person that our minds have made us think is trying to ruin us.

There will be days when all we want to do is stay at home, curled up in bed instead of going out. You need to understand that it's hard for us to go out all the time, it makes us nervous and sometimes we just can't do it. Especially on a night out where we don't know anyone. It will end in one of 2 ways, us awkwardly sitting off to the side alone or having one friend the whole night... vodka.

Accept our apologies, even if they don't make sense. It doesn't matter whether it is the slightest thing. We could drop something, call you at the wrong time, or it could be something that has nothing to do with you. We will apologize for everything, afraid of the idea that we would make you upset. Just accept them and tell us it's okay.

Once we know you accept the fact that our anxiety is going to come with the relationship, we will love you with every fiber of our being. There are a lot of things that scare us and put us on edge, there is one thing that doesn't scare us, that is showing the person that means the most to us how much we love you. It will take us some time to show it at first, but once we do, you will be amazed at how much love can pour out of one person.