Fixing Anxiety without Medications Part 1
3 Things to do today to get a hold of yourself
I have been an in the closet about my anxiety for my entire life. When I turned 30, I finally came to the realization that I have to get a hold of this as I laid in my bed gasping for air and freaking my husband out. Anxiety had taken over my life. It had completely ruined it actually. I was on edge. I couldn't balance my checkbook. I blamed everyone else and then wondered why no one wanted to be around me. It made me feel as if I was stuck in life. Worrying about one thing or another. Frustrated with the fact that my life wasn't as I had intended it to be. This was a crazy cycle of my life with no end to it.
I had been to the doctor and was put on anxiety medication because I thought, as many do in this day in age, that a pill can fix all. I thought that I could literally fix everything wrong with me in 30 minutes. I don't know who I was fooling thinking that but, it was bullshit. I was an empty shell, walking through life. My husband and children were both very unhappy and I had to do something. Anything worth it is going to take time. Whether it be a relationship, a job opportunity, or your inner self. It will take time. Time to heal. Time to learn. Time to just be. Now I am not a doctor and I am not telling you to get off of your medication. Please consult your physician first. I just know that this is what worked for me to get out of the constant cycle of wanting to get everything done at once to ending up in tears because I just couldn't figure out how the laundry got so high. So if you are interested in "getting your shit together," please keep reading.
In order to get a hold you anxiety, you have to change some things. Which sucks because most people with anxiety hate change. A routine is like the bible for a person with anxiety. Here are some easy changes that need to be made sooner than later.
1.) Join Emotional Anonymous meeting
The best thing I ever did, is reach out to a therapy group. Whether it be a $20,000 psychiatrist or a free remote phone call, please reach out to someone that will not hold, what you think is judgement. Having a support system and knowing that you aren't the only person that is dealing with this will take the weight of the world off of your shoulders. Holding all of these feelings, that are repressed, is not healthy. Get them out. I joined an Emotions Anonymous. It was a 800 phone call. I was at my end of the rope. I couldn't handle it anymore. It was a 30 minute micro meeting. They gave me free materials to follow. They didn't make me share and all people were muted so it literally was you talking to a bunch of strangers that have no idea what is going on in your life. Not your neighbor next door that may tell the school board. I was in the privacy of my garage when it all changed with this one phone call. IT IS FREE! Make time to do this for yourself. If you feel better, keep going. It will open doors to new ways of thinking.
2.) Read The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle
To say this book changed my life is an understatement. My sister had told me about this book for three years in a row. I was a hard ass and said, "No. I am over my past. It doesn't effect me." Blah Blah Blah. Well after I went to my first meeting and cried my eyes out for 1 hour, I immediately called my sister. My sister kind of listened to me for a second as I told her I am in therapy now and all healed. The same story different day. But to me it was a different story for a different day. I wasn't the same. I felt so much lighter and I was able to clear my head. She then, referred my back to this book. My sister is a bookworm, but I didn't want her to feel like I was ignoring her help. (Something I learned in group) As soon as I hung up the phone I got on trusty YouTube and searched for FREE Audio books and the title of the book. There were literally 30. I grabbed my headphones and hooked up my blue tooth and listened for 2 hours while I was working with data entry for work. It was a life changer, although getting through the first chapter was rough. I dredged on and by the end of the book, I had a complete different outlook on the way I, singled highhandedly, pushed all of these people away and sabotaged my own life. If you you are sitting there, dealing with anxiety on a daily basis, feeling helpless, please read this book.
3.) Get a Journal
If you have anxiety it is probably because you have been through some trauma in your life and need to get it out. How it made you feel? Why you think the way you do? Have you ever spoken with a friend or someone and continue to ramble on and on and you can tell in their eyes that they are over you? That is what is great about a journal. You can write for hours without feedback or judgement. This is an absolute necessity for your mental health. Setting aside time to take care of your thoughts so your words don't become spaghetti is a liberating experience. No one can cut you off. No one can say that you are wrong. No fights. Just thoughts. It's literally $1 for a notebook or you can down load the app for free and speak your thoughts into it. Just get it out.
This is what I did my first week of dealing with my anxiety. I cried a lot and didn't say much to anyone. I listened. Which sounds crazy, as anxiety does to you, it makes you feel invisible. How am I going to fix myself by listening to other people? Trust me. Don't fight or argue. Just listen and do these 3 steps for a week. You will be amazed at what can be accomplished.