Don't try because you're afraid of losing?

Sister Lily is our company's most popular person, but we have been very strange, in terms of height, she is not tall; in terms of appearance, not outstanding; usually, do not see her and the boss get closer, but I do not know what she used, always get valued, for three years in a row, a promotion and a raise have her share.

Because of the fear of losing, so do not try. A few days ago, she took me along to meet a client, nothing important, just the daily maintenance of relations. After sitting down, coffee was served, exchanging pleasantries, and the client inadvertently mentioned that he was busy talking to someone about a cooperation project recently. When the other party finished, Sister Lily saw the right moment and asked without losing her poise, "Has the contract been signed? Is it possible to give our company to do?

The client hesitated for a moment and said, "I already have an interesting unit, and I've almost finished talking about it, so I'm sorry, but I may not be able to do it this time. Sister Lily didn't give up and continued, "I just want to know how I can turn no into yes.

After the buffet with the client, Sister Lily did not go home, drove back to the company, wrote out a detailed plan overnight, and took me to the client early the next morning. The other party still warmly and politely received us, but after reading the program or some difficult to say, maybe a little difficult this time.

Almost a sleepless night, Sister Lili's face with the usual smile, let people can not detect a trace of tired look. She took over in a firm tone: It's okay, we are here today to solve these problems. You just need to tell me how to make it. Even if we don't end up working together, at least I fought for it.

After repeated discussions, and modifying the program, in the end, Sister Lily froze later, from the hands of many competitors to snatch this single.

The day she signed the contract, she invited me to dinner, a small celebration. I asked her where she got the drive and tenacity to be so persistent, she said, whether you want to get the same thing or to achieve a dream, there will always be such and such difficulties and obstacles, and how many people's first reaction is since the big picture will be determined, then give up, the next opportunity to say. But, where is the right opportunity? I just asked one more question than the others, "Is it possible to change", as long as there is a little hope, I want to try.

"The chances of winning are not good, you have to try to be a hero, in case you fail, how embarrassing." I blurted out.

"Dare to try, this is the capital of the young, there is nothing to be ashamed of. Haven't you heard the saying that the most painful thing in life is not failure, but that I could have, but didn't." Sister Lily said that she just didn't want to regret not having tried her best.

So, I understood why it was always her who was instrumentalized.

Looking at my admiring expression, Sister Lily lifted her glass and clinked it with me, saying that she was not born with the guts. During her college days, she also had low self-esteem inside. The school organized a volleyball tournament, she practiced in middle school, but she felt that she was not tall and was afraid of being laughed at, so she did not dare to sign up. But there were too few girls in the class, so it was hard to put together a volleyball team. The class president talked to her twice, and she finally agreed to be a substitute. She came on the court in the last few minutes of the game and scored several points in a row, with waves of applause from her classmates.

There are so many examples of this in our lives. You want to raise a pot of greenery, but never before, think about some difficulties, or forget it; you want to study for the exam, but the thought of studying day and night or may not be successful, give up; you want to run, but worry that they do not have a scientific method, run a few days can not lose weight, so they gave up; leadership to give you a new job, you have never done, afraid to make mistakes, and put off ......

All the efforts that could make you better were stifled by you at the beginning. If you have not been trying to take the first step, how can you master the method of cultivating green plants, how can you enjoy the sweaty sound after running ...... Are you afraid of your inexperience, afraid of sudden changes in the middle, afraid of things still not ending as expected in the end, or simply afraid of losing, afraid of being ridiculed, you dare not try?

There are also too many similar examples in telling us that many times, those difficulties are not as difficult as imagined. Just as Sister Lily told me, "I told myself countless times, try again, if this level can not pass, then give up. However, each level just broke through. The hardest thing is just the first step you need to take to try."

The great athlete known as "The Flying Man" said, "I've missed at least 9,000 shots, I've lost no less than 300 games, and 26 times people expected me to put in the winning shot and I missed it. I've had one failure after another in my life, and that's why I've been able to succeed. I've never been afraid to fail. I can accept failure, but I can't accept not trying." Jordan says that in the face of all the hurt and adversity, his magic formula is the words his parents taught him growing up: "Anyone can have bad luck, and your job is to figure out how to turn bad things into good things."

And this is a lifelong lesson for each of us.

We all have our dreams, we all have goals we want to reach, and we all have what we hope to become, but in the process, there will always be various interruptions. Instead of shying away, why not take advantage of your youth to give it a try? Many things, not because they can't be done are what make people lose confidence, but because of the loss of confidence, it becomes difficult to do.

The distance between you and success may sometimes lie in the fact that you have tried that one more time than others.