Do You Complain Often? This Habit Could Affect Your Brain!
Are you a professional drama queen or king?
Do you often complain about the weather, traffic, work, family, friends, health? Do you feel unloaded and feel better? Think again! Complaints are more dangerous than you might imagine…
Do we complain about the sake of complaining?
We often complain, but we rarely get anything out of it. Usually, we repeat the same story of resentment day after day about various events and facts, but the changes are delayed. We don't even know exactly why we complain - maybe just out of habit. We complain in an attempt to get rid of frustrations and release negative emotions, but we rarely complain in trying to solve what is bothering us.
For example, it has been shown that 95% of consumers who complain about dissatisfaction with a purchased product do not complain to the manufacturer because they fear that this process will be unpleasant and will consume too much time and energy.
We do the same when we are dissatisfied with the people around us. We rarely go and tell them in front of us what bothers us. Rather, we get on the phone and complain to a friend.
Lamentations affect our memory and other brain functions
Besides being counterproductive, lamentations also affect our brains. When we complain, we let negativity take over us.
This causes stress, which affects our brain. Studies have shown that just a few days of stress can affect the center of the brain that controls emotions, memory, and the autonomic nervous system (hippocampus), endangering its ability to produce new neurons.
Over time, the hippocampus shrinks, resulting in declining cognitive functions, such as memory or the ability to adapt to new situations. It doesn't sound very encouraging, does it? This habit could affect your brain!
It's not just the fact that we often complain that it affects our brain. Listening to others complain is just as harmful. You may have heard the theory that when others complain, they consume your energy, that they are some kind of energetic vampires.
At first, you may have thought that these were just stories - how could someone affect you just by complaining about you? Here are the scientific studies that support this theory. Exposure to just 30 minutes of moaning and negativity can physically damage your brain, according to a Stanford study.
Professor Sapolsky, the initiator of this study, showed that certain hormones that are released in the body when we are stressed (glucocorticoids) cause neuronal cells to contract, and prolonged exposure to stress can even lead to death of these neurons.
Just as tangling without results affects us negatively, if we complain usefully, we can get positive results.
When you say what bothers you in a situation or a man and you manage to get a solution, to find a solution, you feel liberated and proud of yourself. Useful crying, when you need it and who needs it, helps us. It's all about not complaining just for the sake of complaining.
How do we get rid of our lament and that of others?
Every learner has a lesson, so you can get rid of the habit of whining in vain with a little willpower. After all, it's about protecting your brain and health… First, try to understand what caused your frustration and upset, then try to look at it from a different angle.
People or situations that cause you problems can help you learn and grow. Try to stay away from the problem, focusing on something else. Taking a distance, you can see things objectively and find better solutions. Always finding a solution can help you turn a negative situation into a positive one.
Do you complain often? This habit could affect your brain! On the other hand, when someone complains to you, show them that you understand them, express your sympathy, and then try to divert the discussion to another topic.
Don't try to persuade someone who has the pleasure of complaining. Don't even try to be right just to finish faster, because he will come back to you to complain. Set boundaries, assure him of your support, but let him know that you can't listen to his cries indefinitely. And don't forget, look at the full side of the glass, and for the empty one, find solutions!