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How I Learned To Stop Comparing Myself With Others And You Can Too

It’s natural to compare yourself to others. We do it all the time. But what we don’t realise is that we are comparing our lives with a life that has been created by someone else.

By David BurrowsPublished 9 months ago 4 min read
How I Learned To Stop Comparing Myself With Others And You Can Too
Photo by Mehdi MeSSrro on Unsplash

The Dangers of Comparing Yourself to Others and Why You Shouldn’t

The way we see other people is not how they really are and it’s not how they want to be seen. It’s just how they want us to see them, which is a skewed version of themselves. We have no idea what their struggles are or the amount of effort they put in each day to be the person they want you to see them as.

So when you compare yourself with someone else, don’t forget that you’re only seeing a fraction of who they really are, and it’s not fair for you or them if you judge your life based on this comparison.

Why It’s so Hard to Stop Comparing Yourself with Others and What You Can Do About It

When we compare ourselves to others, it is easy to start feeling like we are not good enough. However, there are a few ways that you can stop comparing yourself with others and feel better about yourself.

1) Think about the ways in which you are better than the person you are comparing yourself too.

I'm better than you because I'm more flexible.

I'm better than you because I have more experience.

I'm better than you because I have a broader skillset.

I'm better than you because my work is more creative.

I'm better than you because I have a higher emotional intelligence.

I'm better than you because my work has more impact.

2) Remind yourself of your successes and achievements.

It's easy to forget about your successes and achievements. It's even easier to focus on the negative things in life. But if you want to get ahead in life, then it's important that you remind yourself of your successes and achievements.

By reminding yourself of your successes and achievements, you'll be able to focus on the things that are important in life. You'll be able to see the world with a more positive outlook and be more productive at work.

3) Spend time with people who make you feel good about yourself and remind you of your strengths.

We often need to be reminded of the good things that we have done and the good qualities that we have. Spending time with people who make you feel good about yourself and remind you of your strengths can help you to stay motivated and confident.

It is often challenging to find people who can make us feel better about ourselves because they are not always around. In these cases, it is worth investing in a personal mentor or coach who can help us to keep our confidence high and our motivation levels up.

Tips on How to Become More Self-Confident

1. Recognise and accept your flaws

This is the first step to self-improvement.

As we grow older, we realise that we are not perfect. We have flaws that need to be recognised and accepted. We can't change them, so instead of running away from them, we should work on them and improve ourselves.

2. Step outside of your comfort zone.

It is important to get out of your comfort zone every now and then. It will not only help you grow but also give you a chance to explore new things.

There are many benefits of stepping outside of your comfort zone. You can learn new skills, gain new experiences, and meet new people.

In order to find the courage to step outside your comfort zone, it is necessary that you take small steps towards it. For example, if you want to try a new food but are afraid that it won't taste good, just order something different from what you usually eat or go with someone who has already tried this dish before.

3. Speak up for yourself

Many people are not vocal about what they want or need because they feel that it is not important. However, if you don't speak up for yourself then you will never be able to get what you want.

People who are vocal about themselves and their wants and needs are more likely to get what they want.

4. Increase your social interaction.

Social media is a powerful tool that can be used to increase your social interaction. It can be used to stay in touch with friends, family members and even business partners. Social media has become an important part of our lives, it has the power to change the world. It is now a necessity for every company to have a social media presence. A lot of companies use social media as their main form of advertising and marketing.

The best way to increase your social interaction is by joining different groups on Facebook and LinkedIn

and following people on Twitter who are interested in the same things as you are. You should also try using hashtags when posting on Instagram or Twitter so that more people will see your post and interact with you.


There are many different ways to increase your confidence. Try out some of these methods to be confident in yourself! Take action. It’s important to take action and not be scared of what others may think of you. Do something brave, like joining a team sport, You can boost your confidence by simply buying a new outfit. You will realise how much more confident you really are.


About the Creator

David Burrows

I am a freelance photographer and I also write blogs. I love to share my knowledge and passion for photography with others. I have been a photography blogger for the last year. I write about travel, people, nature, and photography advice.

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